Category: Trust that they suck

Voodoo doll

How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to the OW?

Dear Chump Lady, I am five months out from the last Dday. I did not do the pick me dance, I drew boundaries and protected …

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6 Thoughts on Character Assassination

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

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Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?

Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. …

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chasing unicorn

Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …

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Snappy Answers to Chumpy Questions

Dear Chump Lady, My husband keeps cheating on me with the same woman. They were in a relationship before he and I got into one. …

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broken heart

Ethical Non-Monogamy Was a Bust

Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — …

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Rejection man

What Makes the New Guy Better?

Dear Chump Lady, I wasn’t married, but had been seriously dating someone for a year. I know this is nothing compared to a long marriage …

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fuck this shit

Acts of Chump Rebellion

Every liberation campaign begins with an act of rebellion. Today’s Friday challenge is to tell Chump Nation about that first moment you un-chumped. Maybe you’re one …

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Cheating on a Marine? Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki

An alert chump in the U.S. military sent me this link to the columnist “Ms. Vicki” whose advice runs in military publications and on …

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The ‘Only One Who Really Cares’?

Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 29 1/2 years to an amazing, dedicated, sweet husband. In 2009 we lost our teenage daughter after only …

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caught cheating

He’s Sorry He Got Caught

Dear Chump Lady, When I asked my husband why he kept cheating, his reply was — he never thought he’d get caught. What would have been a better …

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Voodoo doll

Meeting the OW for the First Time

Hi Chump Lady, I have a problem that I am really struggling with. What do I do when I meet the ex and the OW …

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not a unicorn

Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?

He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.

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butt dial

He Butt-Dialed Her from the OW’s

He butt-dialed her from the OW’s place. Now she’s wondering if they can still be friends. Chump Lady on why that’s a regrettable idea.

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hate me

Why Does He Hate Me?

Hi Chump Lady, My ex cheated with Schmoopie, up-ed and left what I thought was the perfect life, home, and family, to move three hours …

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no contact

He’s Having a Baby with the OW

Dear Chump Lady, It’s me, again. Doubly Chumped. I wrote to you back in January about being duped by two FWs in my life — …

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He’s ‘Saving’ the Other Woman

Hi Chump Lady, I have been married to my possible soon-to-be-ex for 25 years (M 53). I should have left in 2007 when he had …

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Is He Winning?

She pays the bills and thinks he’s cheating. Why is she putting up with this?

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Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?

Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married …

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no contact

Struggling with No Contact

Dear Chump Lady, Holy crap, Chump Lady, I feel like hell today. This No Contact is killing me. I woke up with a sense of …

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