Dear Chump Lady, I’m new to reading your column (just found it). I’ve been divorced 10-years after 14 years of being married. I found out from my then 2-year-old that her daddy was “naughty” because he kissed “girl.” We also had a 10-month old baby at the time.I knew from the look on his face, […]
UBT: I Know My Truth
Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post d-Day. My husband of 40 years finally has a move out date and I am starting to get a taste of what closure might look like. I’m still in pain, but getting better. I would like some help parsing the communication I received from the OW. She […]
Why Do Affair Partners Stalk Chumps?
Hi Chump Lady, Life is good at five years post-divorce. I haven’t talked to or seen ex since the settlement signing/final appearance in front of a judge. The few post-settlement issues have been resolved at my end by telephone court appearance, which is nice because there is no way in hell I’d be able otherwise. […]
The Other Woman Was a ‘Best Friend’
Dear Chump Lady My children’s father and I broke up 18 months ago after after an 11-year relationship, 2 kids, a house, and a business. The break up especially was horrific with mental / financial abuse, accusations, gaslighting, and projections. I’ve only recently been able to wrap my head around it and have retained a […]
How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to the OW?
Dear Chump Lady, I am five months out from the last Dday. I did not do the pick me dance, I drew boundaries and protected myself by kicking his ass to the curb. The OW was older than me (11 years older than me and X) and had actually helped me with the relationship, until […]
My Best Friend Is an Affair Person
Hi Chump Lady, I got chumped many years ago during my first marriage, and I wish I’d had you back then (would have saved me years of anguish and therapy bills). It was a very ugly situation where my then-husband had a long-term affair and then left me a week before Thanksgiving… and brought his […]
UBT: Our Relationship Is Over, I Suppose
Dear Chump Lady, Your blog helped me to cut through the nonsense about staying with a cheater and I can say that I am now divorced and at peace with it. I am happy to report that I am doing so much better and am gaining a life day by day. I would like to […]
How Do I Ward Off Emotional Vampires?
Dear Chump Lady, I left my ex-fiancé a few years ago just as our daughter was born (standard cheater asshole) and amidst him marrying and having a child with someone else within less than a year of that, I suppose he got tired of her too, and sought to reconcile with me. I was not […]
Meeting the OW for the First Time
Hi Chump Lady, I have a problem that I am really struggling with. What do I do when I meet the ex and the OW at an event for the first time? A little background: was married 28 years , the last 2 years consisting of D-days and reconciliations. I smoked hopium and played the […]
He Butt-Dialed Her from the OW’s
He butt-dialed her from the OW’s place. Now she’s wondering if they can still be friends. Chump Lady on why that’s a regrettable idea.
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