So, I was reading an article about this woman who created a TikTok video of elaborate instructions for her husband to go grocery shopping. The video went viral, which then sparked a debate about “strategic” or “weaponized” incompetence.
“Actually, what this husband is doing is exaggerating their own incompetence and exaggerating their own incapability to force the labor that they don’t want to do … onto their partner,” he suggested.
A husband tricking his wife into holding his hand through an activity he should be able to do likely results in her taking it on herself and absolving him of the responsibility, @notwildlin explained, adding it’s “an investment in the man’s future self.” In theory, it will both let him off the hook of contributing to the household and will set the bar so low that anything he does contribute is seen as “incredible.”
Or, as we say around here, Bitch Cookie!
Yes, strategic incompetence is a thing! The article I link to goes on to discuss it as a toxic power dynamic beyond gender roles and household chores and brings up race. But you could definitely apply it to cheater/chump dynamics as well.
Oh, you fein an inability to do your therapy homework? Let me underline those articles for you. I can download the audio book! Oh, you can’t take your children for the last 7 weekends, but you will this week? Let’s throw confetti! Wow! What a kibble of caring!
Oh, and what are RIC euphemisms other than weaponized incompetence — WAYWARD? FFS. Yes, you didn’t cheat, you just incompetently navigated yourself toward another set of genitals.
CN, you got any strategic incompetence to report?