Critic of toxic dating culture and unapologetically happy single person, Shani Silver joined us for season two of the Tell Me How You’re Mighty podcast.
Stop the single shame.
Sarah (another happy single person) and I talked with Shani about shedding the societal shame around being uncoupled. An important gain-a-life message for anyone who’s ever dumped a cheater and feared life on the other side.
Given the overlap of our communities, I think Shani and I are fighting a common Bogeyman — the You’re Damaged Goods Without a Partner hobgoblin. The fear that keeps people shackled to FWs, putting up with way more nonsense than they should, all to win some prize not worth having.
I love this TikTok of Shani’s (speaking of of dumping jerks…)
@shanisilver It’s a beautiful day to end the wrong relationship. #asinglerevolution ♬ original sound – Shani Silver
All that is wrong with toxic dating culture
While Shani’s work prides itself on not offering women dating tips, we did enjoy discussing the insanity of others that do. To wit, He’s Just Not That Into You (aka If He Wanted to, He Would’ve.) Apparently, you should’ve received a decoder ring for a FW’s mixed messages. Why, Shani, rightly points out, isn’t the onus on jerks to not lead women on?
Switch it around. #asinglerevolution♬ original sound – Shani Silver
And speaking of toxic dating culture, we also tear apart the FW of the Week — a story courtesy of CN member Luzianna who received a Venmo request from a man she broke up with the year previously, asking for his Christmas gift back.
I know it’s rough out there. So be choosey. You’re better than a FW. And there isn’t a damn thing wrong being single.
I was recently a guest on Shani’s podcast, which is exclusively on Patreon for her subscribers. I’ll let you know when it comes out later this month.
Tune in next week, when Sarah and I discuss The 10 Questions to Ask Your Unfaithful Partner. Trial tested results! Spoiler: We did not get honest answers.