Category: Trust that they suck
How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to the OW?
Dear Chump Lady, I am five months out from the last Dday. I did not do the pick me dance, I drew boundaries and protected …
6 Thoughts on Character Assassination
A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …
Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?
Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. …
Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?
Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …
Snappy Answers to Chumpy Questions
Dear Chump Lady, My husband keeps cheating on me with the same woman. They were in a relationship before he and I got into one. …
Ethical Non-Monogamy Was a Bust
Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — …
What Makes the New Guy Better?
Dear Chump Lady, I wasn’t married, but had been seriously dating someone for a year. I know this is nothing compared to a long marriage …
Acts of Chump Rebellion
Every liberation campaign begins with an act of rebellion. Today’s Friday challenge is to tell Chump Nation about that first moment you un-chumped. Maybe you’re one …
Cheating on a Marine? Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki
An alert chump in the U.S. military sent me this link to the columnist “Ms. Vicki” whose advice runs in military publications and on military.com. …
The ‘Only One Who Really Cares’?
Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 29 1/2 years to an amazing, dedicated, sweet husband. In 2009 we lost our teenage daughter after only …
He’s Sorry He Got Caught
Dear Chump Lady, When I asked my husband why he kept cheating, his reply was — he never thought he’d get caught. What would have been a better …
Meeting the OW for the First Time
Hi Chump Lady, I have a problem that I am really struggling with. What do I do when I meet the ex and the OW …
Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?
He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.
He Butt-Dialed Her from the OW’s
He butt-dialed her from the OW’s place. Now she’s wondering if they can still be friends. Chump Lady on why that’s a regrettable idea.
Why Does He Hate Me?
Hi Chump Lady, My ex cheated with Schmoopie, up-ed and left what I thought was the perfect life, home, and family, to move three hours …
He’s Having a Baby with the OW
Dear Chump Lady, It’s me, again. Doubly Chumped. I wrote to you back in January about being duped by two FWs in my life — …
He’s ‘Saving’ the Other Woman
Hi Chump Lady, I have been married to my possible soon-to-be-ex for 25 years (M 53). I should have left in 2007 when he had …
Is He Winning?
She pays the bills and thinks he’s cheating. Why is she putting up with this?
Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?
Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married …
Struggling with No Contact
Dear Chump Lady, Holy crap, Chump Lady, I feel like hell today. This No Contact is killing me. I woke up with a sense of …
