Category: Narcissism

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UBT: Cheating on My Husband Made Me a Better Mother

Who’s ready for another personal testimonial to the wonders of cheating? It brightens! It whitens! It dices! It slices! And it’s good for stubborn stains. …

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Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner

One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the …

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‘I Thought You Were Okay With It’

This nugget of Stupid Shit Cheaters Say was recently submitted to me: “Let’s be honest. You’ve had another man in your life for the past …

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Serial cheater

How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …

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Dear Chump Lady, She has abs of steel

Dear Chump Lady,  I need your help because I sabotage my own life by comparing myself to the ex’s new woman (one of the many …

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Narcissist Goldfish

When Your D-Day Is After the Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the Beauty and Beast fiction? Briefly: married my brother’s friend at 25, 2 girls and 20 years …

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Serial cheater

Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think he’s a narcissist

Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump who discovered my husband’s year-long affair that took place nine years ago while dealing with the fallout of me …

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“Why do cheaters need to punish the chump?”

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been separated about 8 months from my STBX cheater. We were married for 7 years when he began having an affair …

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Respond to Mindfuckery with Ridicule

Ideally, no one sticks around for gaslighting. The best response is no response — because you’re not there. But if you’re still in the thick …

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What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?

As much as I advise against untangling the skein of fuckupedness, we chumps (myself included) spend a lot of time decoding cheaters, narcissists, and the …

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Mindfuck blender

UBT: ‘I hold no animosity for you’

Dear Chump Lady, I am a chump. I was married for two and a half years before I grew strong enough to leave. After multiple …

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Narcissist Goldfish

New Narc Strategy? Be Boring

Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing to ask if you could write a post about how and whether gray rock differs from no contact. Thanks to …

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I am not defined by my relationship.

Cheater Exceptionalism

“Marn” submitted this delicious nugget of Stupid Shit Cheaters Say: “I live outside the boxes that others live in. I’m not like other people. I …

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Entitlement Reinforcement

We talk a lot here about intermittent reinforcement — that power that makes chumps stay because you get a small pay off. A kibble? For …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is he a narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now and am learning tons about all the different kinds of fuckwits out …

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UBT: I Didn’t Know How to Express My Unhappiness

Hi Chump Lady, I’m 7 months out from D-Day…40-year old chump, married 15 years with 2 sons. Some highlights I discovered… My wife had multiple affairs …

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How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

Once upon a time I got a call for a post on how to co-parent with a narcissist. So, here’s your article. If I were …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Narcissists Be Crazy!

Sorry, that headline was more fun than “Neuroscience Points to Empathy Deficit among Narcissists.” You know how I’ve been saying here at Chump Lady that …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he get a life?!

Dear Chump Lady, Cheater has been with the same OW since all this started — over three years ago, when I was pregnant with my …

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You Could Be Friends!

Among the more patently moronic submissions to Stupid Shit Cheaters Say is the assertion that if you knew the affair partner, you’d really like them. …

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