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It’s “Complicated”

One thing that baffles me about cheating is that people think it is “complicated.” There’s even a relationship designation for that on online dating sites — you aren’t married or single, no, you’re in a state of “it’s complicated.” Apparently, infidelity is so full of nuance and subtlety that only enlightened sophisticates can understand it. […]


Troll Compendium

I get so many trolls around here, I thought I should make you guys a field guide. By creating a troll compendium, you’ll have a resource to identify these critters, catch them in a net, and pin them into neat shadowboxes for display. Others of you may prefer taxidermy. There is, of course, a lot of cross […]


Bobby Betray

I know I’m late to the party on this one, but SHOCKER — Bobby Flay is getting divorced for the third time, apparently for having a three-year  affair with his assistant Elyse Tirrell, 28. Tirrell, who gives new meaning to “Throwdown with Bobby Flay,” used to be a hostess in one of his restaurants. For […]


Dear Chump Lady, I just discovered that my mom cheated

Hi Chump Lady, I’m 28, married to a wonderful man, and expecting our first child in a couple of weeks. My dad is a great guy, and we have always gotten along pretty well, probably because we’re so much alike. He and my mom got divorced when I was 12, and both parents are remarried. […]


UBT: Joseph’s Letter

If you’ve spent any time on reconciliation boards, you’re familiar with Joseph’s Letter. It was written by a member of a defunct forum “BAN”, but appears at Surviving Infidelity and Marriage Builders. It’s a plea from a man (Joseph) to his wayward wife to please answer questions about her affair instead of doing the ol’ rug […]