Dear Chump Lady,
I love scrolling mindlessly on my Facebook and Instagram feeds because they’re usually filled with DIY projects, crafts, and other cool stuff.
Recently, however, I’ve been getting all sorts of clips with the background song “Unholy“. And I am driven up the walls with this… Glorification of, or at least nonchalance regarding cheating.
Mummy don’t know daddy’s getting hot
At the body shop
Doin’ somethin’ unholy
He’s sat back while she’s droppin’ it
She be poppin’ it
Yeah, she put it down slowly
Oh-ee-oh-ee-oh, he left his kids at
Ho-ee-oh-ee-ome so he can get that
Mummy don’t know daddy’s getting hot
At the body shop
Doin’ somethin’ unholy
Something “Unholy”, like it’s just merely not holy — which would be too much to aim for anyway, as mere mortals.
So for a Friday challenge, I would love to hear everyone’s cheating-enabling songs that drive them up the walls!
Hope you and the community have a wonderful day,
HatefulChump
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Dear Hateful Chump,
Thanks for the Friday Challenge! Yep, that’s a residual effect of the chump experience — it’s harder to ignore, let alone ever enjoy, cheater protagonist pop culture.
Curse of enlightenment, really. Empathy. It’s the same reason you can’t watch racist mammy tropes in Gone With the Wind, or dumb bimbo hijinks on Benny Hill. (Who EVER thought this was funny? And I’m showing my age. Probably no one remembers him… good.)
But until the narrative changes, not enjoying the wink-wink-naughty-naughty frivolity of fucking around on your wife with sex workers will mark you as a prude. A wet blanket. The SNL Church Lady. The hairy-legged feminist who can’t take a joke.
Speaking of jokes, the meme here made me laugh. Apologies to the country music lovers. The genre is famous for cheating songs. Love the whole Carrie Underwood, wallop-their-truck-with-a-baseball bat oeuvre, however.
In fact, one of the BEST cheating songs — it’s my whole blog in one perfect song, complete with karma! — is Faron Young’s “Your Time’s a Comin’“. (Youtube link here, Spotify below. Check it out!)
So, CN, what cheating songs make you crazy?
TGIF!
For what it’s worth, the full music video for “Unholy” makes it clear that the wife realizes what’s going on and she and the singers are springing a trap for her wandering husband.
Sam Smith’s silly covid meltdown aside, his music is usually on the side of chumps and I thought the video was intentionally “Brechtian” or something Brecht called “gestics”– my favorite theatrical device. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uq9gPaIzbe8
So, ahem, here’s my academic-y spiel on it: One of the deliberate effects of gestics is, as Brecht put it, to “get the enemy [audience] at close quarters and then unleash a seismic reaction.” The device is basically a prank or a trap to suck the more morally relativist members of the audience in, get them thinking what’s happening is an exoneration of being a callous piece of shit, get them tapping their toes, then flipping the message sickeningly into a ditch and holding up a mirror.
The song Mack the Knife in Threepenny Opera by Brecht and Weill does something similar since it starts out sounding like a sexy romanticization of a sociopathic gangster (Brecht’s Nazi analogy) but the killer’s deeds become more revolting with every verse, at least in the original German. Unfortunately most English versions of the song are whitewashed to remove the punchline/trap. Anyway, you can imagine the effect if a cheater heard “Unholy” on the car radio, thought it was FW flattery and grooved to it but then went on to watch the video to have a “WtF?” moment. Plus there’s a fun trap for homophobes in it and a bit of a socioeconomic theme since rich creeps tend to flagrantly perform their creepery in front of “the help” (hotel staff, Uber drivers, the auto shop workers in the video) unaware that the “little people” may be morally disgusted to the point of exposing and destroying the offender.
Tada, end of lecture series. 😉
This is exactly what I got from the song and the video, I really enjoy it for that. The use of unholy sounds like an amplifier, it’s not mundane or trivial, it is desecration. It nicely aligns with my experience that the “little people” are very happy to tell what they know about the cheaters.
Yeah they basically call the FW a cheating sack of s**t while he lies (dead?) on the stage. Also, Sam Smith’s “not the only one” is a devastating portrayal of the excruciating pain faced by us Chumps. Not glorifying cheating at all from my perspective.
Funny how I was thinking about this subject and aparticular song by Hot.
“The angel in your arms this morning
Is gonna be the devil in someone else’s arms tonight”
She’s married to a cheater so hey, let’s all cheat!
CL, the ex loved Benny Hill and probably still does, but who knows.
Me and Mrs Jones, Billy Paul
Our family name is JONES and as a child, men would sing this song to my mama so often, I thought it was her theme song. I thought it was cool for many years til I grew up and asked Mama about it. She said it was overwhelmingly annoying but she used the charm offensive. I did not know the song was about cheating until I was a teenager!
Yup, it’s a “cheater protagonist pop culture” and we’re just living it. It’s the proliferation of songs (books, cartoons, movies, whatever) that wink-wink-nudge-nudge the whole idea of getting chumped. The world shrugs and tells you it’s not a big deal because “the heart wants what it wants.”
So many “ha ha, I’m cheating” songs out there to pick from. Nowadays when one crosses my path, I screw up my face like I’ve just sucked a lemon and change the radio station. But back when it was fresher, I had to pull over to the side of the road to sob uncontrollably because the radio, playing a selection of Christmas songs (I thought I was safe with Christmas songs, of all genres!) and I was listening, actually listening, to the lyrics of “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus”–a song that, my whole life, I had taken to be generally wholesome.
There have been other cheater pop culture songs in my life, but none have affected me to the point where I had to stop driving so I could cry like that stupid Christmas song. I was freshly triggered for myself, sure, but I also acutely felt myself lose more of my innocence.
“I saw Mommy kissing Santa Claus,” isn’t a song about cheating. It’s a song about a kid seeing his parents kissing and not realizing that Santa is actually his Dad.
I know but it didn’t hit me like that. It hit me from the observer’s (the child’s) perspective: gosh, what would Dad say if he knew?
Okay, fair enough.
And this is precisely why this particular song is now triggering to me…Mommy doesn’t kiss Santa Claus anymore, after he boinked the elf in his sleigh for two years.
“Pray For You,” Jaron and the long road to love.
Ha ha ha ha ha Faron Young ‘alone with you’ is what the FW sent (via social media) to schmoopie no1 (THEY WERE JUST GOOD FRIENDS GODDAMIT WOMAN). I stayed for 12 years after that DDay!
Newbies don’t be me. Time is precious, Your life is precious…. save it ❤️
Lips of an Angel,
“ Honey, why you calling me so late?
It’s kinda hard to talk right now
Honey, why you crying, is everything okay?
I gotta whisper ’cause I can’t be too loud
Well, my girl’s in the next room
Sometimes I wish she was you
I guess we never really moved on
It’s really good to hear your voice saying my name….”
*Hits skip trac on
I HATE that song. HATE.
Hate that song
Barf 🤢 🤮
Yup this one all the way. Side bitch texts it to fuckwit on the regular. Twu Wuv…..
I literally don’t listen to music anymore…
I actually had to avoid music temporarily after my divorce–too many emotional land mines. Fortunately, it wasn’t for long, but there are still a few songs that feel like a momentary punch in the gut.
Me too. Unless it’s really angry music!
The Chicks Gaslighter album was a lifesaver for me! Fleetwood Mac pretty good too. “Go your own way” “Silver Springs” ‘Little Lies’ ‘Dreams’ all great break up songs and songs about being cheated on.
Love Stevie Nicks! So help me if side bitch decides to co-opt any Fleetwood Mac for her “Wuv Language” before I am outta here I will need John Wick’s number…..
Love love LOVE Fleetwood Mac/Stevie. “Stand Back” has been a fave for me.
I heard a music hostorian talking about Fleetwood Mac. Apparently, You Make Loving fun was written so Christine McVie could taunt John McVie over an affair she was having (with a sound technician, if memory serves.) According to this historian, infidelity with the those two was commonplace, plus in the relationship of Buckingham and Nicks as well. Go Your Own Way was a fuck you to cheating Stevie Nicks.
Silver Springs is epic. There’s a live version on Youtube that I really think Stevie was casting on Lindsay the whole time. It’s every chump’s dream.
Same! After 9yrs I still can’t listen to country🤮🤮🤮
I used to love singing with music. Klootzak would shut me down from singing songs and I just stopped listening to most music for a very long time. I miss it a lot. I have times when I can play music in the car by myself but I am so out of habit about even putting music on that I just drive in silence. It’s one of the things he took from me that I enjoyed and want back.
This happened to me, too. I used to be a singer. I’m trying to get a bit of my voice back after many years out of practice.
I seriously do not either! Well, no radio. It’s a station called smile FM. It’s Christian music it keeps me in my bubble. But I like it
I don’t know. It amuses me that most cheater anthems are annoying, overwrought junk like this– the kind of thing I’d dial away from on the car radio before even hearing the lyrics. Let FWs be exiled to only listening to barfy canned crap. Plus there are so many stellar songs that condemn or mock cheaters and side dishes. You can imagine how, when a top artist releases an anti-FW hit, the artist’s work becomes a flinchy “no go” zone for FWs forever after.
Ewww, that reminds me of when I found emails from cheater-ex to schmoopie, telling her, he wished he’d met her before he’d met me. Fuckwit.
FW told me that he married the wrong person and never should have married me. Right after telling me about all his cheating. WHO, exactly, married the wrong person? Cuz I beg to differ…
Oh yeah. This one gets me every time.
Came here to mention this one. So gross.
It Wasn’t Me by Shaggy.
I hate having my intelligence insulted. Given a binary choice I’d rather get bullshit excuses. This song simultaneously makes light of cheating and treats you like an idiot.
Ex MIL’s favourite song 🤦♀️
I can actually find the humor on this one because it perfectly encapsulates the absurd mindfuck of dealing with a cheater and their lies. He mentions all the ways the cheater is caught red handed in the act and still claims “it wasn’t me,” haven’t we all been there? No matter how much evidence you have to the contrary FWs will always claim they didn’t do it! So I always interpreted as an anticheating song in the sense that it seems it makes fun of how fucking stupid cheaters are when they try to lie.
That’s a fair point. When I think of it like that it makes me think of Blazing Saddles. You could think it’s a racist movie but it actually paints the racists as idiots that end up being saved by a black man who they come to appreciate.
Great movie and man do I love and miss the wonderful late Gene Wilder!
Oh! It happened! Having sex on girlfriend’s marital bed is in really poor taste. And when it’s done knowing the husband is already suspicious AND owns a security surveillance company – it’s simply moronic. Goofy said “what a mess”.
I was totally unaware until then that he had such a gift for understatement.
I always took that song as mocking the idiocy of cheaters.
Agreed and it’s pretty funny because it’s so true. “She even caught me on camera.” Couldn’t we all imagine a scenario where a cheater was watching the video evidence of them cheating and still claiming “It wasn’t me! I didn’t do it!”? In fact, I’m sure there’s plenty of stories of this exact scenario. They’re a special bunch.
Good point. I just posted about that song. I didn’t think of it as poking fun at cheaters but you’re right, it does. My favorite song these days to pep me up is Fuck You by CeeLo 😊
That one’s on my playlist.😁👍
That song tops my list but when it first came out I was young and well, not thinking it through. I was a huge Shaggy fan and thought it was kind of funny 🙄 Unfortunately so did my ex husband. We used to sing “It wasn’t me” when we did something like forget to run the dishwasher to be cute to each other. So now I f’n hate that song for several reasons: it’s mysogynistic AF, I’m mad at myself for thinking it was ever funny, and also that the FW ex and I used the lyrics to be jovial to each other. Must’ve been even funnier for him knowing he was out there doing the same thing but he never got 🎵“caught red handed creeping with the girl next door”. Fuck that 🎶
Girl Crush
Benny Hill omg I can hear that trumpet theme music in my head. Wasn’t misogyny so HILARIOUS??!!
The whole dumb romance “heart wants what the heart wants” – mined frequently by songwriters/lyricists. Basic glorification of narcissistic gratification – soooo prevalent.
Does make you wonder about that particular sub-section of humans who are undeniably creative and talented, but emotionally infantile.
This classic – Saving all my love for you by Whitney Houston.
“A few stolen moments is all that we share
You’ve got your family and they need you there
Though I’ve tried to resist being last on your list
But no other man’s gonna do
So I’m saving all my love for you”
So much empathy! What sadness! Poor lady, she’s just in Twu Wuv! Her love is nothing like what his wife is feeling – that entrapping witch.
The love of the other woman is Real TM.
Yeah that one! The entitlement melody! We are supposed to feel the OWs heartbreak but she knows fully he has a wife and family ! Poaching bitch! and the Fk wit with balls for brains!
It’s not very easy living all alone
My friends try and tell me find a man of my own
But each time I try, I just break down and cry
‘Cause I’d rather be home feeling blue
So I’m saving all my love for you
You used to tell me we’d run away together
Love gives you the right to be free
You said be patient just wait a little longer
But that’s just an old fantasy
As a child I loved singing this song into my hairbrush! It’s still great in the sense that it’s a pretty song with great vocals, but the lyrics suck! Oh man, were we always just conditioned to be mistresses or chumps? These fucking songs!
I sang my little heart out to Whitney while playing with Barbies (Barbie was getting some. No chump there!) Also “Secret Lovers”.
Like Winehouse’s side chick and cheating anthems, Houston’s untimely end doesn’t sell the mentality of “tolerance of cheating” very well. After her death, Bobby Brown admitted cheating rampantly and claimed (whether it’s true or not) that Houston cheated on him with producers to benefit her career. The latter might have been desperation to support the couple’s drug habits and I’ve always wondered if Houston’s addiction was caused by being repeatedly battered by Brown. She was a great talent but now whenever I hear her songs I think of her terrifying marriage and chaotic life and feel nauseated.
I do feel like he ruined her. She seemed so different. Just cheapened her value. She must not have been strong enough. She was my first favorite artist growing up I had her tape that I played over and over again.
How about Sugarland’s, “Stay”
I never realized the depth but I swear I always thought she was referring to her band mate who had a wife and kids at home.
I’ll never know
But I do believe her tears were REAL
“Run to You “ by Bryan Adams makes me want to break stuff. Asshat sent it in a text to OW when they were “dating “.
I was going to enter the same, and looked it up to find the correct quotable lyrics. To my surprise, there’s some debate about who the singer is cheating with, and per the video, Adams is running to his guitar, not another woman. I’d prefer to think this is the correct interpretation.
I hope so.
I can’t stand Bryan Adams. Never thought he had real talent.
Please Help Me I’m Falling
and
Just Walk On By
Honestly when I was young I loved the music but never really focused on the words. Though my music is late sixties, I still love 50s music and listen all the time. When either of those come on I mute it.
Ass wipes chortling like they are helpless victims that just started falling in love, instead of spent time pumping strange until they got caught up in destruction.
My ex-cheater hated the song ationships for him, even if he was married with 4 little kids!!!Throw Your Arms Around Me by Hunters and Collectors (an Australian band) because it was about a one night stand. His integrity was solid!!! Only long term rel
I’m going to start again here. Don’t know what happened. My ex-cheater hated the son Throw your Arms Around Me by Hunters and Collectors (an Australian band) because it was about a one night stand. He had far too much integrity for that!!! Only long term relations were acceptable, even if you were already married with four young kids!!
“You keep telling me baby, there will come a time
When you will leave her arms and forever be in mine
But I don’t think that’s the truth
And I don’t like being used and I’m tired of waiting
It’s too much pain to have to bear to love a man you have to share
Why don’t you stay? I’m down on my knees
I’m so tired of being lonely, don’t I give you what you need?
When she calls you to go, there is one thing you should know
We don’t have to live this way. Why don’t you stay?”
This song literally made me want to rip my radio from the dashboard and throw it out the window multiple times after DD.
They just wanted to make a song about how tough it is for the OW. They said no other songs told about how hard it is. Wtf! Absolutely detest this song!!
What a boring song. I’m not much of a country pop fan unless there’s something a little different or folksier going on (John Prine, Patty Griffin) but I looked the band up and apparently Nettles (singer/songwriter) met second husband Justin Miller while working on a video together in 2006– while she was still married to first husband. The first marriage blew up a year later. No info on whether Miller or her first husband had previous partners when the relationships with Nettles began but side chick anthems/prose are risky and go against the cultural grain so I tend to wonder if they’re a way of trying to put lipstick on the pig of personal experience. I could care less about celeb culture but find it fascinating how FWs (like pedophiles) compulsively try to hijack public approval for their bs.
It’s not a song about cheating to my knowledge, but it will forever be linked with the affair between FW and the OW who was my best friend. She became obsessed with Take Me to Church by Hozier, whom I happen to love, when it came out, and upon listening to the lyrics I can only surmise she associated them with their misunderstood forbidden love. Poor tortured creature… I can’t even listen to that song anymore and had to block it on my music streaming services. Makes me sick.
I like the song because Hozier was brave in matching it to a video about persecution and murder of gay couples in Russia. But if your ex happens to be homophobic or insecure in his macho mojo (which cheaters typically are), I’m not sure how flattered he’d be by Schmoop’s taste in affair anthems.
Cakeless – I’m so sorry. My X had an affair with a good friend of mine (her husband was our friend as well, poor guy). I know this pain. I recall my X and ex-friend both separately playing lots of Kasey Musgraves during their two years of cheating. I got the sense KM may have been a part of their…background music. I can’t listen to any of her stuff anymore. Except “High Horse” 😉
After the cheating he played
“I’m only human, Rag n Bone”
Made my blood pressure go up
Today’s cartoon is perfect and has reminded me of something: A good friend of mine, who used to be a good friend of FW as well (they grew up together, and the guy even helped build our house) told me that once, he was in the car with FW when a country song about cheating came on; FW made some comments about how awful and wrong that was. Textbook virtue signaling. My friend thought it was a little weird at the time, but he couldn’t put a finger on why and forgot about it… until years later, when FW’s cheating spiraled out of control and everyone somehow knew about it.
FW also confided in that friend — again, a mutual, good friend — that I wanted kids but it was sad that I was too insecure and unstable to be a mother. That is BS, and the friend knew it and was bothered to hear FW slandering me behind my back. He recalled the conversation after dday when my ex became physically abusive and I truly had become (temporarily) insecure and unstable.
It’s all straight out of some internet list of “Narcissist Manipulation Tactics.”Cheaters are caricatures of themselves.
I never thought of the term “Virtue Signaling” fitting the cheater repertoire, but yea. Major Cheaterpants used to tell me about things he saw his coworkers do inferring he was far above such things. I wonder now if he was taking my temperature on what I saw as wrong or right.
I remember once after we had sex, he said “I wouldn’t even know how to have sex with anyone but you”…he would sprinkle shit like this in and I believed him. (facepalm)
Ugh, what a fucking POS! I hope someone throws him out of a moving vehicle!
Before we were married, klootzak liked to tell me a story about how he was out drinking with his best friend. Best friend was engaged ti be married but a busty blonde was throwing herself at him while they were out and klootzak – pillar of virtue! – stopped his friend from making a terrible mistake and going off and cheating on his fiancée. Major virtue signaling. I had forgotten about that. What a fool I was.
There are quite a few cheating songs that I immediately turn the station. I used to like the song Sad Eyes until I realized that the idiot was shacking up with a women while his wife was away. Dolly’s song Joleen annoys me. I wish there were more songs kicking the cheater to the curb.
I have a playlist for you:
Beyoncé’s: Irreplaceable
Gloria Gaynor: I will Survive. ( That’s the Chump’s anthem)
Toni Braxton’s trio of go fuck yourself songs: Just be a Man about it, He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me and Let it flow.
Mary J Blige: No More Drama
Lauren Hill: Ex Factor
Alicia Key’s: Brand New Kinda Me
Anita Baker: No Fairytales.
All those songs I played over and over again. They got me through the worst of it.
I wish Jolene would come take klootzak and rid me of him. That’s all I can think when I hear it. Dolly had it backwards.
Chapel Hart did a 2021 update to Jolene.
You Can Have Him Jolene
Well, since the last song, I’ve had time to think it over
A lot of tears, a lot of beer, a lot of wine
I spent so much time believin’ that that midnight phone stopped ringin’
But he’d leave the room and answer every time
Well, it didn’t seem so easy with that broken glass in pieces
And you holdin’ me and sayin’ you were wrong
Well, I’m tired of second chances, and these sad ass circumstances
He’s your problem, good luck keepin’ him home
Oh Jolene, you can have him ’cause he don’t mean much to me
Well, I cried so much ’til rivers turned to seas
Oh Jolene, when you think that he’s in love, he’ll surely leave
Like he did me
You can have him, Jolene
Well, I fixed my crown from leanin’
And those weddin’ bells stopped ringin’
I took my keys and threw him out his door
Well, I found a man who loves me and he’ll give me all I need
What woman could ask for anymore
Oh Jolene, you can have him ’cause he don’t mean much to me
Well, I cried so much ’til rivers turned to seas
Oh Jolene, when you think that he’s in love, he’ll surely leave
Like he did me
You can have him, Jolene
Oh Jolene, you can have him ’cause he don’t mean much to me
Well, I cried so much ’til rivers turned to seas
Oh Jolene, when you think that he’s in love, he’ll surely leave
Like he did me
You can have him, Jolene
You can have him, Jolene
You can have him, Jolene
Thanks, ghost! I always thought that about ‘Jolene’ – OW could have had her pick but chose a married man/power trip. Then she didn’t want to keep her prize so he came back to bother me! The whole Chapel Hart video was a great laugh. No tagbacks, Jolene! He’s your problem now.
I hate “Sad Eyes.” I absolutely HATE it. I don’t know why I hate it above all other cheater songs. Maybe because it’s such an unvarnished, unapologetic manipulator anthem.
And I agree about Jolene. I’ll be damned if I’m going to beg an OW to stay away from my husband. Loretta Lynn’s “You Ain’t Woman Enough” is better.
The song “Sad Eyes” by Robert John makes me want to wretch. It’s the cheater song that pisses me off the most.
Also “Second Chance” by .38 Special.
I much prefer the LEAVING a cheater songs. I’m sure I will eventually get past this newbie stage, but I needed this music to strengthen my resolve to take action. I wore out my copy of The Chicks Gaslighter album this summer driving around in my car. I went to their concert too — by myself cause my friends couldn’t make it. (Read: I can live a full life alone, if necessary). I have also been known to blast Billie Eilish Happier than Ever so loud, that my teenager complains she can hear it when I pull into the garage. I just got Beys older Lemonade. I haven’t seen the visual album yet. (Irrelevant side note: Black is King changed me.).
I don’t know how I feel yet about Bey staying with JayZ but at least she made millions from her pain.
Funny, ex played a more modern shaggy video this summer. Must have been on his mind.
“Be Alright” by Dean Lewis really helped in the beginning. Friends help him realize he’s worth it and should move on.
“Bury Me” by 30 Seconds to Mars.
Made an album on family Apple account called Punched and filled it with these and other F-You songs. Found cheating playlists on Spotify too.
Agreed! I love Taylor Swift’s ‘Mad Woman’ so much. Also Rod Stewart’s Reason to believe. Both of these songs capture what it feels like to be gaslit and betrayed.
The Lemonade album healed me, even though it’s got reconciliation in it. I could connect to her pain.
I can’t think of any songs in particular but I refuse to listen to any song that a cheater sings. Lots and lots of artists I refuse to listen to now days. If I support them it’s like saying it’s ok they cheat and if it’s ok for them it would be ok for my ex.
When I finally realized he was cheating and was looking for proof, I dropped by our business unannounced. He wasn’t there. As I drove away, that grating 70’s hit Afternoon Delight popped into my head. I was thinking, “He could be anywhere. This is like looking for a needle in a haystack.” To my surprise, and his, the needles have a habit of looking for me.
I doubt most people would listen to a song or watch a movie that realistically portrayed cheating. And I suspect all the sugarcoating of the subject in print, song, and film is a way of maintaining denial.
Conversely, I notice I REALLY appreciate it when the entertainment industry gets cheating right.
Emma Thompson in Love Actually (who was not really acting because she was cheated on in real life) Maya Rudolph in Loot, and James Corden in Mammals really nailed it.
There are too many dumbass songs minimizing cheating, deleted from my life soundtrack, to list here.
I’d love to hear more about movies and shows that get it right! I’ve written down your recommendations, VH. I’m rewatching Ugly Betty with my daughter right now and I’m finding it SO offensive. I’m amazed I didn’t notice before. It is loaded with misogyny and presented as something else all together.
I felt like Under the Tuscan Sun and The Rebound were both good in showing the impact of cheating on the chump, and I watched both repeatedly after dday and felt sure that someone involved in the making of those movies got it and had been through it.
Although it’s billed as a comedy, in The Other Woman Leslie Mann’s character delivers a number of real-life reactions. I think the OW’s in the movie are unwittingly OW’s? When they all find out about each other, they band together to get revenge.
Working Moms really nails it too. I cried watching it because she just plays the devastation so well when she finds out. It’s pretty realistic in general.
“I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus.” Deeply effed up on several levels: Cheating, voyeurism, involving the kids in the conspiracy, arguably desecration of a holy day, etc.
“Oh what a laugh it would have been/
If Daddy had only seen/
Mommy kissing Santa Claus last night.”
Laugh? Yeah, cheating is hilarious.
And I get that maybe Santa is Daddy in a Santa costume, but the point of the song is that the IDEA of Mommy cheating on Daddy is funny.
Just: Ick. And all the nopes.
Hands down — Escape (The Pina Colada Song)
Man decides he’s bored with partner (“gotten into the same old dull routine”);
Puts a cheesy ad in the paper;
“Waits with high hopes” at a bar;
Fuckbuddy shows up and turns out to be his partner
“Then they laugh for moment . . .” Oh my isn’t this hilarious?! We’re BOTH cheaters!! Let’s go fuck now!! . . .
Yeah that song always left me feeling weird. Like…uh you both were trying to cheat on each other…that’s not a happy ending that’s a reason to end the marriage.
Right there with you, UX. Only thing good about that song is that the two potential cheaters re-find each other and keep cheaters out of the dating pool.
that’s only if the cheaters don’t continue to cheat
UX,
This was the most obvious song to me. So obvious that I read the comments first because I knew someone would post it.
It is a song about two Fuckwits. They rejoice and accept the Fickwittyness. Fuck them
My (cheating) girlfriend in high school loved the song “Torn Between Two Lovers “….I was too stupid to stop and say “hmmmm “
Haha, don’t you hate when you look back and remember that shit that should’ve made you think twice? Of course, if you would’ve brought it up at that point you would’ve looked like a lunatic, but in hindsight it should’ve definitely made you think.
My mother loved that song but was a totally devoted wife to the day my father died. Her father was a cheater and she was very anti-cheater. I sometimes think people like the melody and think that’s a great song and don’t really listen to the lyrics. Not always but sometimes. People who have never been cheated on personally don’t find such songs triggering, so don’t beat yourself up for not having a clue about that cheater. Someone liking a cheater song is not evidence, really.
Love that you posted this one. My daughter loves this song but recently understood the narrative and she asked me about it: “isn’t this about cheaters?” I said yes, and her comment was, “why is he so happy about it?” Good question my dear.
It’s a bizarre, weird song. I immediately disliked it when I heard it during my childhood. Disgusting!!
Lyin ’ Eyes ( The Eagles) – “ he knows where she’s going when she’s leaving, she’s heading to the cheating side of town”
A song that also sets me off is I Have Nothing by Whitney. It’s not a cheating song, but I saw texts my ex FW sent to one of his mistresses telling her just like the song says, I have nothing if I don’t have you. ( don’t mind that wife and three kids you see in the car, they are a whole lot of nothing to him I guess). Hurts for years to hear that song, as beautiful as it is.
Girl I know you’re doing the same thing too
But I won’t tell your man the things we do,
oh no Cause he don’t have to know….
John Legend
I hate that song because I hear that phrase in real life from creeps who can’t take “No, I have a boyfriend” for an answer. Some guys will ask for my number, and I’ll tell them no, I have a boyfriend and they apologize and go on their way.
Then…then there are assholes. “Well he doesn’t have to know.” Or “Well he don’t gotta know.” Or “So what? You don’t gotta tell him.”
Just…christ…fuck off…
Kara I know; its the deceit and the suggestion that what the betrayed person doesn’t know she/he wont worry about. There’s just no respect from these people. As long as they get sex they don’t care.
Torn Between Two Lovers- Mary MacGregor. I despise that one, it’s scratching on blackboard level of cringe.
Oh yes — that’s a tough bit of sad sausaging set to music
My gag-reflex trigger has been those two cheating spouses who found “twooo wuv” while being judges on that singing show on TV. Now they are the shining example of what love is all about and the silly world watches and feels warm all over. We should all be so lucky to find our one and only! He showed up recently as the cover model on one of my favorite catalogs and I threw it straight into the recycle. What garbage.
From what I understand all of them are FWs except maybe Gwen? She’s a schmoopie, but pretty sure her marriage was already over (they were legally separated?) by the time she met Blake because her husband cheated on her with the nanny. Blake has always been a notorious cheater, and Miranda is supposedly both a FW and a schmoopie. Yikes, a big mess, all of them.
I LOVE Miranda’s “this aint your mamas broken heart”
“I honestly love you” by Olivia Newton-John
Just ew.
Also . . . “How Can I Tell Her” by Lobo (1973)
Cheating coward extols myriad of virtues of his partner to his OW, then pleads with her to help him tell partner
“How can I tell her I don’t miss her
Whenever I am away?
How can I say it’s you I think of
Every single night and day?
But when is it easy telling someone the truth
Oh girl, help me tell her about you
How can I tell her about you?
Girl, please tell me what to do
Everything seems right whenever I’m with you
So girl, won’t you tell me
How to tell her about you”
This doesn’t have cheating in it, but radio stations played it over & over it seemed after D-day & it even came on my station when I drove by OW’s house & saw my now X husband’s car in the driveway. So it’s forever associated with their cheating as I imagined they were listening to it too while getting it on. “I love it when you call me señorita, I wish I could pretend I didn’t need ya, But every touch is ooh, la-la-la It’s true, la-la-la, Ooh, I should be running, Ooh, you keep me coming for ya. Sorry, Camila Cabello but I just can’t!
UPDATE: Just looked up the song & it looks like it’s about cheaters! Old friends meeting in a hotel. Also, Camila was with someone else at the time, but ended up with Shawn Mendes who is the male singer in it. So yeah, it’s about cheaters after all!!! I guess my gut instinct knew better than my brain.
Wow, I have the same thing. Initially like the song, then had DDay while it was still popular. Honestly it makes me want to puke.
I hate this with a passion, by Rolling Stones and others, it makes me so angry!
Under my thumb
It’s a squirmin’ dog who’s just had her day
Under my thumb
A girl who has just changed her ways
It’s down to me
Yes it is
The way she does just what she’s told down to me
The change has come
She’s under my thumb
Ah, ah, say it’s alright
Under my thumb
Her eyes are just kept to herself
Under my thumb, well I
I can still look at someone else
It’s down to me, oh, that’s what I said
The way she talks when she’s spoken to
Down to me, the change has come
She’s under my thumb
Say, it’s alright
I actually love Sam Smith’s Not The Only One.
You say I’m crazy
‘Cause you don’t think I know what you’ve done
But when you call me baby
I know I’m not the only one…
In the video while the husband is out cheating the wife takes a bunch of his stuff and throws it in their pool and sets their wedding pictures on fire while smoking a cigarette. And when cheating husband comes home she hugs him, but grins because he’s about to find his crap is at the bottom of the swimming pool.
This song came out a few years too late for me to have heard it in the moment, but yea
Chicago’s -No Tell Lover.
Funny how they randomly pop into consciousness and dig into unspoken societal belief systems of the wink wink, it’s kind of cool to cheat and everybody does it.
The “it’s wrong but it feels so right” entitled lot of ppl anyway. The cool crowd get to cheat, everyone else gets to follow the rules and pick up after them.
I would love to see the day it’s not so readily accepted and the mentality of, oh, it’s just cheating, there are way worse sins in the world than that to concern ourselves with, is not the go to response.
Cheating hits the fabric of everything and the only ppl that truly know that are the cheated upon and they are seen as bitter and angry and not fully worth the time listening to.
Our incredible Chump Lady is a powerful whisp of hope that even such pervasive narratives have the potential to be dismantled.
I can’t handle the Hoover songs. Heard one the other day on the radio that made my jaw drop. It’s thinly veiled abuse, and people find it romantic and sweet? There could be an entire blog devoted to UBTing love songs. Make it part of high school health curriculum. Add the Sad Sausage antidote, as well — “Dead,” by Madison Beer: “You say you can’t live without me… then why aren’t you dead yet? Why you still breathing?”
For me it’s kind of the inverse – the songs that are the hardest to listen to are the ones that exemplify the love I thought I had before I realized it was a three-decades-long lie. Like Alan Jackson’s “Remember When” which is about acknowledging the hard times and celebrating making it through them.
“Remember when thirty seemed so old
Now lookin’ back, it’s just a steppin’ stone
To where we are, where we’ve been
Said we’d do it all again
Remember when
Remember when we said when we turned gray
When the children grow up and move away
We won’t be sad, we’ll be glad
For all the life we’ve had
And we’ll remember when”
Loved that song but no matter how deeply meh I feel, I still can’t listen to it because it reminds me of everything I thought was important that didn’t matter to ex at all.
Those are the ones that used to hit me smack in the feels, too, the ones about how awesome it is to grow old parenting together. That’s what I thought I had, dammit, and he exploded it. I had to get up and leave in the middle of a dinner party (that I was hosting) once when one came on in the background radio. I don’t even know what song it was now. Just goes to show how cheating can taint everything.
I refocused by having a playlist of empowering vengeance songs.
I feel that way about “you were always in my mind” by willie Nelson. It’s one of those for me
Look at Us – Vince Gill (sames!)
I love old Billy Joel. Was listening to his greatest hits album and started crying at ‘Just the Way You Are.’ I thought we had that kind of love but it turns out only I did. He didn’t love me anymore and said it was because he no longer found me attractive or wanted intimacy with me.
“Why don’t you stay?” By Antebellum. They wanted to do a song from the OW perspective. I LOSE it whenever it comes on radio. Wtf!
It’s Sugarland, but I get you. It’s a hard one to listen to for sure. I sing and I have had people request this one of me. I decline. I can’t, way to close to the heart.
“I hope you’re happy now” by Carly Pearce and Lee Brice. It the typical cheater justification song. 🤢🤮
From the wayback machine- this crap has been around forever. I despise Cole Porter’s “Always True to You In My Fashion.” Which is basically gaslighting that rhymes- she’s faithful, just, you know, “in her way.”
If a custom tailored vet
Asks me out for something wet
When the vet begins to pet–I cry hooray.
But I’m always true to you, darlin’, in my fashion
Yes, I’m always true to you, darlin’, in my way.
I’ve been asked to have a meal
By a big tycoon in steel,
If the meal includes a deal, accept I may.
But I’m always true to you, darlin’, in my fashion
Yes, I’m always true to you, darlin’, in my way.
And honorable mention for “Just One of Those Things,” which isn’t necessarily about cheating, but is pretty much just “Get lost chump. Didn’t mean anything.”
Cole Porter was a magnificent songwriter. Except for this.
“Fooled around and Fell in Love” ew
This is probs unique to me, but David Bowies “China Girl” was not good for me when Cheater and his full-blood-spoke- Mandarin coworker were at it
The Mother of all Spackler Wreckonsillyation songs has to be Take That’s 1994 hit “Back for Good”
https://youtu.be/eBIzCF-8xSg
… Whatever I said, whatever I did I didn’t mean it I just want you back for good
Whenever I’m wrong just tell me the song and I’ll sing it
You’ll be right and understood I want you back for good
… Unaware but underlined I figured out this story it wasn’t good
But in the corner of my mind I celebrated glory
But that was not to be in the twist of separation
You excelled at being free can’t you find a little room inside for me
… And we’ll be together, this time is forever
We’ll be fighting and forever we will be so complete in our love
We will never be uncovered again
I will invite you into my fuckedupness and let you know that I have a clear memory of humming this song as I painted my living room in our new house that Cheater bought when he “came home” (blech, gag). When we moved in, we had 2 houses and 4 mortgages which totaled about $800,000 (in 2007 when that seemed the thing to do) which seemed a trifle to him. I had to prep and sell the old house (his interest had moved on by then) lest we collapse financially. I spackled, painted and kept the plates spinning while he returned with no conditions or accountability.
I sang this at the ex MIL’s 80th birthday party. Effectively to a room of people most of whom knew he was leaving me (though not that he was going back to exgfOW). He left 4 months later. I was so humiliated. I sang it because I like the song. I had no idea what he was up to, although I wonder now whether I did.
Back to Black- Amy Winehouse:
He left no time to regret
Kept his dick wet
With his same old safe bet
Me and my head high
And my tears dry
Get on without my guy
I took it as a side chick anthem (chump is the “old safe bet”). It’s sort of a companion piece to her cheater anthem. She didn’t end so well so her lyrics become an inadvertent cautionary tale.
Just a few of the MANY cheating glamorization songs…(some containing lyrics which I used to consider “funny” such as Shaggy’s aforementioned “It Wasn’t Me”):
Eagles – “Lyin’ Eyes
Atlantic Starr – “Secret Lovers”
C+C Music Factory – “Things That Make You Go Hmmmm…”
Naughty By Nature – “O.P.P.”
Kid Rock/Sheryl Crow – “Picture”
Nearly forgot Usher’s “You Make Me Wanna” and “Confessions, PT. II”
How about Contagious by The Isley Brothers featuring R. Kelly. Which leads me to R.Kelly’s long ass Trapped in the Closet.
I very clearly remember O.P.P.’s music video where the dude has to wake-up his side piece by pushing her head into the pillow and thinking how not hot but probably realistic that was.
Kiss and Say Goodbye by the Manhattans. I use to love that damn song. Now every time I hear it, I want to grab my purse and run like my hair is on fire.,
I’ve got to say, I don’t consider the Eagle’s Lyin’ Eyes a cheater song. I consider it a cheater-exposing song. It details how shitty the female cheater acts, and how no matter how rich or fancy she gets, she can’t change her cheater self it seems, or hide her Lyin’ Eyes.
Not a song, but the Meryl Streep/Alex Baldwin/Steve Martin film ‘It’s Complicated’ came on last night and I was like screaming at the tv. Not only was Baldwin cheating on his wife (with his ex-wife who he previously cheated on) *with whom he has a young child and is trying to get pregnant*, but he is showing all the signs of accelerating his narcissistic abuse — showing up unexpectedly and demanding Streep’s attention, ignoring Streep’s ‘no’s, running roughshod over her boundaries, treating all his children as non-persons without feelings, talking about his own pain and confusion even as he cheats and lies — AUGH! Streep is entirely complicit as the AP, so ‘It’s Complicated’, but this ain’t no lighthearted rom-com anymore.
Gag, glad I never watched that.
I’ve Found Someone of my Own
I got up this morning
While I was having my coffee
My woman came in, sat down by my side
With tears in her eyes
She said I’ve a confession to make
I said, “Woman, speak what’s on your mind”
She said, “I’ve found somebody new
To take your place”
I said, “Don’t feel so all alone
I’ve found someone of my own”
All those lonely nights
You left me all alone
My new love would call
And comfort me on the phone
I said, “Woman, if that’s the way it’s gotta be
Then darlin, don’t you worry about me”
She said, “I’ve found somebody new
To take your place”
I said, “Don’t feel so all alone
I’ve found someone of my own”
I got up from the table
Reached down and wiped the tears
From her face
I put out my cigarette
Turned and walked away
She said, “I’ve found somebody new
To take your place”
I said, “Don’t feel so all alone
I’ve found someone of my own”
You’re drunk you’re drunk you silly old fool by the Dubliners
Ever listened to Sinatra’s Doncha Go Away Mad? Lyrics below. Everything old is new again. CL, you’ll “love” the vintage vibe with the old blame the chump. TG many years ago was a final D day for me. He maxed out a credit card to take another woman away for the holiday while telling me he was visiting his Mom. I figured it out easily. In fact, I called their hotel room then got a copy of the room bill. More heavy breathing, anyone? LOL!!! He defaulted on the card too. Charm galore!
“Don’Cha Go ‘Way Mad”
I must confess what you say is true
I had a rendezvous with somebody new
That’s the only one I ever had
Baby, baby, don’cha go away mad
Cheatin’ shows and it never goes
You got a reason to be mad I suppose
But she only was a passin’ fad
Ba-by, don’t you be mad
Her kind’s a dime a dozen
And that’s not the kind I want
Who’d ever dream your cousin
Would wander into that restaurant?
I understand that you feel upset
Whaddya you say that you forgive and forget?
Come on and kiss me just to show you’re glad
Baby, baby don’cha go away mad
[instrumental]
Now, her kind’s a dime a dozen
I should’ve passed her by
Who’d ever dream your cousin
Would come along and give us the eye?
I understand that feel upset
Whaddya you say that you forgive and forget?
Come on and kiss me just to show you’re glad
Baby, don’cha go away mad
Understand that you’re quite upset
Whaddya you say that you forgive and forget?
Come on and kiss me just to show you’re glad
Baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, baby, don’cha go
‘way mad
Now, don’cha go away mad
Fits with stories about Sinatra terrorizing, cheating on and battering Mia Farrow.
Mia really knew how to pick ‘em, didn’t she ? A massively effed up f.o.o. Including her brother who did prison time for child molestation. 🤮🤮
Farrow reminds me of an old Norse proverb about rape,
The fjord has no bottom
The river has no end
The mountain has no summit
A pretty girl has no kinsmen
She also reminds me of the character of Remedios the Beauty from One Hundred Years of Solitude because she was probably one of the most beautiful women who ever lived– at least according to white, Western standards– but seemed poorly equipped to deal with it. Plus she was born into showbiz which is basically like being born into the den of horrors. As bad as things are now for women in media, it was 100 times worse back then. Harassment wasn’t even a concept. From her philanthropic work, bleeding heart politics and retiring lifestyle, I’m guessing she never had the narcissism or meanness required to adapt and protect herself– one of those people who’d be perfectly suited to live in a perfect world free of predators and cruelty but not well suited to this one. It seems like she kept seeking shelter with “protectors”– men with enough status and edge to keep the scary monsters at bay– but then who’s going to protect you from your “body guards”?
All I Want To Do Is Make Love To You by Heart – she picks up a hitch hiker that only HE could fulfill what her significant other couldn’t. Then the kicker, she has a child from the one night stand but her SO doesn’t know it’s not his.
Babe by Sugarland and Taylor Swift – the video is depressing watching the wife find out her husband is a Cheater.
I always interpreted the Heart song differently – I told myself that the SO was infertile and knew about her tryst/was OK with it because they wanted children. (I guess it was wishful thinking – trying to put the best face on the situation even though, in hindsight, that was a strange/unsafe way to solve the problem.)
I always hated that particular song, which was weird because I otherwise loved Heart’s music in general. I never learned that song’s lyrics, but there was something about the sound of it felt chiched & grating.
But after hearing about these lyrics, I’m less fond of Heart. I guess a cheater song isn’t surprising; given how how much of their music is about brief, magical, unsustainable passions.
The thunder rolls by Garth Brooks. My XH used to play it all the time. Looking back I think he probably plays cheater songs every time he was having an affair. And he played them alot. Lol. When he moved out of the house to “go find himself “ I found an entire CD hidden in the garage of cheating songs! Lol. I love Garth Brooks but I can’t listen to that song anymore. I hate all cheating music and movies that glorify cheating
How about:
Papa loved mama, mama loved men…
Mama’s in the graveyard, Papa’s in the pen.
No sane parents for the kids I guess?
😁
And I will have to add that The Thunder Rolls live version ends with the wife getting the pistol out of the drawer and shooting the cheater husband 😊
“Torn Between Two Lovers” by Mary MacGregor
Every time ”So Good” by Halsey comes on…Alexa! Skip!!!
“When you left, I bet you held her body closer
And I was hopin’ you would tell her it was over
You’re all I think about and everywhere I look
I know it’s bad, but we could be so good”
Girl, get some self-respect.
History repeats itself. Only the names and decades change. Here’s an oldie sung from the place of utter confusion while the lies, deception, gaslighting and abuse stage is happening:
Patsy Cline – Crazy
I ❤️ Dolly Parton but Jolene makes me roll my eyes out of my head. Not because it condones cheating, but it because it perpetuates the idea that the OW is some unearthly beauty that could have any man she wanted. First off, nobody should be chasing off OW for some FW of a man. Know your worth, Dolly! And second, OW are nasty trash. There’s a reason they have such low standards.
“And second, OW are nasty trash. There’s a reason they have such low standards.”
Agreed. Regardless of looks, if they could get any man they wanted, they wouldn’t have to settle for a cheating married man.
Decent available men don’t want them or their baggage.
Please If you have not checked out Chapel Hart’s ” you can Have him Jolene” do so . It is a fitting conclusion to the whole saga.
I had not heard that yet! Omg, thank you!!
Thank you! I have always sung over Dolly, begging Jolene to please take my man and keep him. Going to listen to this right now!
“The Night the Lights Went Out In Georgia”
His “best friend”??? He is like it’s her fault you can’t get mad at me.???????
See below
“been seeing that Amos boy, Seth”
Now he got mad and he saw red
Andy said, “Boy, don’t you lose your head
‘Cause to tell you the truth, I’ve been with her myself”
Embarrassing story time: when I met my ex, we were 22 and 23 years old and he “seduced” me with a song by the Yin Yang Twins called “The Whisper Song”
The lyrics go “wait till you see my d***…” and the melody is suggestive.
Ok, that, and I’m also dumb.
But wait, it gets DUMBER: fast forward to 7 years into the relationship, I catch the song again and disturbingly realize the lyrics continue “…Imma beat that p**** up”.
Turns out I had fallen for an abuser and his woman-hating writing was all over the wall.
Mick Jagger (Rolling Stones), “The Spider and the Fly.”
The song has a sleazy FW centrality theme but isn’t very flattering to side pieces (“rinsed out blond” in a bar who weaves a trap/web for drunks) plus contains a warning from chumps (“jump right ahead and you’re dead”?).
When I was a newlywed to my now ex, I met a colleague of my ex’s named Harry who loved the song “Ramblin’ Man,” and I think he had a romanticized vision of himself as someone who wouldn’t be pinned down by a little thing like wife or kids or adulting. I learned Harry was cheating on his wife because his girlfriend sent mail to OUR address. (This was in the 70s, so this was the pre-Internet, pre-cellphone, snail mail era.) I was so pissed off and told my then-husband that he should tell Harry in no uncertain terms that we were not willing to be a party to his cheating. I met Harry’s GF at some point (I think before I knew she was more than just a “friend”), and she struck me as an airhead hippy chick.
It literally never occurred to me until now that my ex might had told Harry it was okay for his GF to use our address. In fact, the more I think about it, the likelier it seems. I was very naive back then, but even so, I now realize my spidey-sense that I couldn’t trust my ex was signaling to me even in those early newlywed days–I just didn’t want to believe it.
To this day, I wince when I hear that song, on the rare occasion it gets some airplay.
poker face. x had it as a ring tone. just-a-friend howorker rang sometimes about their important on call work. dupers delight. meanwhile I did 99% of looking after the kids and everything at home and was sympathetic about how busy and pressured he was often.
Yep that romancing a whore while I worked constantly, I even kept up the yard work because he was just so dammed busy after his promotion.
No wonder I didn’t have a clue, he kept me so busy I would collapse at night.
I remember the first time I ever refused to do something for him was about a month (ish) before he left. He had a part time business where he delivered fresh fish to restaurants. He had a meeting after work and asked me to deliver the fish. It was in a particularly bad side of town. I said I don’t understand you have spent 20 years telling me not to go out at night, not wanting me to go to dangerous places and now you want me to go right into a crime ridden area. Why now? He said “never mind I will find someone else”. I think he thought I was on to him at that point, and I was starting to connect the dots.
Bunch of lying assholes.
Here’s a tune that takes the other viewpoint of “hey, I’m with somebody and I’m not going to cheat.” And yet it irritates me deeply, partly because it’s just so damned chipper, and partly because one line sticks in my craw. Andy Grammer:
Oh, no, honey, I’m good
I could have another but I probably shouldn’t
I got somebody at home
*And if I stay I might not leave alone*
I mean, props on leaving before you cheat, but such impressive willpower this guy has! /s
OMG! Bryan Adams and Run to You. I completely missed the lyrics until after D-day. The little toss away to the the girlfriend/wife that she loves him with a heart so true but it’s so damn easy to make love to the other woman still pisses me off! To this day I cannot listen to anything by Bryan Adams.
Of course infamous spouse-abuser Ryan Adams covered that song.
I mentioned it above but if you watch the video, he’s not running to another woman, he’s running, literally, to his guitar. I don’t think that’s what he intended when he wrote it, but that’s what he shows.
I saw that, yep. Maybe if I watch the video a hundred times, I might listen to Bryan Adams again . . . maybe! 😜
Stephen Stills “Love the One you’re With.” I have hated that song since I first heard it.
My first car was a vintage Mustang that only had AM radio with all kinds of gaggy oldies on it like Mary MacGregor’s “Torn Between Two Lovers.” I did a cross country trip in that car with a friend who would sing made-up lyrics at the top of her lungs. Something like,
Torn between two lovers, feeling really nervous
Cross-infecting both of you will be reported to Health Service…
🤣Torn between two lovers, feeling really nervous
Cross-infecting both of you will be reported to Health Service…🤣
You have earned the highly coveted Crabby Tabby ROFL Award. Well done, Hell of a Chump.
I’d like to thank the academy on behalf of Alli the extemporizer. 😉
Not a cheating song, but I’ve been blasting ‘Karma’ by Taylor Swift when FW is around.
Yes! And here are some of the lyrics:
You’re talking shit for the hell of it
Addicted to betrayal, but you’re relevant
You’re terrified to look down
‘Cause if you dare, you’ll see the glare
Of everyone you burned just to get there
It’s coming back around
And I keep my side of the street clean
You wouldn’t know what I mean
‘Cause karma is my boyfriend
Karma is a god
Karma is the breeze in my hair on the weekend
Karma’s a relaxing thought
Aren’t you envious that for you it’s not?
Sweet like honey, karma is a cat
Purring in my lap ’cause it loves me
Flexing like a goddamn acrobat
Me and karma vibe like that
I hope klootzak heard that one. He has lusted after TS since before she was an adult. Owns all of her albums and spends too long in the bathroom with pics of her. She has written some good songs but her voice isn’t my style so I’m not a fan but klootzak believes I don’t like her because I am jealous that he has the hots for her. He is that messed up in the head. Anywho… him being such a big fanboy, I hope he actually listens to the words of that song but he will likely be oblivious.
Maybe if you got a message to her I bet she’d write a song with his name in it about a cheating douche. Something like…
Your ex says you spent hours with my pix in the can
That you’d rub it in her face that your my biggest fan
So I thought you’d like to know how I feel about that, Dan
How a teen feels being drooled on by some married middle-aged man
It feels sick
Sick and twisted
Sick, sick
Sick and twisted
You had a living, breathing person you didn’t appreciate
And set your sights on some illusion that would never reciprocate
Well I’ve been that living, breathing person too
Something else she and I have in common is neither of us want someone like you
Because you’re sick
Sick and twisted
Sick, sick
Sick and twisted
Have you ever really listened to the words I write?
How I think people like you are a waste of life?
If you gave all that attention to the one you called your wife
I might think you were worth the air you breath
But you’re sick
Sick and twisted
Sick, sick
(She sicced me on you haha)
So sick
😉
The song “Without You” by Harry Nilsson – lyrics to cringe by
“ I can’t live if livin is without you…”
What a bunch of mindfuckery
Thank you Chump Nation for bringing sanity and humor back into my chumped life!
I dislike “Every Breath You Take,” because it glamorized stalking. Not quite sure how it relates to Sting’s infidelity, but I just saw online that it’s also about Sting’s cheating on his first wife to marry current wife. Reportedly Trudie was the next-door neighbor and friend of Sting’s first wife.
I don’t understand how bystanders can be confused about how abusers hoodwink chumps with lovebombing when rampant cheaters write slews of popular love ballads.
I’ll add one in here. Despite the great guitar riff, the words to Bryan Adam’s Run To You are a real cringe.
“She says her love for me could never die, that’s change if she ever found out about you and I”.
Lyin’ Eyes by the Eagles
My mom used to sing John Denver’s “Leaving On A Jet Plane” and I always thought it was the height of wholesome. But then I sat down to learn it and:
There’s so many times I’ve let you down
So many times I’ve played around
I tell you now, they don’t mean a thing
Every place I go, I’ll think of you
Every song I sing, I’ll sing for you
When I come back, I’ll bring your wedding ring
I can’t sing that shit. Oh, well.
Magnolia, John Denver was a notorious Cheater. His wife (Annie of “Annie’s Song”) got tired of his nonstop cheating no matter how many beautiful songs came from it. Another one he wrote is I’m Sorry. The lyrics are classic FW… at first he apologizes for nothing directly and it’s mostly about how he is lonely and just feels sorry for himself — like a sad sausage:
I’m Sorry
It’s cold here in the city
It always seems that way
And I’ve been thinking about you almost everyday
Thinking about the good times
Thinking about the rain
Thinking about how bad it feels alone again
I’m sorry for the way things are in China
I’m sorry things ain’t what they used to be
But more than anything else
I’m sorry for myself
‘Cause you’re not here with me
Our friends all ask about you
And I say you’re doing fine
And I expect to hear from you almost anytime
But they all know I’m crying
And I can’t sleep at night
They all know I’m dying down deep inside
I’m sorry for all the lies I told you
I’m sorry for the things I didn’t say
But more than anything else
I’m sorry for myself
I can’t believe you went away
I’m sorry if I took some things for granted
I’m sorry for the chains I put on you
But more than anything else
I’m sorry for myself
For living without you
Klootzak has a cover of this song he played a lot when we were dating. Yeesh… I never paid attention to the lyrics.
Missy E, who I generally love but fails us with:
… Put the pussy on ya, like I told ya
Gimme all your numbers so I can phone ya
Your girl acting stank then call me over
Not on the bed, lay me on your sofa …
Girlfriend wanna be like me never
You won’t find a bitch that’s even better
I make it hot as Las Vegas weather …
Pussycat Dolls:
…Leave it alone (leave it alone)
if it ain’t love
ain’t enough
to leave a happy home
Let’s keep it friendly
You have to play fair
See I don’t care
she ain’t gon’ wanna share
Don’t you wish your
girlfriend was hot like me?
Don’t you wish your girlfriend
was a freak like me?
Don’t cha? Don’t you? baby Don’t cha?
And, favorite of the bubblegum tween set, Ariana Grande:
Took one fuckin’ look at your face (Hmm)
Now I wanna know how you taste (Mmm-mmm)
Usually don’t give it away (Yeah, yeah)
But you know I’m out here thinkin’ ’bout it
Then I realize she’s right there
And I’m at home like, “Damn, this ain’t fair”
Break up with your girlfriend (Girlfriend)
Yeah, yeah, ’cause I’m bored
You could hit it in the mornin’ (Mornin’)
Yeah, yeah, like it’s yours
I know it ain’t right
But I don’t care (Care)
Break up with your girlfriend (Girlfriend)
Yeah, yeah, ’cause I’m bored
I’d like to get this out of my system. The anthem song, our song was Al Green’s Let’s Stay Together. My husband would sing it to me and I would melt. He’d play it to surprise me, and it would randomly be playing when I’d hop in the car. It was so wonderful! I got to hear,
Let me say that since, baby, since we’ve been together
Ooh, loving you forever
Is what I need
Let me, be the one you come running to
I’ll never be untrue
So I got to hear how he’ll never be untrue and that we’d be together through the good, the bad, the happy or sad all the time.
Nope! He just used it to keep me on the hook. Songs can be useful to a narcissistic cheater.
Old school one hit wonders from the 1970s, swingers and leisure suits- Cringe!!
Me and Mrs. Jones by Billy Paul
Me and Mrs. Jones
We got a thing goin’ on
We both know that it’s wrong
But it’s much too strong
To let it go now
Escape(The Pina Colada Song) – Rupert Holmes
I was tired of my lady
We’d been together too long
Like a worn out recording
Of a favorite song
Sent by OW via YouTube link.
If you Want My Love by Cheap Trick (which she is). ****vomit***
“If you want my love, you got it
When you need my love, you got it
I won’t hide it
I won’t throw your love away, ooh
You hold the secrets of love in this world
I’m hypnotized by your every word
A special face, a special voice, a special smile in my life
‘Cause lonely is only a place
You don’t know what it’s like
You can’t fight it
And it’s a hole in my heart, in my heart”
”Sucker” by the Jonas Brothers and ”Is this Love?” by Whitesnake. Both give me PTSD symptoms and I despise them– even three years and FW-free later!!!!!!
An infuriating moldy oldie by England Dan and John Ford Coley:
“I met you on a springtime day
You were mindin’ your life and I was mindin’ mine too
Lady, when you looked my way
I had a strange sensation and darlin’, that’s when I knew
That it’s sad to belong to someone else
When the right one comes along
Oh, I wake up in the night, and I reach beside me hoping you would be there
But instead I find someone who believed in me when I said, “I’d always care”
I was listening to “Saving all my love for you” by Whitney Houston the other day. It is not just dawned on me then that it was a cheating song!
Oh here is another one I remember hearing play in the living room while fw was sitting on his big ass lazyboy talking to who he said was one of the other police officers. It was playing low in the back ground, he listened to a lot of country stuff.
“Linda On My Mind”
That song in particular doesn’t bother me so much as when he left remembering all the times I was literally cooking his dinner while he was likely sitting in his chair talking to the whore.
Earlier this week I was talking to a chump acquaintance. I knew she had been chumped 5 years ago but she gave more of the story. She caught him on dating apps and all the usual. She made a fake profile and got him strung along. Agreed to meet at a hotel to hook up. The day of the meet up, he announces he is going to go get a beer with a work friend. And after much back and forth, she tells him he isn’t going to meet anybody. And the blood drained from his face when she said, “I’m Linda.” lol The name of his fake OW. Her attorney had already put the wheels in motion and she told him to get out. She was so joyful telling the story. 😁
The Pina Colada song. Both would be cheaters. How romantic.
I think “hit the road Jack, and don’t you come back no more” should be CN anthem.
I was flipping through the channels and caught some rerun of “Benny Hill Show”. As the article Tracy linked in her post stated, the Brits already have Boris Johnson and he’s not funny either.
I need to shave my hairy legs.
“I Want You” by Elvis Costello, or even more so, the Fiona Apple cover. Told from the FW’s perspective, but absolutely emotionally devastating. Used to be one of my favorite songs, but now I’m a wreck whenever I hear it. He destroyed so many of my favorite things for me.
i always thought that Elvis was the chump in this song. he’s found out his girl slept with another guy—but he can’t help that he still loves her and still wants her–while at the same time he keeps ruminating about what she did with the other guy. i love that song so much.
Randy Travis’ “Storms of Life” is a masterpiece of country music. But the songs are awful… especially “Reasons I Cheat” and “On the Other Hand” — they are exhibits A and B of why country music is fucked up:
“Reasons I Cheat”
A working day too long
When everything goes wrong
And a boss who don’t know I’m alive
I once had a notion
I’d get that promotion
But now I barely survive
A wife too demanding
With no understanding
Of why I stay dead on my feet
A dimly lit tavern
A willing young woman
Are some of the reasons I cheat
My children keep growin’
My age keeps on showin’
Like all of my old friends I meet
So I’m gettin older
My life’s growing colder
Just some of the reasons I cheat
The hair that I’m losing
And a woman who’s choosing
To lay sound asleep by my side
The bills they are mounting
That’s when I start counting
On someone to help soothe my pride
A lady that knows me
Affection she shows me
And a smile so easy and sweet
The dreams that I’ve buried
The load that I carry
Are some of the reasons I cheat
My children keep growin’
My age keeps on showin’
Like all of my old friends I meet
So I’m gettin older
My life’s growing colder
Just some of the reasons I cheat
“On the Other Hand”:
On one hand, I count the reasons I could stay with you
And hold you close to me all night long
So many lover’s games I’d love to play with you
On that hand there’s no reason why it’s wrong
But on the other hand, there’s a golden band
To remind me of someone who would not understand
On one hand, I could stay and be your lovin’ man
But the reason I must go is on the other hand
In your arms, I feel the passions I thought had died
When I looked into your eyes, I found myself
And when I first kissed your lips, I felt so alive
I’ve got to hand it to you girl, you’re somethin’ else
But on the other hand, there’s a golden band
To remind me of someone who would not understand
On one hand, I could stay and be your lovin’ man
But the reason I must go is on the other hand
Yeah, the reason I must go is on the other hand
I hate, hate, hate “Jessie’s Girl”. It’s not even a cheating song per se, but that guy drooling over his best friend’s girlfriend is just gross.
bruce springsteen:
Queen: Too Much Love Will Kill You (Brian May cheater song)
I hope we have a “songs that empower you” friday soon too
This pisses me off to no end.
Run To You by Bryan Adams
She says her love for me could never die
But that’d change if she ever found out about you and I
Oh but her love is cold
Wouldn’t hurt her if she didn’t know, ’cause
When it gets too much
I need to feel your touch
I’m gonna run to you
I’m gonna run to you
‘Cause when the feelin’s right I’m gonna run all night
I’m gonna run to you
She’s got a heart of gold, she’d never let me down
But you’re the one that always turns me on
You keep me comin’ ’round
I know her love is true
But it’s so damn easy makin’ love to you
I got my mind made up
I need to feel your touch
I’m gonna run to you
Yeah I’m gonna run to you
‘Cause when the feelin’s right I’m gonna stay all night
I’m gonna run to you
Yeah I’m gonna run to you
Oh when the feelin’s right I’m gonna run all night
I’m gonna run to you
Oh I’m gonna run to you
Yeah I’m gonna run to you
‘Cause when the feelin’s right I’m gonna stay all night
I’m gonna run to you
Oh I’m gonna run to you
Yeah when the feelin’s right I’m gonna stay all night
Oh when the feelin’s right now
Oh yeah, when the feelin’s right now
I’m gonna run to you, oh oh
Yeah I’m gonna run to you, yeah now
Oh I’m gonna to run to you, run to you
Baby, I’m gonna run to you
Oh
Oh, oh, I’m gonna run, run, run right all night now, yeah
Old country plus cheating.
Broken Promised Land “and a woman in my arms who shouldn’t be”
Don Williams “Gypsy woman” “while my tender wife and children slumber softly….”
Ugh
I know this is about songs but what about the Krystal’s “Side Chick” vs “Main Chick” Billboards and commercials???? Those have me raging when I see them!!!! One is “Everyone needs a side chick”. Whoever came up with that ad campaign is an obvious cheating whore!
Oh I hate this ad! I complained about it on FB and got so many comments!
I had to look it up, Southern Chump, and omg! I can’t imagine this running in Canada. I’d be up for a UBT of this eyeroll-inducing justification: https://www.vibe.com/news/business/krystal-side-chik-brittany-renner-2-chainz-1234698439/
Actually, maybe not, because I’d never heard of Krystal before this, and now I have, so I guess their stupid campaign worked, and they don’t deserve the press to CL’s audience.
I wished we didn’t have it here in the states. I’m obviously in the South (Bible Belt) and it’s such a hypocrisy especially with all the “holier than thou” Bible beating raging FW. (Insert Eye Roll) It was probably a cheating hypocritical Baptist or Evangelical that came up with the ad.
Yikes… every one I can think of is a country song. There are only a few artists in that genre I like and they, thankfully, don’t glorify cheating (thank goodness for Brad Paisley). The ones that irk me the most are the ones that glorify the pick me dance. You know the I-will-win-because-I-am-better tropes. Crystal Gayle’s “Your Nobody Called Today” and Loretta Lynn’s “You Ain’t Woman Enough” make me cringe.
I always liked Crystal and Loretta, it is hard to see them as sisters; but that is likely the age difference.
Yeah the Jolene one, and the Take my man one. ick. And when I was listening to them when they first came out; I never really lighted on the lyrics. For so many, adultery changes everything, and the way we look at things.
I did always like Crystal “I’ll Get Over You”. I still do, mostly the tune.
Not a song but a recent car ad- “That’s So You” used to highlight that the car has some bit of technology or capacity that makes the driver seem smart to have chosen such a vehicle. The last scene where the soccer coach says “You brought all those players in your Buick???” “Yep” says the eager soccer mom, grinning. “That’s SO YOU,” says the overly-interested, creepy-ass coach, smiling wryly.
Smash-cut in my imagination to where the super-taxi soccer mom and the coach are fucking each other and lying to their spouses. Two families are destroyed.
I really hate that commercial. The boundary-crossing familiarity between that coach and the mom are too much to take, and this exact scenario is how a thousand affair ships have been launched. Next he will be telling her how his wife doesn’t understand him and they have a dead bedroom, and she will say how she doesn’t feel appreciated by her husband and they are just like roommates now. Such a trope- the soccer mom fucking the coach, puh-leeze. I can’t stand it.
Unfortunately having been brutally chumped I am like the little boy in The Sixth Sense- “I see cheating people.”
Now IC, I hate that ad too! It’s insulting to women to say that their entire identity is based on having a big ass car so they can continue to be of service to an even larger group of people than just their own children. Hey, I personally have more going on in my life than just what kind of car I drive LOL, I don’t need to be defined by it. And yes, that coach is creepy AF! Good call!
The Phil Collins song, “Against all odds”. It doesn’t specifically mention cheating but describes the chump experience of bomb-drop pretty well.
How can I just let you walk away, just let you leave without a trace
When I stand here taking every breath with you, ooh
You’re the only one who really knew me at all
How can you just walk away from me,
When all I can do is watch you leave
Cause we’ve shared the laughter and the pain and even shared the tears
You’re the only one who really knew me at all
“Smoke from a Distant Fire” Sanford Townsend band
Don’t know if someone already mentioned this one..
Bryan Adams “Run to You”.
Such a good tune to such a bad theme, I can’t listen to it anymore.
“Follow Me” by Uncle Kracker.
= )
Gah. I can’t listen to music AT ALL since discovery and breakup. Like a switch flipped. My brain changed and now I only listen to Tibetan chants.
The Piña colada song is the absolute worst.
A few from the sappy 1970s:
Operator – Jim Croce
“She’s living in L.A. with my best old ex friend, Ray. A guy she said she knew, well and sometimes hated.”
Ruby – Don’t Take Your Love to Town – Kenny Rogers
Sundown – Gordon Lightfoot
“I can see her lying back in her satin dress / In a room where you do what you don’t confess.”
*****
Did everyone cheat in the 1970s?
My mother married 4 men between 1956 and 1989. She cheated on all of them. I was born in ‘64 and she married the fourth one when I was 18 and still living at home. I think I should have been able to spot a cheater, but my STBX slipped under my radar. A month after our 35th anniversary was D Day. Hooker habit and porn. Good times.
Ultimate FW song…TipToe by indie band Carbonleaf
Tip toe, tip toe… tip toe, tip toe… out of your heart.
And I’m not that proud, I’m not that proud at all,
But I don’t know how to gently break your fall.
Forgive me I’m a coward and a stray,
And I don’t know how to boldly walk away.
Forgive me I’m a coward and a stray,
And I don’t know how to boldly walk away.
So I tip toe, tip toe… out of your heart.
Once upon a summertime is gone,
Wide awake but drifting off and on.
I’m a boat without an anchor or an oar,
You’re a cottage sitting pretty by the shore.
When love is on fire, I’m a bird on a wire.
It’s easier to stay, high above the way,
It’s easier to stay, high above the way,
Of your heart.
And I’m not that proud, I’m not that proud at all,
But I don’t know how to gently break your fall.
Forgive me I’m a coward and a stray,
And I don’t know how to boldly walk away.
I’m a boat without an anchor or an oar,
You’re a cottage sitting pretty by the shore.
I’m a boat without an anchor or an oar,
Spare me boy I’ve heard it all before.
So I just tip toe, tip toe. out of my…
“Forgive me I’m a coward and a stray,
And I don’t know how to boldly walk away.”
Translation; “I like cake.”
If no one else has already posted this about country duo Chapel Hart’s update of the Dolly Parton classic Jolene, check it out here -https://youtu.be/2-kM4LUlnAY
Their redo is “You can have him Jolene “, and as the lead singer says ” it’s 2022, we can’t still be fighting over the same guy.” Correct!! Dolly Parton has given them her blessing, Loretta Lynn has asked them to update any of her songs, and Darius Rucker is putting them on his next album. Progress!
and I think so many women back in the day were afraid of being left because of the financial implications of losing their man’s salary. Women are also making progress there too! https://medium.com/@lindafalcao/what-do-tampons-have-to-do-with-the-2022-midterms-81d4b3d82f66
Some wonderful witchy woman (kamarahraesings) on TikTok wrote a follow up/rewrite and it is soooo much better:
Daddy don’t know mommy’s casting spells
In her cauldron we’ll
Summon something unholy
You messed up when you fucked with her
Now you’re a prisoner
She’ll torture you slowly…
More (very) old school stuff:
Lightning Strikes – Lou Christie (just wait for me until I’m done running around)
Ooh Baby Baby – Miracles (I messed up; feel sorry for me)
Working My Way Back to You – Four Seasons (I didn’t realize you’d leave me for cheating)
Go Away Little Girl – Bobby Vee (contemplating cheating, with the additional implication that she’s a minor)
Your Love – Outfield (she’s out of town and I just can’t control myself)
Papa Was a Rolling Stone – Temptations (he’s an absolute dog and Mama is an enabler)
Those are just the ones at the top of my head – I’m sure that I could list more given enough time but I’ll stop here.
I had forgotten about Go Away Little Girl. What a rancid song. 🤮
Trace Adkins ONE HOT MAMA is the only thing that pops into mind.
Lovebombing stage. I just go back to my roots and throw on Skynyrd’s CHEATING WOMAN.🎶🎩
Way across town the phone rings off the wall
If you knew he ain’t home, why do you keep callin’?
You’re gonna drive yourself crazy and you know that it’s true
It’s just makin’ you wild and blue
Wild and blue, it’s no wonder
Look at the things that you do
They can just take you up yonder, Honey
You’re already wild and blue
In somebody’s room on some far side of town
With your minds all made up and the shades all pulled down
Somebody’s trying to satisfy you
He don’t know you’re wild and blue
Wild and blue, it’s no wonder
Look at the things that you do
They can take you up yonder, Honey
You’re already wild and blue
It’s four in the morning and you’re all alone
With no place to go, why don’t you come home?
I’ll be right here, baby, waitin’ on you
I know you’ve been wild and blue
Wild and blue, it’s no wonder
Look at the things that you do
They can take you up yonder, Honey
You’re already wild and blue
Wild and blue, it’s no wonder
Look at the things that you do
They can take you up yonder, Honey
You’re already wild and blue
They can just take you way on up yonder, Honey
You’re already wild and blue
Bryan Adams “Run to you” for chumps:
She said her love for me could never die
But that’d change if she ever found out about you and I
Oh, yeah my love is cold and I’ll always hurt her ’cause she doesn’t know
Adulting’s way too much
Need you to feel my crutch
I’m gonna run to you
Spend all my mon on you
When she believes my lies,
I fuck whoever I like
When ever I want to.
Nicely done, CMAR.
Here’s a link to a bunch of gross cheater songs;
https://www.buzzfeed.com/kelleydunlap/shameless-songs-for-unapologetic-cheaters
The lyric from this list that best sun’s up the cheater mindset;
“I like being in the same room as you and your girlfriend / The fact that she don’t know / That really turns me on.”
Imagine being proud of a thing like that. “Hey, I’m a sociopath. Isn’t that sexy?” Barf!
I meant sums up. Autocorrect is being a jerk again.
Gordon Lightfoot, “If you could read my mind” , I always hated that song long before I was twice chumped.
Bonus points for narcissism:
“I’d walk away like a movie star
Who gets burned in a three way script
Enter number two, a movie queen to play the scene
Of bringing all the good things out in me
But for now, love, let’s be real
I never thought I could act this way
And I’ve got to say that I just don’t get it
I don’t know where we went wrong
But the feeling’s gone and I just can’t get it back”
Nickel Creek, “Helena,” also with bonus points for narcissism:
“You look so sweet
Waiting for me
While I wait for her
To give me any reason to leave
Don’t waste your pretty sympathy
She’s gonna be just fine
Helena so will we
So will everything in time
Helena don’t walk away
Did you hear one word I said oh well
I never really liked her anyway
And I forgot her
I’ll forget you, Helena,
You’re not that sweet
And neither is she
Go ahead and tell her anything
You are good, Helena
Guys like me never sleep alone at night
I don’t need your sympathy
‘Cause I’ll always be
Just fine
Yeah I’ll always be
Just fine”
There are a couple of musicians I used to adore that I had to stop listening to or revering, once I found out they were cheaters… Neil Young; I’d long admired his and Peggy’s marriage, their foundation for special needs kids, etc. then he cheated on her while she was dying of cancer…. Wayne Coyne of the Flaming Lips… cheated on his long time spouse who’d been the band’s photographer and helped his career, he cheated on her with Miley Cyrus, young enough to be his daughter, just gross and disgusting.
The song I hate is The Carolinian by Chatham County Line. It romanticizes love at first sight to a ridiculous degree – a guy meets a girl on a train but he can tell he’s not just beautiful! She’s also kind and WISE! Guy goes home to the woman that is having his baby rather than going with Magical Wise Girl, and it’s such a tragedy. Of course this trash is country-adjacent, lol. Anyway long before DDay this gave me the creeps that FW liked it so much. That’s kind of how he picked me, decided I was The One before he really knew me, and I sort of always knew he could someday trip over some other shiny object and suddenly she’s Kind and Wise and The One, mistakenly ascribing meaning to lust, limerance, whatever. This was looooong before I suspected him of actually cheating.
Not an answer to the question, but a song story:
FW loved the Carolina Chocolate Drops, and the Chump-revenge song Hit ‘Em Up Style (https://g.co/kgs/UEkQ42) was in his frequent rotation. After DDay while stuck in the same house as FW, that song came on, and it’s all about the Chump cleaning out FW’s bank account and throwing his clothes in the street. I point blank asked FW why he was still playing it, like wasn’t he afraid it would give me ideas? He said he thought about taking it off his playlist pre-DDay, but was afraid I’d notice. What an idiot. Anyway I didn’t take anything, except in court of course. 😁
I don’t really have songs that make me barf but I do have two divorce songs. After my first marriage ended the Eagles song, All Ready Gone, was one of my all time favorites, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SoduRTF9J-o. The second marriage was a fucked up fiasco I’m still having problems with and someone on CL referred to this song and it’s become my new favorite; The Band Perry – Done, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4emYaDbaJ8w. Actually, there are some movies that make me sick to my stomach. The two worst, Mama Mia – she slept with 3 men and did not know who the father of her child was – not cute, not funny; and P.S. I love you – the guy who dies sets up his wife with someone who looks just like him, it was gross, not cute. My most recent bizarre experience was watching “Elvis” with Tom Hanks during a final attempt to reconcile with my ex wife and her daughter. While Elvis was kissing women in front of Priscilla my ex FW actually groaned but failed to catch the irony of the moment. Her daughter did…
Well, what about the whole Lemonade album by Beyonce? I know she took him back, but some of the lyrics are still powerful and really take me there.
LOOKING AT MY WATCH HE SHOULD’VE BEEN HOME
TODAY I REGRET THE NIGHT I PUT THAT RING ON
HE ALWAYS GOT THEM FUCKING EXCUSES
I PRAY TO THE LORD YOU REVEAL WHAT HIS TRUTH IS
I LEFT A NOTE IN THE HALLWAY
BY THE TIME YOU READ IT I’LL BE FAR AWAY
I’M FAR AWAY
BUT I AIN’T FUCKING WITH NOBODY
LET’S HAVE A TOAST TO THE GOOD LIFE
SUICIDE BEFORE YOU SEE THIS TEAR FALL DOWN MY EYES
ME AND MY BABY WE GONE BE ALRIGHT
WE GON’ LIVE A GOOD LIFE
BIG HOMIE BETTER GROW UP
ME AND MY WHOADIES ‘BOUT TO STROLL UP
I SEE THEM BOPPERS IN THE CORNER
THEY SNEAKING OUT THE BACK DOOR
HE ONLY WANT ME WHEN I’M NOT THERE
HE BETTER CALL BECKY WITH THE GOOD HAIR
HE BETTER CALL BECKY WITH THE GOOD HAIR
I have loved you ever since I listened to your audio book 4 years ago (and have re-listened probably a dozen times. BTW, the narrator was outstanding!!!!), but your reference and love of Faron Young has taken my admiration to an entirely new level. Well done…well, well done! XO Happy Holidays Dearest Chump Lady – BTW, I’d like to let you know that I am fully in a State of Meh and I highly recommend it. It’s not a panacea – sometimes I get sad about what went down – but Meh is the Ruling State at this point in my life. And, as you say in your book, “I highly recommend it!”
I’m late to the party, but I have a cheater song and a pick-me song.
“I Saw Her Again Last Night” by the Mamas and the Papas. When I was young, these lyrics made no sense to me at all:
“I saw her again last night
And you know that I shouldn’t
To string her along’s just not right
If I couldn’t I wouldn’t
But what can I do, I’m lonely too
And it makes me feel so good to know
You’ll never leave me
I’m in way over my head
Now she thinks that I love her
Because that’s what I said
Though I never think of her
But what can I do, I’m lonely too
And it makes me feel so good to know
You’ll never leave me.”
“Jesse,” by Carly Simon. I just heard this on sat radio today:
“Jesse, I won’t cut fresh flowers for you
Jesse, I won’t make the wine cold for you
Jesse, I won’t change the sheets for you
I won’t put on cologne
I won’t sit by the phone for you
Annie, keep reminding me
That he cut out my heart like a paper doll
Sally, tell me once again
How he set me up just to see me fall.
Jesse, quick come here
I won’t tell a soul
Not even myself
Jesse, that you’ve come back to me
My friends will all say “She’s gone again”
But how can anyone know what you are to me
That I’m in heaven again because you’ve come back to me
Oh Jessie!”
Why Can’t I Breathe by Liz Phair. I lost all respect for her, and then realized how many of her songs she outs herself as a serial cheater.
https://youtu.be/qUALb0sGdto
Wasn’t me by Shaggy. When it first came out I was a teenager and was still innocent and had not experienced mindfuck, and I thought it had a good beet. But since being cheated on I can’t stand it anymore.
I’m all over the anti cheater songs….Miranda Lambert’s “Kerosene”and Rory and Joey’s “Cheater, Cheater” with the line, “Cheater, cheater where’d you meet that no good, white trash ho?”