Category: Gain a life

cyclops lonely

Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?

Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages …

Read More
ex cheated and I got a graduate degree

Mightiness Update

I’m a glutton for Chump Nation’s “Tell Me How You’re Mighty” stories. People often ask if running this site depresses me (people who haven’t been …

Read More
Rejection man

Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get my ex’s voice out of my head

Hi Chump Lady, I am heading toward the end of the divorce process for leaving my cheater. Overall things are progressing rather well for me. …

Read More
cheat on me

Your Heart and Your Wallet

I’ve heard a lot of chump stories. A conservative estimate would be hundreds of thousands. But Sheila’s stands out. I met Sheila in Australia last …

Read More

Got a Pep Talk?

A few months ago, I read about this research that found that one of the best ways to face a challenge is to give advice …

Read More
stitched heart

Dear Chump Lady, Why do I feel a new man is the answer?

Dear Chump Lady,  I have been divorced for 2 years (total 4 years with the separation) and my ex quickly moved on with another woman. …

Read More

A Masterclass in Boundaries

I confess I’ve got a thing for the HGTV show “Love It or List It.” It completely appeals to my chumpy, codependent senses — you …

Read More

How Do I Fix My Picker?

Dear Chump Lady, I have a question for the New Year — as we’re all thinking about new beginnings. It’s a simple question but I’m …

Read More

Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?

Dear Chump Lady Here is a silly question. I have been through years of hell. In short, like most people here, my husband of thirty …

Read More
Waiting for karma

Gain a Life

Happy New Year! Happy new life! I thought it was time for this column, “Get Over It” which I wrote for New Year’s Day in …

Read More
broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted

Dear Chump Lady, It has been over 5 years since D-Day, and about 3-1/2 years since I have spoken or seen my fuckwad cheater. I …

Read More
cyclops lonely

Dear Chump Lady, I drunk dialed

Dear Chump Lady, I was in a six-year relationship with a compulsive liar, so I have really appreciated your articles. We broke up last year. …

Read More

What Advice Would You Give an Earlier You?

Who wouldn’t love a do-over? I’m sure a few of you navigated this shit perfectly right out of the starting gate, but most of us …

Read More
ex cheated and I got a graduate degree

Your Mightiest Moment?

You know I’m all about the Mighty here. Facing adversity, building a new life, managing to eat Whole 30 for a whole 30 days… Today’s …

Read More
stitched heart

Radical Kindness

I was watching “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” last night, about the life of Fred Rogers (of Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood television fame) and it struck …

Read More

Tiffany Glass Windows

Hey, I’m rerunning a favorite today. Hi chumps! I’ve been on vacation with my family in Orlando, Florida for a few days. Yesterday my mother …

Read More

Chump Lady Descends Into Middle Age

Happy birthday to me today. Every year I rerun this column, which has become one of the founding texts of CN. To the newbies, my …

Read More

Science Vindicates ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’

So here’s some good news — a new study came out vindicating chumps everywhere. Psychologists asked over 5,000 women chumps about their relationship break-ups. Turns out …

Read More
sadz

Problem? Adulting vs. Escapism

A reader once suggested to me that a great exercise to rewire chump brains and combat blameshifting would be to play “Problem? Adult Solution, Cheater …

Read More
Mother Jones

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Raise a glass to hard-fought child labor laws and the 8-hour …

Read More
>