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UBT: “Sometimes You Need to Betray the Social Order”

God, I love me some Orwellian doublespeak. I like to end the week on a participatory note. So your homework today until Monday is to write Chump Nation some doublespeak in the vein of this Esther Perel gem I found on her Facebook page: Betrayal is awful but sometimes you need to betray the social order to create […]


UBT: “I Wasn’t Trying to Manipulate You”

Today’s Universal Bullshit Translator tidbit comes from Arlo, who sent it in after reading an article I shared on Facebook about gaslighting. (Which is a great article, btw, you can read it here.) Having more than a few A-HA moments, Arlo shared the article too. No sooner had she shared it, then her soon-to-be-ex-husband texts her. Arlo writes: […]


Fairy Dust Forgiveness

One of my most popular posts here is on the difference between real remorse and genuine imitation Naugahyde remorse. I thought we should have a post on the difference between true forgiveness and fairy dust forgiveness. I like a good forgiveness story as much as the next person. I’m a preacher’s kid. I grew up believing it […]


Where’s Esther?

As this Ashley Madison hack has unfolded over the last couple months, I’ve begun to wonder, “Where is Esther Perel?” Surely this is the biggest Infidelity News Story of the last year? Decade even? It’s huge! Millions of Ashley Madison users on Quests for Aliveness, committing Exuberance Acts of Defiance (in secret, with credit cards […]


UBT: “I Don’t Even Like Him”

Today’s Universal Bullshit Translation is “I don’t even like him” sent in by Josh. Yes, that person you risked our entire relationship for, finances, children’s home life, shared history — You Didn’t Even Like Him. Cheaters would have us believe that fucking them was a chore. Utterly repellant! They never came. And it was so […]