UBT: “No One Is Perfect”

SuperDuperChump sent this missive from his ex-wife to the Universal Bullshit Translator. You’ll recall, from an earlier amazing post “Miracles Happen on Tuesdays”, SuperDuperChump’s then-cheating-wife left him for dead after surgery (while he was sleeping off anesthesia) to go fuck her Other Man, a pastor. (You. Cannot. Make. This. Shit. Up.)

Well… she’s baaaack. SuperDuperChump gained the life, the divorce, and gained a good woman too. Oh hey, his ex is “sorry” now.

Sorta.

The UBT.

Please do not be mad at Jessica for giving me your address. I am sorry that you are filled with so much hatred towards me that you always ignore my phone calls. It is unhealthy to be so angry. It will kill you.

I’m filled with so much hatred toward you that I stalked Jessica for your address. DO NOT IGNORE MY PHONE CALLS. Depriving me of kibbles could kill you.

#justconcerned

I wanted to let you know I am sorry for everything.

All the things. The nameless, unspecified things. Rain. Traffic. Gum on your shoe. People who say “impactful.” Tiny dogs in purses. The GOP tax bill. Everything! (Except those things I actually did). #notsorry

You told the judge that you wasted the best 25 years of your life, but I do not feel that way.

And really how I feel is the important thing.

I cherish those years with you.

I cherish cake.

I am sorry for being wayward.

Here’s a nice sanitized euphemism. Am I a person who fucked around on her spouse, or am I person who wanders helplessly into snowdrifts? #helpmeivefallenandicantgetup

I am sorry for all the credit cards and finances that I messed up.

I am sorry you no longer pay my bills.

I am sorry for forcing you to sell the shop. All you had to do was buy out my half of everything and I would have let you keep it. I was only doing what my attorney told me to do.

Those evil attorneys, telling people what to do. Who hired them?

I’m sorry I did this terrible thing that is your fault, but which could’ve been averted had you only done the impossible.

Oh hey, let me make it up to you! Here’s a puppy. I’m going to bash its head in with a brick, unless you guess the number I’m thinking of between 1 and 786,549.

I’m sorry, the number was 7.

Had you only answered 7, I would’ve let you keep it.

#feelmysorry

Even though it has been almost 2 years, I am still having a tough time with all of this and I want to have a clear conscience. I am going to counseling and have started going back to church. So, here goes:

Me, me, me. Jesus. ME.

I am so very sorry for never loving you.

Fuck you, you unlovable sonofabitch.

I’m so very sorry you are unlovable. I am a person capable of great love. However, your repulsiveness was just a challenge too great. My magnanimity was no match for your hideousness.

I was a struggling, single mom with 2 little girls and I had to think about about my children.

The children made me use you. Blame them.

I was a magnet to only loser men and they would just use me and discard me like a piece of trash. Then, you came along and treated us so wonderful and loved them like your very own. I still remember that kind, handsome, generous, hard working man who made us feel special.

Chump! I’ll just use you and discard you like a piece of trash.

Projection. It works for me.

I tried so very hard to love you, but the feelings just weren’t there.

Because I don’t have feelings. Just this withered husk where my soul used to be.

I really, really tried.

I made frowny faces and smiley faces. I practiced in the mirror for days! But these, how do you humans say? Feelings, they were impossible.

You were an excellent husband and father, and I should have just been honest. That is actually the reason why I never gave you children of your own.

Because you’re so excellent at being a parent, you would upstage me. Can’t have that.

I am truly, truly sorry. Sometimes I cry because our house isn’t a home any more. I wanted us to grow old together in this house and it will never happen. You worked so hard to provide us a nice place to live. Sometimes I think that I just don’t deserve it anymore.

I cry to think I don’t deserve things.

And then I remember — oh yes I do! And I sober right back up.

I appreciate everything you provided for us.

You suck. However, the material things you provided are appreciated. #ilovethings #shinytoys #andjesus

They would not be successful women if it weren’t for you. I appreciate you allowing me to be a stay at home mom. What you don’t understand is how hard it was. I got bored while you were working. That is the only reason why I started going wayward,

I never would’ve cheated on you, had you not been so generous in allowing me to stay home and be bored. You don’t understand how hard boredom is.

I credit you with the girls successfulness. Me? I was out fucking strange. Hey, someone has to do the hard work of staving off monotony.

and when you came home after work, I felt so dirty and horrible for the things I had done. I had men flirting with me everywhere I went and I was just weak. You have no idea the pressure of being a woman. Men don’t care that you are wearing a wedding ring.

I am fabulous and irresistible to men. You have no idea what it’s like to be fabulous and irresistible.

The men just find me! Home, with glue stick and posterboard making science projects, or stirring a pot of spaghetti-os, they flirt with me everywhere! There’s one under the sofa cushions now. Sssh! He might hear you. No Roderick, not tonight! I have choir practice.

K receives her (degree) on the 15th at Texas Tech and I really think you need to be there. You are still their Daddy and are the only father they have ever known. They are mad at you right now, but you still need to be in their lives.

Let me cudgel you with guilt. KIBBLES. DO IT FOR THE CHILDREN!

I know that you have tried calling them and have sent them cards, but you need to try harder.

I can be a fuck-around stay-at-home mother on your dime, but you need to try harder.

(Excuse me the UBT is malfunctioning. Steam is pouring out of its safety valves. It’s making very rude suggestions about where SuperDuperChump’s ex can stick her gift cards.)

I am sorry that I told them you abused me, but I was just mad when you filed for divorce. You put a huge Scarlet Letter on my chest for everyone to see. I promise I will tell them the truth. They need you. Girls need their Daddy. They love you so dearly and miss you.

It’s okay to falsely accuse you of a crime, because… reasons. My impression management is very important to me and I look bad in Letters.

Girls need a Daddy for everyone to see. I promise I will fuck their heads with lies.

Please come to Lubbock. Please sit with me and Jessica.

Please come to this tornado afflicted backwater and sit with me.

Your Mom has still been a wonderful grandmother through all of this and I understand that she can’t travel because of her health. Even she thinks you need to be there.

If triangulating you with the children doesn’t work, how about your mom?

I know what she thinks. I’m in her head. And your head. And Roderick’s head. What’s that Roderick? I’m beautiful and you must have me right this instant? 

My imaginary sofa cushion boyfriend has spoken. #irresistible #omnipotent2

Even though you moved away and started a new life like a coward, I still know what’s going on in your life. Do not bring her with you. She has no business being there. I remember a tough man who used to face challenges head on. Not this time. You ran away in shame. Yes, in cowardly fashion.

YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND?! UNLOVABLE YOU?! SHE HAS NO BUSINESS BEING HERE.

DO NOT HAVE ANY OTHER GODS BEFORE ME!

I am sorry you are a coward who runs away from me. I am sorry you have a new life that does not include me. I’m sorry I must destroy you. #facechallengesheadon

Please call my parents. They really miss you. You hurt my Dad when you didn’t call on his birthday. I could see the pain and emotion in his eyes.

CALL ME OR THE PENSIONER DIES.

Again, I am truly sorry for everything. No one is perfect. Not even you.”

We are all flawed. Who are you to measure me against perfection? I said I was sorry.

#notsorry

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VulcanChump
VulcanChump
6 years ago

…..HOLY FUCKING SHIT. I would ask who this woman thinks she is to talk to you this way after she abandoned you the way she did, but I don’t think I want to know the answer.

I can’t tell you whether or not to go see your step-daughter, but….JESUS, I honestly think I’m going to be sick on your behalf.

DOCTOR's1stWife&3Kids
DOCTOR's1stWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

At first I thought an abacus would help me keep track of the number of “TOO NARCISSISTIC TO NOT NOTICE” comments. But I then needed a calculator to keep track.

THEN my internal UBT exploded. (Where are my eyes? They came out of my exploded head, after the “DO NOT BRING HER” and that YOU “moved away like a coward”.)

I can understand (for your girlfriends sake), not bringing her. Okay, that’s for YOU and she to decide. Not Ex whore.

But who the fuck is this insane whore ex wife of yours, the QUEEN OF NARCIA to dictate ANYTHING to you?

Okay I gotta go put a bandage around my head due to it exploding…oh good, I found my eyeballs!!

I leave it to other, better people, people with working eyes and unexploded heads to help you with your response.

My divorce hearing is next month and 2 of my 3 kids told me to be ready to “meet schmoopie” AT OUR TRIAL….and you know what, after reading shit like this, I bet they are right.

Takingbackmyname
Takingbackmyname
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

Mine cheated on me told these girls the side whores that he was divorced. Now I’m divorcing him he cries every day tells me I’m destroying him and if I could’ve just helped him things would’ve been fine. This loser was screwing guys and girls on craigslist and I should help him sick bastard

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago

Takingbackmyname,
Can you believe these people?? I can’t believe what you endured. Mine does the same thing – he expects me to help him figure it all out – like distinguishing right from wrong. Really? You’re 64 fucking years old – if you don’t know by now, NO ONE can help you! I resigned from helping the disordered. Now I’m helping myself & my kids…MUCH better!
This POS takes the cake, though – literally. And is seeking more. UNbelievable. It’s like opening the back of a grossly disfigured brain model and trying to make sense of its mangled workings. Sick. Inhuman. Cruel. ENTITLED!

McJJ
McJJ
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

So many times I’ve read CL posts, and think we’ve finally hit the bottom of the barrel. Then one like this comes along and, Nope, she’s dug a hole in the bottom and discovered a new level of hell.

Shechump
Shechump
6 years ago
Reply to  McJJ

McJJ – Gad, I feel the same way exactly! This is totally the bottom, it has to be. I’m still upset 3 hrs later that somebody could be that viscious or crazy, or both.

Emily369
Emily369
6 years ago
Reply to  Shechump

Right? The first part made it feel like my hair stand was standing on end, and then I got to the part where she called him a coward. What???

It still does not compute that someone could go on and on about how shitty a person they are, and then call someone a coward for no longer wanting do continue living that hell. Unreal.

Spoonriver
Spoonriver
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

I read this with my mouth open in disbelief. I’m stunned at the crazy. She is some piece of work.

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

As Chump Lady says, it all circles around and around and around to ENTITLEMENT. That’s who she thinks she is: an entitled, splendid person because, after all, she’s not perfect. Her imperfections entitle her to be an asshole.

violet
violet
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

From the contents of this letter, I have to say nothing that this sorry excuse for a human being has or will do surprises me. In fact, I am worried for SDC, because his X is coming unhinged. She is capable of anything, and SDC should take any and all steps to protect himself. This letter goes far beyond victim blaming and begins to enter into stalking territory.

It’s SDC’s fault because she was so attractive that men were drawn to her like bees to honey and yet, she managed to keep it all together because she loved her kids so much. Sure she did. And she just had to destroy SDC’s business because her lawyer told her to, and she didn’t have any say in that decision. The lies about physical abuse are justified because, darn it, she otherwise would have had to tell her daughters the nasty truth.

“Come to my daughter’s graduation, call my dad on his birthday, ignore the fact that I FALSELY accused you of abuse, and still have not told our daughters that I deliberately lied about it. Feel sorry for me that I don’t feel right living in the home I stole from you. Yeah, I robbed you of your rightful opportunity to have your own children, but what was I supposed to do? Actually work to take care of the kids I brought into this world without you? ” And, of course, the kicker -“I am stalking you and know you have a girlfriend, who you better not bring with you to the graduation I am emotionally blackmailing you to attend. The hussy who dared to date the man I tried to kill and destroy is not invited.”

Let’s not overlook the ultimate knife in the back,”Sorry, not sorry, but I never loved you. I just pretended to so that you would raise my daughters and I would never have to work. All the while you were building a business that I intentionally destroyed because, you know, I had no control over my awful lawyer.” And how dare he refuse to sit next to her at his step-daughter’s graduation! You know, the daughter who hates SDC because her mother has lied to her about being physically abused.

This entire letter makes me want to puke, and worse. Tracy, please include it in your next book as an example of the lengths entitled cheaters go to justify their despicable conduct. Nothing is ever their fault, and the false narrative is constantly changing. This letter is classic cheater speak, and truly covers all the bases!

Recently, I was at a business function and someone I knew professionally in the far distant past felt compelled to bring up my need to forgive OW! See, according to the cheater’s handbook, X and I were never really married. It was a “business arrangement” and surely, OW could not be faulted for falling in love with a man who wasn’t “really” married. OW is a good Christian, who is still being persecuted for something that wasn’t her fault! I am such a vindictive person for not giving her the forgiveness she deserves!

There was a time in the not too distant past that I would have defended my “business arrangement”(which produced four children and lasted over three decades), but no more. Instead, I icily shut that shit down, and excused myself from the conversation. OW’s friend looked like the busy body fool she is. I have moved on, and want nothing to do with those freaks. But the need for attention runs so deep in these kind of people and they will do anything to keep you in their circle of crazy. Thanks, but no thanks.

On a positive note, I was later told the discussion which ensued after I left was a doozy and did not end well for my former acquaintance. I think the recent Moore/Weinstein/Rose, etc., revelations are beginning to change perceptions and discussions about infidelity and the sexually predatory behavior which often accompanies it. For malignant narcissists like SDC’s former wife, though, I hold out no hope for redemption. SDC needs to stay far, far away from her, because she remains threat to his health and well-being!

Manipulatedchump
Manipulatedchump
6 years ago
Reply to  violet

Interesting, my mother in law also defined my marriage as a ‘business arrangement’
I wish I had know that’s what it was, I would have charged for my time!

Born Free
Born Free
6 years ago
Reply to  violet

violet – Good God. A “business arrangement”? Did I forget to make 4 babies with my last boss? Maybe that’s why I didn’t get that promotion.

Good to see OW friend is just like her!!!

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  Born Free

BornFree–well now you know how to pay off that marital debt you had to assume to get free of cheater! Who knew the most efficient way to a promotion was having babies?

Born Free
Born Free
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

GAH!!!!

Chickynot
Chickynot
6 years ago
Reply to  violet

Great points, Violet!! SDC, your ex is such a malignant bitch that she deserves a good slap in the face. This letter is so full of poisonous bullshit that even the UBT isn’t needed to see it (but we love it anyway Tracy!). Good on you for actually telling the judge that you wasted 25 years of your life on this POS, that’s priceless—and you can tell it still bothers her.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  Chickynot

The UBT was almost redundant on this one.

JC
JC
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

You got it. The number of inane lines in here is too many to fathom.

BTW, it seems cheating wives have a consistent mantra in calling their chump ex husbands “cowards” when they leave. My then-wife did the same when I moved out in her…Because I was supposed to “fight for her.” She failed to grasp that once she revealed her true colors, I realized that she wasn’t worth fighting for.

Chumpman
Chumpman
6 years ago
Reply to  JC

OMG. They read the same script. Mine said “I thought you would fight for me” as well. What would I be fighting for?

Born Free
Born Free
6 years ago
Reply to  Chumpman

Chumpman – HOW can you ask that? You’d be fighting to fall all over yourself thanking her for being born. Thank you!! Thank you for fucking me over! I’m so lucky to be fucked over by your Awesomeness. Let me wash your feet with my hair.

Your X is a freak.

Chumpman
Chumpman
6 years ago
Reply to  Born Free

Oh, I understand now! It just took 2 months of pick me Dancing and MC blaming me and more emotional and psychological abuse for me to figure it out. A stranger had moved in and I am now NC.

ZHUCHI
ZHUCHI
6 years ago
Reply to  Born Free

Let me wash your feet with my hair!!!!!!!! ????????????????????????

Genius.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  JC

I will admit to thinking my ex a coward for choosing to run off with Schmoopie when I gave him the gift of the opportunity to reconcile. That would have required self reflection and facing his inner demons, however, and he didn’t have the balls for that.

kiwichump
kiwichump
6 years ago

On second thoughts, send the UBT version with it too, so her kids can get educated about this shit. Break the cycle for them.
I was a good step mum to the Traitor’s 4 kids for almost 10 years, only to get shat on by the Traitor cheating with his second ex wife and the 2 of them turning the kids against me.
She’s handed you a super weapon to set the record straight. Go for it SDC.

Free Vix
Free Vix
6 years ago

Attaching the coward label when cowardice was demonstrated is appropriate. Using it as a weapon against someone to be manipulative isn’t. My ex was/is a giant coward. JC is not. It’s not the word that’s the problem, it’s the false accusation.

Jen
Jen
6 years ago

Mine too. I gave him 8 months of the pick me dance until I caught him with naked pictures of his ho-worker on his phone when I went so lovingly in the spare bedroom to turn off the light. He had moved out of our bedroom because he needed to figure out his feelings. Gag!! Looking back, it was the worst 8 months of my life. The phone checking, work drive bys to see if he was there, isolating, nauseating, put my life on hold CRAP. 2 D-Days later, I kicked him out.

He is a selfish, entitled, peace of sh*% whose father did the exact same thing. Guess who would ask me to stop saying that when I yelled it at him as we broke up.

It’s like rebuilding after a hurricane and ironically both our honeymoon spot and the last trip we took as a family were devastated by hurricanes this fall (St John and Puerto Rico). Hmmm…. the irony.

Thank god for CL, CN, and good friends and family. I’m sticking to my boundaries and the sun shines more and more on me and my two kids. The only piece left is my 8 and 10 yr old don’t know why mommy moved them out of their childhood home, 3 miles away from the their dad and the ho-worker who conveniently moved herself and her 3 kids into my old neighborhood.

I swear my life is a Lifetime movie script begging for a Hallmark ending. Power on CN in our search for more peaceful days.

FSTL
FSTL
6 years ago
Reply to  JC

Yep – there was certainly an expectation (ie sense of entitlement) that I would fight for my fuckwit ex. “You have to help me get over him” she said one night.

Nope – I have to shake his hands for taking a fuckwit off my hands (and then go and wash my hands very carefully).

But nothing my ex did would top this letter.

I am so sorry SuperD (and feel dsorry for her daughters) , but glad you’ve moved on and left this complete and utter dickhead behind.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
6 years ago
Reply to  FSTL

“You have to help me get over him.” Yeah, well you didn’t ask the AP partner into your marriage….she did! Fuck her and him…..OH, WAIT, SHE DID!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
6 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

(I’m in a mood today. Just toss some raw meat, backup slowly and no one gets hurt!)

Amazon Chump
Amazon Chump
6 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

You rock! Great comments.

kiwichump
kiwichump
6 years ago
Reply to  Amazon Chump

I agree with KibbleFree, that’s the best thing to do with this letter, share it with her kids and her poor daddy.
This UBT is the best ever. Insanity is the only acceptable excuse for this entitled drivel.

Current Chump
Current Chump
6 years ago
Reply to  Amazon Chump

I love Kibble Free’s idea of forwarding the note from ex-psycho to the daughter. That way the daughter sees the truth in her own vile mother’s handwriting. And if that letter were to find it’s way to other folks involved, well that would surely be something now wouldn’t it? Her lies in her own handwriting. Classic.

On another note-there is a special place in hell’s gutter for a sub-human fuckwit like your ex. She is a heartless, soulless psycho. Somewhere there is a Karma bus warming up with her name emblazoned on it.

The best revenge is no response & living well.
You are doing great SDC-You have come so far!
Let the rest of CL/CN hate on her for you with the power of 1,000 burning suns!

KibbleFree_MightyMe
KibbleFree_MightyMe
6 years ago
Reply to  Amazon Chump

SuperDuperChump:

1) Print out copies of that nasty hoe’s letter.

2) Put one in an envelope and address it to the poor x-step daughter at TX Tech.

3) Write a note explaining that you love and miss her and are proud of her, but that you refuse to be abused by her mom ever again. That this is why you’re ready to share the truth through her mom’s printed letter, and also why you won’t be able to attend her graduation. (That idiot tells the truth about BOTH of your behavior in the marriage; who the heck could ever blame you for finally leaving that?!)

4) Put a stamp on it and drop in the mail.

5) Send her a separate congrats card and gift card later on.

6) Stay sane. Be happy.

She’s unbelievably NUTS!! I’m so glad you’re free of her abuse.

VulcanChump
VulcanChump
6 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Pork, beef or chicken?

Jojobee
Jojobee
6 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

Cheater meat? That sounds fair…

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
6 years ago

Wow. I wonder what the girls would think of that letter. I am so glad you got away from her SuperDuperChump!

Renee
Renee
6 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

My first thought was that SDC should show this letter to everyone…maybe even publish it in the newspaper because it’s just too long for a billboard. BUT, to respond in any way is to encourage her. NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!! NO CONTACT!!!

And NO CONTACT!!!

Disengage, block, ignore. Shake off the dust and never return. Two benefits: 1) She’s out of your life. 2) It’ll drive her nuts. WIN/WIN.

CeliA
CeliA
6 years ago
Reply to  Renee

This. Exactly! It’s the perfect immunity against narcs. Just starve them from what they want – attention.

I’ve been NC for close to two years now and I have recovered much of my own energy and I trust this will pave the way towards full healing.

Gaby
Gaby
6 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

I think SDC should send the letter to the girls or at least the part where dumbass confessed she lied about the abuse.
This letter is perfect mind-blowing incredible mindfuckery. SDC should get a restraining order.

beenchumped
beenchumped
6 years ago
Reply to  Gaby

Yes, I too think it should be sent to those gas-lighted adult daughters. I sure hope it is in her handwriting and not typed…. no chance for her to lie later!

DOCTOR's1stWife&3Kids
DOCTOR's1stWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  beenchumped

but the adult daughters have not ever been told the truth. Just that “Bad step daddy is a coward and FLED the area for no reason”

and also he made me lonely and bored…. SO how can a letter help NOW? How about the whole fucking (literally) story? THAT Letter would be helpful, if done in a calm “explanatory” way.

Dear stepdaughters, I always loved you and never stopped. As I’m sure your mother has told you by now, I never abused her but she did break her vows to me, several times.

I could not bear the thought of running into her and her paramours and seeing you at risk, while knowing I had no legal rights to you.

But I’m so proud of your achievements…etc etc #IamaGreatGuy #Yourmomsucks #SheusedABUSEDherNukesonMe #DoNotJoinHerinNarcia

where she rules as QUEEN OF NARCIA….

Ceri
Ceri
6 years ago
Reply to  Gaby

I second that idea!

Unknown
Unknown
6 years ago

My eyebrows went to the back of my head when she starts the abusive tirade of admitting how she never loved him, used him, etc. Oh-my-effin-golly. I have appreciated many posts on the forum by SuperDuperChump, I hadn’t connected him until know to the story of the man left alone after the anesthesia. So it must be true that the worse the cheater, the better the chump!! Sending so much love your way, SDC. She is pure evil and I’m so glad your survived her.

Sorry if I’m mistaken, but is it SDC also who met his new partner at the pizza store? Because I love that story!

Laughing Gator
Laughing Gator
6 years ago
Reply to  Unknown

Unknown, I met my fellow Chump wife at a pizza place, so thank you. I know when you are just filing for divorce and after how it seems that you are in a deep pit of misery that you can’t get out of. I want my fellow chumps to have hope because after a few years there IS a brighter happier future for you and SDC and I each found happiness.

Unlike SDC’s Ex, mine loves to totally rewrite history and she would never admit that she ever did anything wrong. If you asked her about me, you would get a 15 minute tirade of what a SOB I am.
The different sides of the disordered cheater coin.

chumpapalooza
chumpapalooza
6 years ago
Reply to  Unknown

No, he met her when he jumped her car or fixed it somehow in a grocery store parking lot. He would not accept any money so she insisted that she come to his home and make him or bring him muffins or cookies or something. It was so sweet, and she adores him and he adores her. He so deserves it! I am sooooooooo FUCKING ANGRY after reading that complete HORSESHIT!!! I want to throat punch this bitch into reality. HOW DARE SHE CALL HIM A COWARD, HOW DARE SHE USE HIM THE WAY SHE DID??? She is a dirty, disgusting WHORE who is only reaching out because she found out he has a new girl and its killing her! She knows now that she fucked up the best thing that ever happened to her. GOOD! Stay NC SDC, and know that you are a wonderful man and person.

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
6 years ago
Reply to  chumpapalooza

Yea….What Chumpapalooza said!!!!

And I deeply love all the rest of this fine Nation for coming to the support of our very beloved and precious SuperDuperChump

I have read thru Tracy’s amazing dissection, as well as everyone’s comments and I know I am beyond blessed and honored to be amoungst the best of the best

I love that I have found a ‘tribe’ so devoted as all ya all

So grateful as we ForgeOn! together

FindingBliss
FindingBliss
6 years ago
Reply to  Unknown

Love this—eyebrows went to the back of my head. Yes. I never thought I’d use the expression, “I think my head just exploded,” but it’s true. I also never thought I’d read of a female Narc that could outdo KK. But this one has captured the crown through sheer unbelievably vile lies and twisted, corrupted blameshifting.

I’m so, so sorry, SuperDuperChump, that you loved, supported, and endured this horrible, horrible woman. When caught, she said you abused her? Now she’s calling you a coward? Telling you what you should do? Still thinks she controls you? It is mind-boggling. And sure, she’s going to church now. Well then, we’re all good right? Next victim coming up!

You deserve your beautiful new life and relationships free of this flaming evil, disordered excuse of a woman.

Thrive
Thrive
6 years ago
Reply to  FindingBliss

SDC- wow! Palm smacking forehead! She is nuts! I mean really bonkers. This “invitation” to a graduation of a daughter who is not talking to you because adulterous mother lied to her about abuse is surreal. As said earlier you can’t make this shit up. I’m guessing you have your bags packed and are raring to go. LMAO. At least it is good for a laugh! ????

Gonegirl
Gonegirl
6 years ago
Reply to  FindingBliss

I think my eye is twitching, reading this. She is a piece of work.

Be glad you are rid of her. Block her or change your email.

This whole letter was all about her, a narcissist to the core.

#sorrynotsorry

struggling
struggling
6 years ago

Oh. My. Freaking. God. I’m….utterly speechless… This is beyond cruel… What an unbelievably terrible person. I mean they’re all terrible, I know this is typical narc shit but DAMN my jaw is on the floor…

“Sometimes I think that I just don’t deserve it anymore…” Sometimes? Really? As in, sometimes she thinks she DOES deserve it?

SuperDuperChump, hope you’re out there somewhere rocking your awesome narc free life. Thanks for sharing this. Nothing like gob-smacking reminders of how much better off we are all without these so-called people.

struggling
struggling
6 years ago

My comment is awaiting moderation?

Special Snowflake ha
Special Snowflake ha
6 years ago

Hey, just a thought, if the ex in laws miss you so much, don’t phones work both ways?

Me, I’d send that letter straight to his step daughters and let them see what mommy dearest really is and then let them decide how to proceed.

Twatwsffle is a real piece of work. And if you do decide to go to Lubbock, bring your fabulous new partner. She deserves that respect from you. Twatwaffle can fuck off.

chumpapalooza
chumpapalooza
6 years ago

I do agree in sending it to the girls. She would shit her pants wouldn’t she? She did not think this through on the fact that he could and should do just that! Fucking bitch.

Indomitable
Indomitable
6 years ago

I’m with you Special Snowflake ha. Superduper Chump – Take a photocopy of that letter, staple it to a print out of the UBT version and mail it to each of the daughters and your ex’s parents with no explanation. DO IT!

Reading today’s column made me feel sick to my stomach. We all know that these f**kwits behave with great deliberation but it took my breath away to read a letter from someone who admitted that she purposefully betrayed, manipulated and abused her husband. That woman is terrifyingly disordered and she’s reaching out to get more kibbles. Her supply of strange dicks must have dried up.

Superduper Chump – consider this letter to be ongoing validation that you needed to get away from that freak. No second thoughts about this narc. I am so sorry that you were taken in and used so badly by this pathetic excuse for a human being.

ChumpNoMo
ChumpNoMo
6 years ago

I don’t agree with sending the letter to kids…yet. Kids who grow up with Narc parent tend to be CoD or traumatized/damaged in some way. If the girls still don’t see their mom for the Narc she is, this letter is unlikely to open their eyes.

I grew up with one NPD parent and one abusive alcoholic parent. I couldn’t see or understand the damage to my psyche and boundaries until a bit later in life.

Do the girls deserve to know the truth, especially if they’ve been longing for him and are confused or not clear on why they divorced? Absolutely yes, but dropping this letter on them out of the blue isn’t the way. Showing up, being living in ways they will allow him and letting them find their path back to him on their own terms is the way to do it.

brit
brit
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpNoMo

Well, of course no one’s perfect, certainly not you SDC.., remember SDC, all the things you did wrong when we were married?
For example, remember when you left that cup in the sink? see, you’re not perfect now are you?

We learn from our mistakes, if I can forgive you for leaving the dirty cup in the sink, it’s only fair that you should forgive me. Let’s put all that childish nonsense behind us..,

honeyandthehomewrecker
honeyandthehomewrecker
6 years ago
Reply to  brit

Ah yes, the metaphor of the ledger! I am well-familiar with this use of this method of justification, unfortunately.

His Ex: I’m trying to minimize the horrific crap I’ve done by claiming that the good things I’ve done balance out the bad. Everyone’s got some plus’s and minus’s in the columns of their ledger, right? Especially you, SDC, what with your cowardice and allowing yourself to be forced to sell your business and dating some new WHORE. Oh, and for not dying in the 100 degree spare bedroom after your surgery which would have brought me a fat life insurance dividend. But I forgive you. No one’s perfect.

Aaand a false equivalency (a logical fallacy where one attempts to equate two unequal things)

You didn’t die in the guest room, and I banged a pastor because I was bored. Let’s not split hairs here. We have mistake-making in common, we silly impetuous humans! I forgive you for the not dying thing. No one’s perfect.

If I can sink you down to my level through both of these crazy-making tactics, then you have no moral superiority over me and I don’t have to face what a waste of skin I really am. Get down here on my level! Do you hear me? I know where you live!

P S Y C H O…

Kettle
Kettle
6 years ago

Ehhhh I have a feeling a woman who is prepared to waaaah to her children about how their evil, evil stepfather abused her when he nearly died because she was out fucking strange would find a way to con them into thinking she’s the victim if Super sent them this letter. She wouldn’t send something admitting her lies and making threats without a backup plan. The only way to win is not to play.

NoKibble4U
NoKibble4U
6 years ago
Reply to  Kettle

Agree. Disordered always have the advantage in their sick game. Not only that, but obviously, she doesn’t like being ignored. If SDC breaks contact for any reason, it’s kibble and validation. Finally, she’s played the abuse game, so that makes any interaction with her dangerous for SDC.

MyRedSandals
MyRedSandals
6 years ago

CHUTZ-PAH

ˈho͝otspə,ˈKHo͝otspə

shameless audacity; impudence.

synonyms: audacity, cheek, guts, nerve, boldness, temerity
“It took a lot of chutzpah for her to walk in on Owen’s bachelor party.”

lyndaloo
lyndaloo
6 years ago
Reply to  MyRedSandals

Another meaning fir chutzpah ….. The kid that kills both his parents and throws himself on the mercy of the court because he’s an ORPHAN”.

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  lyndaloo

Now that’s what I call rationalization. But SDC’s cheater wins second place.

MyRedSandals
MyRedSandals
6 years ago
Reply to  MyRedSandals

SDC, please forward the letter to your children…

middlefingersup
middlefingersup
6 years ago

Holy. And here I was bitching this am that my ex lied to me about having monster spray at his house when I asked on behalf of our child. I mean that’s a stupid thing to lie about but.

I bow at the altar of this mighty chump. Wow. This woman.

DunChumpin
DunChumpin
6 years ago

When I was a kid, I was taught there are no such things as monsters. No boogeyman, werewolves, vampires. Nothing hiding in the closet, or under the bed. No demons or ghosts hiding in the dark.
But there are. This bitch is one of them. My STBX is one of them as are so many of your cheaters.
That letter made me sick to my stomach.

VulcanChump
VulcanChump
6 years ago
Reply to  DunChumpin

See, that’s not even fair to the classic monsters because in a lot of the lore, they’re just creatures bound to their nature trying to make their way fairly in the world – you certainly can’t say the same for our set.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  DunChumpin

And Roderick is hiding under the sofa

cashmere
cashmere
6 years ago
Reply to  DunChumpin

Yup. Evil embodied is a real thing.

We learned the hard way.

But we are wiser and stronger now.

TiredChump
TiredChump
6 years ago

Dear Super Duper Chump –
I wish you a lifetime of happiness.
Your ex takes the cake for the most character disordered I have read @ CL
An “apology” letter that spends most of the time blaming you for your shortcomings (thereby minimizing her own) is SIMPLY OUTRAGEOUS.
And the things she admits are APPALLING:
25 years of using you even though she “couldn’t feel love”…..
Forcing you to lose your business because of the “lawyers”…..
“TELLING PEOPLE YOU ABUSED HER” so she didn’t have to be embarrassed by the truth and wear a scarlet letter A….
and worst of all…..Letting your stepdaughters believe this lie & ALIENATING THEM FROM YOU AFTER ALL YOU DID

Oh Super Duper Chump – there is a chair in heaven for you – monogrammed – extra thick cushions – luxurious upholstery – down filled – with a wonderful view – YOU ARE MIGHTY – and i hope you walk in joy all the rest of your days.

midlifeBlast
midlifeBlast
6 years ago

Oh… my… goodness!!! I feel billious.

Well supadupa, if any of this shittyness (and there’s a lot of shittyness of different variations and flavours) has any benefit at all – it’s put my problems into perspective. I now hate your ex more than I hate my ex, damn!

Apart from all the surface provocative stuff (which you can ignore cos you is clever) on a deeper note, I think she’s trying to deepen the rift between you and the kids by implying they are in on this “using daddy” shit.

If it was me I’d send/give the kids a copy of the letter.

only go to that thing if you start speaking first and gently explain that you don’t have restrictions put on who you can bring to places etc. And talking about the kids not that crazy lady. Only thing I’d say to her is “fuck off”**

**sorry you feel that way, hope you’re feeling better soon, love to your dad, I’ve been a bit forgetful lately, bye

left him at the airport
left him at the airport
6 years ago
Reply to  midlifeBlast

MidLifeBlast – that’s how I felt too after reading this post…. I think I hate SDC’s ex more than I do my own! She makes mine look like just a naughty little boy.

The lying about being abused, that is just, wow….DESPICABLE!! SDC needs to talk with the daughters about this, pronto! It’s not fair to him OR the girls that they’ve been torn apart (by the sounds of it) all because of a despicable LIE! This should be a crime. Defamation much?

The ex is melting in her boots (Wicked Witch of the West comes to mind… “I’m MELTiiiiiiiiing!!!”) because SDC has moved on and is happy. Meanwhile, she still has to live with the fact she’s a shitty person. She must sleep like a baby. Not.

She’s coming apart, you can just feel it in her desperate words. She’s desperate for SDC’s attention. Hahaha, don’t give her any, it will kill her (I’M MELTiiiiiiiiing!!”).

SDC, I hope you get the chance to talk to the girls and give them the opportunity to learn the truth. All the best to you in your new life ????

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  midlifeBlast

I agree. This letter makes my ex look like a saint. All he did was cheat, devalue and discard. Still, with some of the cheaters on this site it’s a pretty low bar to get over to be a lesser asshole.

Thrive
Thrive
6 years ago

Haha. A race to the bottom! SDC- I hope you walk away and do not engage with this loser. She is irrational and will come up with more stupid shit. I suggest stay NC. Hugs!

WorkingOnMeh
WorkingOnMeh
6 years ago

Wow!! This is some fucked up thinking. And she is in counseling???? Sorry, it, and hanging out in Church again, is not helping this crazy twat waffle. Send a copy of the letter to the girls. They are old enough to see how much of a wacko their mother is. It is not fair to them or you, that they have been lied to and are missing out on a relationship with their dad.

GracieD
GracieD
6 years ago
Reply to  WorkingOnMeh

I have a hunch Counselling told her she’d get over her issues and feel better if she wrote ‘a letter’, so she dished out this *shit*. Of course, it won’t be her fault, it will be the Counselor’s fault because they told her to do it.

And she’s angry!!!! Super-duper angry. How dare SDC be a coward and not hang around to be twatwaffle’s ATM machine!!! How Dare He! You can’t possibly imagine the inconvenience of having your ATM taken away. How Dare He Move on! And then to find that some unworthy female has gone and taken it!

“Mine, mine, mine, so what if I cheated a tiny bit! Still mine (which is why I have issues, and needed counselling).” See, SDC, it’s your fault she needs counselling! (sic!)

To me it seems that she wants you to attend graduation – especially alone – to prove to herself that she still has some power over you. And I feel that if you do go, you’ll get more of this hate. You’re well rid. I hope your new lady gives you all the love you deserve.

Lyn
Lyn
6 years ago
Reply to  GracieD

I’d say SuperDuper should send some flowers to the daughter if he wants to, but no way should he subject himself to crazy’s drama on graduation day.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  GracieD

After all she “tried” to love him (by leaving him to die). How dare he not appreciate that. Why is he so ungrateful? After all, it’s the thought that counts.

EyesOpenNow
EyesOpenNow
6 years ago

Oh. My. F-ing. God. Unbelievable! What a horrible human being. I’m so glad you got away from that, SuperDuperChump! This letter made me sick to my stomach as well.

Lady Lazarus
Lady Lazarus
6 years ago

Absolutely speechless. Just. Speechless.

Tessie
Tessie
6 years ago

OMG, what a horrible person!

“Even though you moved away and started a new life like a coward….. ” there she is, there is the shark beneath the water. There is the cruelty, selfish entitlement, grandiosity, lack of empathy, manipulation and all round shitty character, hanging out in full glory for all to see.

Tessie
Tessie
6 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

Super Duper Chump, I am so glad you not only survived but thrived and dumped that colossal waste of space. Sounds like her karma bus has arrived and she is royally ticked that she can’t con you anymore.

I wish you every good thing that disgusting creature robbed you of times a hundred. You are a testament to strength and courage, not to mention resilience and you deserve every bit of happiness comes to you in your new cheater free life.

Speaking of that cheater free life, I’m glad that horrible creature is choking on your newfound happiness. She earned that in spades. Love me the smell of karma in the morning!

Lyn
Lyn
6 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

Yeah, calling him a coward and trying to shame him is definitely a great way to convince him to go to graduation alone.

JamLady
JamLady
6 years ago

Wow! Where do you even begin with that one?!?

Big hugs to you, SDC! Stay mighty and don’t leave the State of Meh!

cashmere
cashmere
6 years ago

Wow. Looks like that therapy is just working wonders. ????

It is a perfect reminder of what they are and will always remain. And that is its only value.

Glad you got away.

12YearsWasted
12YearsWasted
6 years ago

Good LORD, this woman is disordered! I cannot believe the amount of gas lighting and blame shifting going on in that letter! The NERVE to place any blame on the chump here!! WOW. I had so much to say, but honestly …. I feel speechless.

Chumpy Chumpy Chump Chump (uk edition)
Chumpy Chumpy Chump Chump (uk edition)
6 years ago

Give that woman a trophy – its right up there in the top 5 – she must deserve some sort of award for being top narc adulterer of 2017

Congrats on being a coward – that probably saved your life!!

MilkMaid
MilkMaid
6 years ago

She makes a solid case for bringing back flogging in the town square.

1. She needs money.
2. She got dumped.
3. No one will take care of her anymore.
4. She’s bored.

To let someone support you for 25 years, take half their business and then state they never loved you?

Superduper I’m glad we got to see the letter. But put up concrete boundaries with this one. She is very dangerous.

FindingBliss
FindingBliss
6 years ago
Reply to  MilkMaid

Thanks for the laugh! Oh, if only they could be put in the stocks and exposed to public shaming!!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
6 years ago

I’m 51 and you’d think that nothing could surprise me anymore. I am wrong yet again. I can’t even. Glad you got away from that mind fuck SuperDuperChump. Keep the remote control on mute for that one and keep ignoring her calls. Better yet, block her from your phone!!

DavidB
DavidB
6 years ago

At least she is being honest about not loving you. Most continue the lie of how much they love/loved us.

MilkMaid
MilkMaid
6 years ago
Reply to  DavidB

She has no idea what love is. They know the words to the song but not the actual tune. She is mimicking back words and concepts she has heard in life in order that she sounds human.
She is using her manipulative code sentences and words to extract more value from Super.

None of these disordered cluster B cheaters are capable of love. And not in some sad sausage way that they need help understanding how to empathize or love.

Just think of a Komodo dragon ripping apart a goat.

That is how they think of love. Satisfying their base and craven lusts. No one else’s pain is on their radar.

Shechump
Shechump
6 years ago
Reply to  MilkMaid

“Just think of a Komodo dragon ripping apart a goat.”

Hell, I can’t even imagine that but it does make my imagination work overtime.
Love your analogy.

Feelingit
Feelingit
6 years ago

Truth is stranger than fiction. You most certainly have the makings of a psychological thriller here.

She referred to you as a coward which I googled the definition of coward and the first one that comes up is a person who lacks the courage to do or endure dangerous or unpleasant things. In your case I would say this is common sense.

I laugh at cl’s spot on translation but I wonder if you ought to be worried. She doesn’t sound harmless. This letter sounds threatening and she has a history of leaving you for dead.

I think you should stay as far away from her as possible. Can you get a restraining order? That might just make her madder.

Anyway, she sounds like a scary stalker. All I could think reading this was fatal attraction. Consider all your options. She sounds like one who would snap. Take care and stay safe. I hope no contact and grayrock works. So sorry you are in this position.

Ida
Ida
6 years ago
Reply to  Feelingit

In the book, “The Gift of Fear”, the author advises not getting restraining orders. First, it’s a form of attention which they crave. Second, malignant narcissists (the worst kind) are highly entitled and vengeful. When their entitlement is stripped from them, their vengeance can turn to murder. This letter proves his ex is a malignant narcissist (she destroyed his business, lied to her kids about him, etc…). The author instead recommends strict No Contact and I agree.

Martha
Martha
6 years ago
Reply to  Ida

I 100% agree. No restraining order unless she really does something that deserves one (harassment at his home/work, threatening him, etc.). No reason to get the narc even angrier! Also, I don’t think he should send the letter to the daughters. His ex will find a way to gaslight and blameshift about it. I’d just tuck the letter away in a safe place and maybe one day his stepdaughters will reach out to him and he can set them straight. I would not respond to her letter in any way. I wouldn’t call anyone or attend anything. If his stepdaughter wanted him there, she would have reached out to him. If he felt compelled, he could send a nice card for graduation with maybe something written about shared memories or whatever.

It’s really creepy she’s stalking SDC. If I’m remembering correctly, he moved away and is no contact? Like how does she know he’s got a girlfriend? She’s sick.

SDC, I’m so happy for you that you have moved on from this woman and have a new love in your life. I wish you and her the best for 2018!

Jo
Jo
6 years ago
Reply to  Martha

I agree with these responses to avoid responding or contacting this woman’s kids. No contact and grey rock will keep you safe. Reading her letter freaked me out on your behalf. Remain distant. Protect yourself. Hugs to you!

Doubtless
Doubtless
6 years ago
Reply to  Feelingit

This is the right response.

As a male chump you may *not* respond in anger or *you* will be in jail (or worse). Do *not* send this letter to her kids. Get a restraining order, pronto. Protect yourself, SDC.

Sausalito
Sausalito
6 years ago

This is truly appalling. This woman tells slanderous lies and ruins her daughters’ relationship with “the only father they’ve ever known,” and then proceeds to call him a coward for moving on with his life? Disgusting. Despite the UBT’s perfect translation, this letter made me want to vomit. I hate the word impactful, but I hate this woman more.

GraceInMotion
GraceInMotion
6 years ago

Send a copy of that letter to both of your stepdaughters, your mother and your former father in law. They deserve to know the truth. Especially, your daughters.

I’m sorry she’s such a waste of skin. It’s hard to imagine people like that really exist.

MightyAgain
MightyAgain
6 years ago
Reply to  GraceInMotion

I agree, great idea. I would do that too!

I’m so sorry of the pain you went through with this waste of a woman.

NotMyFault
NotMyFault
6 years ago

SuperDuperChump I am so sorry that you were ever connected with THAT! You were a great husband, father and provider and she is so twisted. Great love and luck in your new relationship.

Patsy
Patsy
6 years ago

SuperDuperChump

She flat out came and said she just used you???? #NoWords

Just a phrase that used to help me: your behaviour does not determine my worth

Words: there. is. something. seriously. wrong. with. that. woman.

MightyAgain
MightyAgain
6 years ago

Holy Crap, this crazy entitled selfish bitch! An apology letter that also includes calling him a coward, making him feel guilty. Admitting that she lied to her daughters about him abusing her.

I can’t even…

I Love UBT! It needs a few days of rest after this one.

Nejla
Nejla
6 years ago

Wow. The definition of cluster b right there in every sentence. Why don’t these people come with warning labels?!
How painful to have lived around that messed up of a brain, SDC! You are mighty!

newdaydawning
newdaydawning
6 years ago

Well that is quite an “apology “!! So much blame and So much to hate about this self centered narc. Lying to your step kids saying she was abused! Only wanting to tell the truth if you do what she says. x told his family and our kids I was a drunken slut, but if I took him back he would tell everyone the truth. If not, he wouldn’t retract it. Blackmailing….can you feel the love? Love the part about blaming chump for the scarlett letter on her chest LOL…she was screwing her pastor, does she think she is a character from great literature?? I agree, send this to the kids.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  newdaydawning

She worked hard to earn that letter, she should be proud to wear it. I do think pastor should get a matching one, however. He did his part and deserves some recognition for that.

MightyAgain
MightyAgain
6 years ago

Super Duper Chump, so happy that you found someone that truly appreciates your worth. Best wishes!

This woman used you, and actually admitted it. Wow, just Wow!!!

lyndaloo
lyndaloo
6 years ago

My X sent me an email missive about how Schmoopie was his soul mate, I shouldn’t malign her, their special bond, we grew apart blah blah blah. I hit reply and used the largest font I could and wrote “FUCK OFF YOU IDIOT” then I put the house up for sale and got lawyers up. These people are so transparent and stupid it’s actually comical. I was angry at the time if I had a do-over I’d now add “HA HA HA BEST LAUGH I’VE HAD TODAY”

Lady B
Lady B
6 years ago
Reply to  lyndaloo

Oh shit, your awesome.
I got a feel sorry for me email recently saying he had a hereditary heart condition, hasn’t been confirmed by the doctors yet, but shit facts get in the way. Hasn’t mentioned it since then and I didn’t reply but should have taken a tip from you with the screaming caps.
Had to reread this disordered crap as my eyes and brain couldn’t believe it! Fucking nut bag she is!

Lady B
Lady B
6 years ago
Reply to  Lady B

You’re … Yep sorry my grammar and spelling suck.

lyndaloo
lyndaloo
6 years ago
Reply to  Lady B

Lady B,
I also got one that said he had a brain tumor, they lie so much how can you believe them? At any rate, he negated the ‘through sickness and in health” bit when he he said “I want a divorce”. Consequences are hard. Hope Schmoopie is as good at nursing as she is at blow jobs! Not my concern anymore!

FindingBliss
FindingBliss
6 years ago
Reply to  lyndaloo

Love it! Your post is therapy wrapped in humor. Great response.

JeepManNH
JeepManNH
6 years ago

OMG – It sounds like my wife wrote it!!! I can’t believe the similarities in attitude…

VulcanChump
VulcanChump
6 years ago
Reply to  JeepManNH

I mean, CL has said there really is nothing new under the sun.

Supreme Chump
Supreme Chump
6 years ago

Wow. I don’t even know what to say to this.
SuperDuperCHump, what a great thing you have done to be away from her. She really is a sick person.

Creativerational
Creativerational
6 years ago

Soooo… in her world coward and survivor are synonymous?

Or…. why is he a coward for leaving when she admits she didn’t love him and admits to spreading lies. What else should he do? He should… ‘fight’ for a woman who fucks men because she’s bored and lies to her children and has no actual feelings for him? Sounds like leaving shouldn’t actually matter to her. This is ridiculous.

This is nonsense.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago

Projection 101.
Chapter 6 in Cheater Narc Primer

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
6 years ago

This she didn’t love him for 25 years is bullshit! She is comparing “the tummy tickles,” to a deep, loving bond with another. AND, how dare she call a person with honor and integrity a coward. This person is a WACKO!!!

newdaydawning
newdaydawning
6 years ago

I love how cheaters are “heroes “ for putting up with us and chumps are cowards for leaving and not putting up with their crap. SuperDuper, your x is challenging KK for the title of worst xwife ever!

Tessie
Tessie
6 years ago
Reply to  newdaydawning

I think she has knocked kk off the throne! Can’t you just get a picture of the two of them fighting over the Throne Of Kibbles……. ” I’m Best!” “No you aren’t, you bitch! I’m better than you, everyone is paying attention to MEEE!!!!”

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
6 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

Yup I had this thought today: If being a disordered narc was an Olympic sport, then SDC’s ex just edged KK out for the gold. I think KK still gets the silver but this here bitch takes the ever loving cake!!

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

lol–just posted the same thing below before I read your comment. It’s a catfight, CN!

Tessie
Tessie
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Yeah, and neither one is above fighting dirty. Should be some show…….

odd dot
odd dot
6 years ago

((UBT rattles and groans))
“SHE CAN’T TAKE ANYMORE CAPTAIN!
If I push her anymore, she’ll BLOW!”

CurlyChump
CurlyChump
6 years ago
Reply to  odd dot

first time I have laughed aloud in days! thank you!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
6 years ago
Reply to  odd dot

Hahahahahahaha!

ColdTurkey
ColdTurkey
6 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Beam her up, Scotty!

Thanks for my first belly-laugh of the day, odd dot!

Matt
Matt
6 years ago

Wow, just wow.
Dumb struck

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago

Ok, now I know what batshit crazy means. This woman is totally off her rocker. I hope you and your new woman had a good laugh over this one. Send along a copy with the next card you send the girls. And yes, you should show up to support the girls, with or without the girlfriend, but don’t sit with their mom.

So she fooled around on you, left you for dead, told the girls lies about you so they don’t like you much but you need to try harder to be a good dad to her kids? No wonder the UBT is blowing a gasket.

Sometimes I wish ex or Schmoopie would send me some crazy missive to send through the UBT for the amusement of all, but although they both have some serious flaws in their characters, stupidity is, alas, not among them.

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
6 years ago

Yeah I’m pretty sure that if you look up bat shit crazy in the dictionary or Wikipedia, her picture would definitely be there!

Kettle
Kettle
6 years ago

I wonder if the kids suspect the truth or something. Because this looks like a trap. You show up at graduation and she makes a big deal of How Dare You Show Your Face, Ruining Daughter’s Special Day With Your Drama. I’d show this letter to your mother, SDC, but not the girls. This… creature will find a way to spin it to make you the bad guy again.

Nejla
Nejla
6 years ago
Reply to  Kettle

My 7 year old knows there is something…different about her dad…These people can be obviously disordered like this lady.
I’m lucky because she is not around his chaotic mind all that much. I believe (hope) it will make things easier on her.
If the kids have an opportunity to live around “not crazy” which is hard when the crazy is a stay at home mom, then they get it…sometimes is takes years, sometimes they cannot face it and pretend everything is fine, even as an adult, but they know. At the end of the day I just feel so badly for all the kids of these types.

GracieD
GracieD
6 years ago
Reply to  Kettle

Agree!

Kettle
Kettle
6 years ago
Reply to  GracieD

I just read the letter again and yeah, this is definitely a trap. It sounds like SDC’s stepdaughters are not in communication with him at all. If that’s the case, I guarantee Ex-Creature will huff and puff about How Dare He Show Up Uninvited, Look How He Disrespects Your Boundaries, That’s Exactly What He Did To Me All The Time.

SDC, only go to graduation if K reaches out and asks you to be there.

livefortoday2
livefortoday2
6 years ago

Words escape on the disorder of this one. She is a special extra crazy kind of disorder. GEEZ!

But CL, your # comments had me laughing out loud!

TRUTH!

SDC – wishing you happiness and blessings in your new life!

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago

“You hurt my Dad when you didn’t call on his birthday. I could see the pain and emotion in his eyes.”

Super Duper, it’s YOUR fault that cheater’s father is suffering? It’s not the shame for his daughter’s “wayward” actions?

After reading this shit I feel so relieved for you! Meh on a Tuesday!!

Kettle
Kettle
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

(That story about her dad is a lie.)

Winddrinker
Winddrinker
6 years ago
Reply to  Kettle

Also she trashed you to her Dad too. It wasn’t the first time.

livefortoday2
livefortoday2
6 years ago

Yes, and this UBT letter speaks to the importance of NC – no changing with these people

Blindside
Blindside
6 years ago

Not that I’m telling you anything you don’t already know SuperDuper, but obviously this woman saw you only as somebody good for being a walking ATM and a source of stability to help her raise her kids (these are basically the functions I served for 15 years). You were looked at as being useful to her – until you weren’t. Yeah, but you were a good “provider,” so you’ve got that going for you……..

She “tried” to love you, but couldn’t? WTF does that even mean?

She was bored at home…..ok, go get a hobby, go pursue something that interests you, or better yet, go get a job and help pay for your daughters’ education. Adulting can be very hard for some people.

And falsely telling her daughters that you abused her? Again, where do you even go with this?

All I see here is a case study in sociopathy. You’ve got some entitlement, a dash of selfishness, lack of empathy, and a whole lot of blameshifting all wrapped up in a mental pretzel that only a true narcissist could enjoy.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago

O.
M.
G.
My mouth is hanging open in shock, utter shock!
Gosh, WHO could pass up an invitation (summons) like THAT?
Still. CANNOT. Believe this.
UBT will need some maintenance after this.
Holy fuck!
SuperDuper, your MIGHTY is fabulous – the polar opposite of “coward” (which could be defined as lying about abuse to cover her own sorry ass).
Send the grad this leeter for her grafiation gift. She needs to see that POS mother for what she is – NOT a mother.
Thank you for the cold water narc reality check.
Holy shit.
Still smh.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

I can haz spelcheque

Jo
Jo
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

Ha ha – that made me laugh!

heissobroken
heissobroken
6 years ago

This wayward hoe needs to take a flying leap off the nearest cliff.

I actually can’t believe what I just read.

Congrats Super Duper Chump on getting away from her #evilbitch #shedidyouahugefavor

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
6 years ago
Reply to  heissobroken

The letter is even creepier if you take out the UBT!

Magneto
Magneto
6 years ago

This letter right here.

This should be required reading for anyone considering wreconciliation. Know the nature of the devil you are taking on. Even though I STILL don’t want to believe it, I absolutely can see my XH saying things like this, IF I’d ever give him the time.

Holy sh@t, this woman needs and exorcist, not a therapist.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago
Reply to  Magneto

Magneto,

required reading – YES!! Brilliant!
exorcist…hahaha!!

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
6 years ago

Newbies to Chump Nation – this is why NO CONTACT is so important to your recovery and freedom. You can’t see the crazy when you’re in the middle of the storm – just read this letter.. can you hear the blameshifting ( I never loved you, so I cheated)… can you hear the pity channel (I only dated losers before you, so I cheated)… can you hear the charm channel (my Daddy misses you and the Girls do too, so what if I cheated)… can you hear the rage channel (you’re a coward for moving on with your life without me).

Sweet Jesus, SDC, you’ve got a stalker in the making here. Keep yourself safe.

And, while I understand why folks would say to send this letter to your stepdaughters, I’m going to disagree. Just say NO TO TRIANGULATION. They are adults, you can establish a healthy relationship with them, should you desire… but don’t have their Mom involved.

And CL – this made my fucking day: “Am I a person who fucked around on her spouse, or am I person who wanders helplessly into snowdrifts? #helpmeivefallenandicantgetup” I’m sure you could draw the hell out of this idea!

Go have a great day SDC… the UBT has given you a gem of sanity. No Contact… it’s what’s for breakfast.

StartofSomethingGood
StartofSomethingGood
6 years ago

WTF!!!! Wow! Just wow!!!

slowtolearn
slowtolearn
6 years ago

OH. MY. GOD.

SuperDuper, thank goodness you are free from this monster.