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Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

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Every year, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I rerun this column about Mother Jones. Happy Labor Day and see you back on Tuesday!  — Tracy I’m struck by how often the catalyst for an extraordinary life is loss. A friend of mine posts various nuggets of history on Facebook and the other day she […]

Meh Sightings?

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Have you had a glimpse of the Promised Land? Are you Meh? “Meh” — that liberating place of acceptance — is where you no longer are consumed with cheater drama. You don’t love them. You don’t hate them. You sort of pity anyone within a five-mile radius of them, but their existence doesn’t rock yours anymore. You’re […]

Courage Fairies

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I got a really lovely letter yesterday from a person who hadn’t been chumped but reads here, and applied “Trust That They Suck” to a different situation — her employment. She wrote to say that she Left a Job, and Gained a Life. No more over-thinking every word lest it be jumped on and nitpicked! […]

Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger

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So you were chumped. So you’re angry as hell about it. What GOOD thing did that anger make you do? I’m not talking about creating a funeral pyre of all your cheater’s things and dancing around it. We’re not about revenge scenarios here. I’m talking about the kind of righteous anger that creates showdowns with […]

Chump Emancipation Proclamation

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Hey, every day is a good day to overthrow tyrants, but a happy American Independence Day to you all!  On the Independence theme, KibblesNBits wrote this a couple years ago, and I thought it was worth a rerun.  Tell me in the comments what you’re doing for emancipation from fuckwits.  Happy July 4 everyone! *** Dear […]

Unspouse Your House?

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HGTV has a new show out “Unspouse Your House” — remodeling post-breakup as therapy. I’m totally onboard with this concept. Producers, call us. Chump Nation could give a master class. Raise your hand if you bought new bed linens after D-Day? Extra credit if you burned the bed. “What you think about what you deserve […]

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW

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Dearest Chump Lady, You pulled me through my darkest days when I found out my husband was cheating. Your blog was my sanity and North Star. It pointed me towards a new life, one that is now free from fear, chaos, gaslighting, lies, and all the other horrible things that go along with being married […]

What Do You Tell Yourself?

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Dear Chump Lady, What do all the mighty people tell themselves when it’s too much? When you’re struggling for air? When not even your family understands? When you’re not allowed to complain? When you can’t show weakness? (After all, anything that can be used against you in court, WILL be.) When your kids fall for […]

Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?

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Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better, or is that just another lie that people tell chumps to cut down on the suicide stats? My STBX was a Boy-Scout-leading, Sunday-school-teaching, neighbor-helping pillar of our community, right up until the day I walked in on him and his skank in my guest room. He lied and […]