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Old crazy? New tradition!

On the eve of Thanksgiving, to get out of the chump holiday doldrums, I thought it might be fun to compare Old Holiday Dysfunction with New Holiday Tradition. Don’t have any new traditions? Make some up! For example: Old Holiday Dysfunction (OHD) — Your drunk father-in-law rails on about One World Order conspiracies while his wife […]


Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?

It’s that season again and it’s time to rerun this column. I was reminded of it by a new blogger Being A Divorced Dad (check him out, chumps!) who recently tagged it. If you’re in a bit of a holiday slump, this goes one out to you. — Tracy Dear Chump Lady, I am six months out […]


Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman told me to read your blog…

Dear Chump Lady, I have been living with my husband having an affair for a year now. I love him deeply. We have a deep connection and companionship and a great sex life. We have been married for 20 years. 3 kids. I have been through hell. But he can’t let her go… She is […]


UBT: Mo’Nique’s Give Men a Pass for Cheating

So, this was in my Facebook feed this week, and probably yours too — comedian Mo’Nique gave an interview saying you should give your spouse a “pass to cheat” because that’s what friends are for. The Universal Bullshit Translator was built for such moments. Although the UBT’s heart isn’t really in it. It knows spackle when it hears […]


Dear Chump Lady, My mom is a serial cheater

Dear Chump Lady, My mother is a serial cheater. Being the oldest, I had to watch her bring strange men home, hear her have sex with them and stand as a mediator between her and my dad. Mine could have been the trusted parent, but in his rampage of revenge on my mother for having […]