Category: Sex addiction

Serial cheater

Do Cheaters Disguise Themselves As Addicts?

Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump with a 7-year relationship full of deceit and cheating under my belt. It just ended last week and I’m …

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not a unicorn

It’s Different. He’s Been to Therapy.

Dear Chump Lady, Let me tell you my story because I find it quite impressive. And also because there are some things about it I …

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Hopium

She Won’t Leave Her Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I don’t know what to do, his sister (my SIL) is a chump of epic proportions. She is 18 …

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Five Months Pregnant and He Announces He’s Getting His ‘Needs’ Met Elsewhere

Hi Chump Lady, A little about my situation: I’m five and a half months pregnant with my and my boyfriend of four years’ much wanted …

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Husband Uses Massage Parlors

Dear Chump Lady, I would appreciate your advice. My husband had gone out to “run an errand.” I received a text that said “Come in. …

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sex addict brain

He Says He’s a Sex Addict. Should I Keep Dating Him?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve read through all your archives and can’t quite find a situation like mine, and I don’t know what to do. I …

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Rejection man

She Was Going to ‘Make It Up to Me’

Hello Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your posts for the past three years understanding and yet ignoring all of your sage advice till just recently. …

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broken heart

He Cheated on Me with Prostitutes

Hi Chump Lady, I just found proof and eventually received a disclosure from my boyfriend of 1.5 years that he has been cheating on me …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

We Reconciled… He Cheated Again

Hi Chump Lady, I just finished your book… For the second time. Two years ago I found out he had an affair with a 20-something …

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broken heart

My Mom Sided with the Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, After five years of being with my soon-to-be-ex husband, (4 years engaged, 10 best friends), I finally leapt off the proverbial cliff …

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But He’s Such a Nice Guy!

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 25 years is a really good father/uncle/church member, who is friendly to everyone and is generally a very nice …

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glorious asshole

UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby

New York magazine runs a feature called “Sex Diaries,” sort of like Penthouse forum but without the improving articles. Readers anonymously send in details of their …

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broken heart

My New Husband Is a ‘Sex Addict’

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve recently discovered my partner of 5 years and brand new husband is a sex addict. He has cheated on me in …

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He sees prostitutes. She’s ‘stuck in a fog’.

Dear Chump Lady I’ve been in an over 40-year marriage in which I’ve invested a lot of emotional equity. My husband was unfaithful from the …

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Mindfuck blender

The ‘People Pleaser’ Excuse

I used to see this “wayward” excuse all the time on infidelity RIC forums — the cheater isn’t a vapid, selfish, destructive person. No! They’re a …

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Interview with Dr. David Ley, ‘The Myth of Sex Addiction’ author

Anyone dealing with a “sex addict”? I thought this interview with Dr. David Ley, the major debunker of sex addiction, was worth a rerun. My …

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broken heart

When ‘Sex Addiction’ Turns Deadly

Dear Chump Lady, I have been an avid reader of Chumplady.com for the last 16 months. After marrying my soon to be erstwhile husband, I …

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UBT the Trust Bank

CN, why haven’t we deconstructed the bullshit trope of the Trust Bank yet? OMG, I’ve let you down! Recently, I got a letter that went …

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Untangling the skein of fuckupedness

Dear Chump Lady, He claims he still loves me

Dear Chump Lady, You may have addressed this in the past. I’m leaving a partner of 43 years whom I’ve learned has been visiting prostitutes …

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Rejection man

Dear Chump Lady, She was ‘going to make it up to me’

Hello Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your posts for the past three years understanding and yet ignoring all of your sage advice till just recently. …

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