Dear Chump Lady, I found your site 4 months ago, my husband’s been having affairs for 7 years (that I know of). I was irate about not finding anything online about self-preservation and actually taking care of yourself. Eventually, I googled “leave a cheater”, and Chump Lady was found. It was exactly what I was […]
The Family Next Door
I’ve gotten a few notes asking me if I’d seen the new Netflix documentary American Murder: The Family Next Door about the murder of Shan’ann Watts and her two children by her cheating sociopathic husband, Chris Watts. As cheating sociopaths are my particular wheelhouse, I watched it last night. Apologies to any of CN who […]
Close Encounters of the Fake Tears Kind
I don’t know about you, but one of the most shocking discoveries I had being chumped was that my ex could cry on demand. I mean, sob. Big snotty, operatic tears. Quivering lip. Hiccups for breath. When he was busted. When I was leaving. When I was imposing a consequence. The self-pity channel was EPIC. […]
‘How Could He Walk Away from His Wife and Kids?’
Dear Chump Lady, We married 6 years ago and had 2 kids. I found out about his STBX’s porn addiction shortly after we were married and his swinging in previous relationship. I ask him if he was monogamous many times. He said he was. He was tired of that lifestyle. It did not make him […]
Can I Leave a Suicidal Cheater?
Hi Chump Lady, My situation is one you’ve read a thousand times or more, but luckily I’m unmarried without kids. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. Three months into our relationship, I found out he had a secret girlfriend in Germany. I showed him grace and forgave him (classic mistake) and […]
Cheater Throws Them Out, OW Moves In
Dear Chump Lady, It’s been a little over three months (March) since my husband of 7 years informed me that I needed to leave our home with our 6-year-old and (at the time) 1-month-old after I discovered he had been having an affair. He had already told me he planned to divorce me the day […]
He Cheated on Her Daughter. She Spackled.
Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was going crazy until I read your site about how cheaters think and how much they will lie and manipulate to maintain cake. I have an interesting twist on the cheating story that shows you how much of a chump I am! I am the mom of a daughter […]
When ‘Sex Addiction’ Turns Deadly
Dear Chump Lady, I have been an avid reader of Chumplady.com for the last 16 months. After marrying my soon to be erstwhile husband, I discovered just at our one-year anniversary, six weeks after the purchase of our home, that he had been engaging in multiples affairs, hookers, match.com dates, well, you know the story. […]
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life
Dear Chump Lady, My STBX is a marriage counselor, so when I met him (a couple of years after leaving a cheating and abusive husband) I was thrilled about the prospect of having a loving and honest relationship. However, after we married, I started to see a side of him that alarmed me. Angry outbursts, […]
The Dead-Eyed Stare
So what about those dead-eyed stares, huh? It’s been discussed here, that void-nothing-state some of these freaks get when confronted. What is that look? Condescension? Vacancy? Amusement? Are the manipulation wheels spinning so fast, the facial expressions are set in neutral? What’s going on in there? I remember unearthing some ghastly nugget of truth and confronting […]
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