Category: Blameshifting

lame excuses

Stupid Cheater Lame Excuses

Ever need something from a FW? Then you’ve probably witnessed a barrage of nonsense about why they cannot do you this one small solid. Yesterday, …

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The OW Calls Herself a Feminist

Dear Chump Lady, I am 8 months post divorce from FW, we were married for 21 years. It was such a long road though, years …

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She Said If I Was French I’d Accept the Cheating

Hi Chump Lady, I became friends with an older (mid 60s) French-Canadian woman who moved into my neighbourhood this summer. Over some wine recently, I …

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What Dreams of Happiness Did You Crush?

Apparently, many of us stood in the way of cheater greatness. Reading all the stories here, I noticed how so many chumps just crush dreams …

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Mindfuck blender

Stupid Things Cheaters Say After D-Day?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband said some of the most absurd things after I caught him cheating and I filed for divorce. You know, things …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: Why HER?

Dear Chump Lady, Bullshit translator, please. My ex and I were together for almost 19 years, married for just 1 week shy of 15 years. …

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Stupid Things People Say to Chumps

People say a lot of stupid, insensitive things to chumps. It’s everything from the grossly mistaken — “Gee, the affair partner doesn’t seem all that …

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My Family Wants Me to Support My Cheating Brother

Hi Chump Lady, My brother is having an affair, he has denied it repeatedly for the last year, and has been gaslighting my sister-in-law by …

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Schmoopie Dumped Him, He Blames the Kids

Hi Chump Lady, After three years, the wheels have fallen off the FW & Schmoopie love bus! All the “I finally found my soulmate, sorry …

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Nice

UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice

The Universal Bullshit Translator gets a lot of “It’s not what I did, it’s how you reacted” pitchforked into it. Blameshifting lays around in piles. Why …

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fault

Why Does Everyone Assume Cheating Is the Chump’s Fault?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve recently been pondering something that irks me, and would really appreciate your opinion. In various conversations with some friends over the …

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Mindfuck blender

UBT: ‘They are all deep connections with different colors’

Hi Chump Lady, I read your book right after D-Day, lying on the floor, to stop myself from feeling like I’m falling. At the time, …

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fault

Are You Sure It’s Not My Fault?

Dear Chump Lady, I stumbled upon your blog and subsequently your book after two D-days that unearthed three affairs over a six-year period. I’m currently …

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cheat on me

‘She Must’ve Made the Right Decision to Cheat’

Dear Chump lady, Seeking your advice on the following: Background, was with partner for 16 years who decided the grass was greener with a married …

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crush with happiness

Decoding ‘I Haven’t Been Happy For a Long Time’

The other week someone asked me to decode, “I haven’t been happy for a long time.” (Also sometimes expressed as “WE haven’t been happy for …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘You Should’ve Been a Better Husband’

Dear Chump Lady: Since my previous UBT experience was very informative and helpful, I thought I’d serve up another platter of sanctimonious cake speak from …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘You Made Me Leave You’

Hi Chump Lady, Thank you for being there as a light post through this journey. My question is more of a request for some classic …

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mindfuck

UBT: ‘You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat’

Usually cheaters run chumps down and blameshift their affairs. You Weren’t Meeting Their Needs. You suck. They love you, but just not in that clandestine-hooker-profile-rent-a-room kind of way. …

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sadz

Ben Affleck Has a Sadz

Celebrity drunk and dropper of ice coffee, Ben Affleck, had some words to say yesterday on the Howard Stern show about his former marriage to …

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schmoopies

UBT: Will the Sex Get Boring?

Oh the horror should Schmoopie luv grow cold. An alert chump sent this advice column from The Times (UK) by Suzi Godson to the Universal …

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