For today’s Friday challenge, I’m wondering about the long-suffering chumps out there and your hopium habits — what got you unstuck?
I have some sympathy for the emotionally paralyzed, especially the limbo when you have Naugahyde remorse and think you’re really in reconciliation. You ride that unicorn carousel for awhile. I get it.
I realize that not everyone leaves cheaters. Not everyone gets a choice — they’re left. And sadly, in some cases, many stay years longer than they should, even when it’s obviously hopeless. The cheater has checked out for their Schmoopie, they’ve admitted they’re gay, they’ve destroyed you financially, they’re threatening to run with the kids to another state.
What made you finally act in your best interest?
What got you unstuck?
Was it a badass sister driving down from another state to drag you by the ear to a lawyer? Was it some final indignity that pushed you over the edge? An epiphany?
Or did you watch it all unfold like a bad dream and didn’t put up much of a fight? Could anyone have gotten through to you?
The point of this blog and this community is to UN-stick the newbie chumps. To overturn the RIC assumption of Reconciliation Uber Alles. Maybe we can figure out the pressure points together and save some folks a lot of unnecessary pain.
I’ve run a similar Friday challenge a few years ago. This one goes out to the new crop of newbies.