Category: Gain a life

monkey love

Real Monkey Love, Bad Monkey Love

I use the analogy here a lot of the Barbed Wire Monkey. Did you know bad monkey love was a famous scientific study? This scientist, …

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Chump Lady Gets a Check

A little miracle happened Friday night — and I wanted to post and say thank you to Chump Nation. I came home from work, went …

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meh

How Do I Gain a Life Before the Divorce Is Final?

Hi Chump Lady, I’d love yours and the input of CN on the transition between Leaving the Cheater and Gaining the Life. I feel I’m …

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leave a cheater

You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…

Boundaries, boundaries…
Okay, so you were chumped. But how did you get mighty? When did you start enforcing boundaries that  were previously trampled?

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Mother Jones

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

Every year, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I rerun this column about Mother Jones. Happy Labor Day and see you back on Tuesday!  — …

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meh

Meh Sightings?

Have you had a glimpse of the Promised Land? Are you Meh? “Meh” — that liberating place of acceptance — is where you no longer are …

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Courage Fairies

I got a really lovely letter yesterday from a person who hadn’t been chumped but reads here, and applied “Trust That They Suck” to a …

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Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger

So you were chumped. So you’re angry as hell about it. What GOOD thing did that anger make you do? I’m not talking about creating …

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freedom

Chump Emancipation Proclamation

Hey, every day is a good day to overthrow tyrants, but a happy American Independence Day to you all!  On the Independence theme, KibblesNBits wrote this …

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leave a cheater

Unspouse Your House?

HGTV has a new show out “Unspouse Your House” — remodeling post-breakup as therapy. I’m totally onboard with this concept. Producers, call us. Chump Nation …

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Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW

Dearest Chump Lady, You pulled me through my darkest days when I found out my husband was cheating. Your blog was my sanity and North …

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stitched heart

What Do You Tell Yourself?

Dear Chump Lady, What do all the mighty people tell themselves when it’s too much? When you’re struggling for air? When not even your family …

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Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?

Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better, or is that just another lie that people tell chumps to cut down on the suicide stats? …

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What’s the Right Thing to Say?

When you go through some shit in life, there are those who say the wrong things (“Your messy hair drove him to it”) and those …

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Is Betrayal ‘The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You’?

Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for supporting so many betrayed people. I’m 1 month from D-day. A reader submitted a comment on a recent article, …

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What Are You Taking Back?

In the early days after being chumped, the world often feels like a field of landmines. You step about carefully, so as not to set …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?

Dear Chump Lady, I am five months out from the last Dday. I did not do the pick me dance, I drew boundaries and protected …

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bitter bunny

Bitter Bunny Dating?

Okay, as promised, the Fun Friday dating profile challenge. Part of gaining a life is considering the sort of life you want. Which chumps don’t …

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cyclops lonely

Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?

Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages …

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ex cheated and I got a graduate degree

Mightiness Update

I’m a glutton for Chump Nation’s “Tell Me How You’re Mighty” stories. People often ask if running this site depresses me (people who haven’t been …

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