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My Cheater, My House

Continuing from yesterday’s home improvement/Hilary discussion, there seems to be some consensus that cheaters are often pretty lousy at home care, as well as marital care. I mean, it makes a certain sense. If you’re prone to boredom, need instant gratification, can’t foresee consequences, live in a cloud of entitlement, and are frequently absent, you probably […]


HGTV’s Hilary Farr, Queen of the Boundaries

I confess I’ve got a thing for the HGTV show “Love It or List It.” It completely appeals to my chumpy, codependent senses — you take a hideous pile, see the potential, and then transform it into something beautiful and worthwhile. Of course, this sort of transmogrification never works on humans. (Seriously, don’t fall for […]


Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?

Dear Chump Lady, Am hoping you will be able to help me. I will try and be brief with my background information. My husband and I have been married 5 years and have 3 children (5, 2, and 8 months). I began to suspect he was cheating on me in 2012 and after some investigation […]


Dear Chump Lady, How do I manage weekly contact?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband of ten years effectively abandoned me while I was pregnant with our 2nd child (our oldest, now 8 years old, is mildly disabled) due to his emotional affair with a ho-worker. I had to go back to full-time work at 7 months pregnant for the first time in 7 years […]


The UBT Takes on Aimee

The other day, Sweetz posted that the Other Woman sent her an email and asked that we decode it for her. By request, I will throw it into the jaws of the Universal Bullshit Translator and see what happens. The letter: Dear Sweetz, When you asked me to keep away from your husband for the […]