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Enough with Divorce Shame

My cousin got divorced yesterday and I noticed today on her Facebook page that she wrote a very kind thank you to her friends and family who helped her through this difficult “journey.” She didn’t mention what that journey was — divorce. Several people wrote “You’re in my prayers,” and “hugs” and other supportive kind things, a few […]


Dissolving the Ego

Today, I’m going on a bit of a tangent, chumps. But you know me, I can turn the conversation about most anything back to infidelity, so don’t worry. I was trying to motivate myself to write about some new cheater fuckupedness. Maybe “It Happened to Me: I Was the Fat Mistress”? Where the author credits cheating for […]


Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word

An alert chump recently sent me this dollop of crazy: “My Husband Learned the Hard Way Why Women Cheat” by Marina Pearson on HuffPo. Ostensibly, it’s a cheater saying that hey, she’s sorry and takes ownership of her affair. She was unhappy, she should’ve spoken up not acted out, the affair was immature. However, as it usually transpires […]


Dear Chump Lady, How can I stay the course?

Hi Chump Lady, My name is Nellie, I’m a 23 year old from South Africa and am now also a chump. Honestly, I’ve been a chump for little over 3 months now when I found out my boyfriend of 5 years has been cheating on me for months, and before that regularly with other girls […]


Some Good News in a Wicked World

Hey chumps, I just wanted to update you on Annabel, our Valentine. If you’ll recall, I posted a request that instead of sending cheaters chocolates this year, help send a deaf girl from South Sudan to school instead. Well, thanks to Chump Nation, we raised a year’s tuition for her to go to the Mulago School […]