Category: Cheaters Decoded
Is Every Cheater Mentally Ill?
Dear Chump Lady, I have a question: my soon-to-be-ex is a megalomaniac, socio-psycho-pathic compulsive liar. He lacks empathy and borders on sadism. No, no border. …
Do You Think ‘Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater’?
Hi Chump Lady, What do you think about someone cheating when they’re younger in life and actually really not being that personality type, like learning …
Why Does My Cheating-Ex Show Off Around Me?
Hi Chump Lady, My ex, lying, cheating, drug addict, is a fitness trainer at the gym I belong to. I hardly ever see her and …
Decoding ‘I Haven’t Been Happy For a Long Time’
The other week someone asked me to decode, “I haven’t been happy for a long time.” (Also sometimes expressed as “WE haven’t been happy for …
The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …
Your Best Word Salad, Please
I created this site not just to offer an alternative to the Reconciliation Industrial Complex, but to lampoon the pomposity of cheaters. And there is …
Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner
One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the …
Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?
Dear Chump Lady, After faithfully reading this blog and thinking about all that we have been through I still have questions. 1.) How did …
So Why the Hell Isn’t She Happy Now?
Hi Chump Lady, So my wife had an affair and after being found out asked for a trial separation. She said she had been “struggling …
‘I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time’
The other week someone asked me to decode, “I haven’t been happy for a long time.” (Also sometimes expressed as “WE haven’t been happy for …
Beware the Timid Forest Creatures
After you’ve been cheated on, you’d think it’s a pretty simple decision tree — reconcile or divorce. Choose divorce, it doesn’t matter if your cheater …
“Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?”
Dear Chump Lady, After faithfully reading this blog and thinking about all that we have been through I still have questions. 1. How did all …
Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
This one goes out to the pseudo-therapist-sexologist quacks everywhere and the diploma mills who love them. I’m rerunning my piece on Chump Credentials. Join IAACS now! …
UBT: ‘Our Marriage Was Already Over’
Here’s some one-size-fits-all cheater bullshit for you — “Our marriage was already over.” Cheaters say it to affair partners, “We’re all but divorced!” “We’re separated!” …
Why blame the chump?
Dear Chump Lady, Why are these so called experts so rabid about blaming chumps for their part in creating a situation where they got betrayed? …
Nice vs. Kind
There was an interesting side discussion the other day on Chump Lady about the difference between niceness and kindness. Many people noted that their cheaters …
Cheater Exceptionalism
“Marn” submitted this delicious nugget of Stupid Shit Cheaters Say: “I live outside the boxes that others live in. I’m not like other people. I …
Recidivism?
I usually bridle at the reductionist criticism “once a cheater, always a cheater.” We’re not the final word on anyone’s character. While I don’t believe …
Cheaters Never Trade Up — The Lola Doctrine
While I’m jetting towards Australia, I’m running a guest column today by CN member “Lola Granola.” Enjoy! — Tracy Too often when we are on …
UBT: “I’m Not a Terrible Person”
Dear Chump Lady, I confronted my husband about his affair just before Christmas. He has been carrying on with a coworker who was also supposed …
