Hello Chump Lady, I have a pretty straight forward situation. I was dating a man for about 8 months. I thought it was hands down THE BEST relationship I’d ever been in. I find out he’s cheating. Turns out he locks his phone with his birthday…idiot. I unceremoniously dumped him. It was fairly clear to […]
‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’
Dear Chump Lady, The past several months have been some of the worst of my life. Three months after having a baby, I discovered that my husband had some sort of relationship with the 46-year-old neighbor across the street. We had just moved in and got married when I was pregnant, so he immediately started […]
Soul Mates vs. Life Partner?
Hi Chump Lady, I was hoping you might do a post on the whole love-of-my-life soulmate thing. I feel that a lot of us get caught up in that when our cheating spouse feels or says that. I have read a lot on the whole soulmate thing and the general misinformation about the term. Soulmate […]
Duped for a Quarter
Who doesn’t love a mighty story? I’m reading a really good book right now and I want to turn you all on to it — Stolen: Five Free Boys Kidnapped into Slavery and Their Astonishing Odyssey Home by Richard Bell. It doesn’t get much more gobsmackingly courageous than this — five children, free black boys […]
When They Cheat in Your Home
Dear Chump Lady, I recently found out my husband of 25 years had a mistress for around 15 years of that marriage. Boy was that an eye opener! The bastard was basically living a lie with me and this left feeling paralyzed. Five months have passed since. The funny thing is he felt no guilt, […]
Called the Other Woman, Got ‘Vague’ Answers
Dear Chump Lady, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is 17 years older than me. Well, the first 3 months of our relationship were great. I have always been a jealous person but I never had a “real reason” to believe that he was doing something he shouldn’t have been. […]
Lies Are Exhausting
Another primer in mindfuckery today, and that is exhaustion as manipulation tactic. If you’re a cheater and you want your chump to back off? Keep ’em running in circles, chasing unicorn (tails) tales. How is this accomplished? With a constant barrage of bullshit, half-truths, outright lies, indignation, and the ol’ I Fail to Understand Your […]
More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say
I know I have a page for this, but why hasn’t Stupid Shit Cheaters Say been a Friday Challenge? The time has come. When I started this place, I naively thought I would catalog the crazy. More naively, I thought I would draw it. I had no idea I would get literally thousands of submissions, […]
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life
Dear Chump Lady, My STBX is a marriage counselor, so when I met him (a couple of years after leaving a cheating and abusive husband) I was thrilled about the prospect of having a loving and honest relationship. However, after we married, I started to see a side of him that alarmed me. Angry outbursts, […]
Gaslighting — Who’s The Crazy One Here?
Dear Chump Lady, Can we talk about the horrible act and effects of gaslighting by cheaters and how they try to make you think you’re crazy? My ex started fights with me deliberately all the time during the last year of our marriage and I didn’t realize what was going on until we were well […]
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