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No Tag Backs, OW

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Hi CL! I’m a newbie chump (7 weeks going on 8) and up until now I behaved really rather well. I kept my cool and didn’t do the pick me dance, I managed not to drunk dial soon-to-be-ex-husband, up until last week he was still ‘harassing’ me via text/emails/calls (especially when drunk) with a mix […]

Where Are They Now?

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“Don’t wait for karma,” I tell people on this blog all the time. Get on with your life! Go be awesome! Embrace meh! Assuming you even believe in cosmic comeuppances, you shouldn’t wait for them. Who knows the ways of the karmic scheduler? (I suspect he’s often asleep at the wheel.) But sometimes… just sometimes… […]

Dear Chump Lady, She changed him

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Dear Chump Lady, I want to first say that I am SERIOUSLY thankful for your blog. I found it a little too late, and pick-me danced too long, but once I found it, I suddenly found the courage to stay strong and give up on the ‘perfect family’ dream. When I found you, it was […]

Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL

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Dear Chump Lady, I am 10 years out from leaving my cheating ex-husband. I found out about his affair on July 4, 2009, and have referred to that day as my “Independence Day.” I had dated him through high school and college and we were married for 16 years when he decided his sales representative […]

Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he’ll cheat on me

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Dear Chump Lady, I am probably the biggest chump of all, but here goes…  I was married for 21 years and had an affair (the only one) with a married man I work with, who had been married for 17 years.  He said I’m number 8 for him. He told me about all of them […]

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW

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Dearest Chump Lady, You pulled me through my darkest days when I found out my husband was cheating. Your blog was my sanity and North Star. It pointed me towards a new life, one that is now free from fear, chaos, gaslighting, lies, and all the other horrible things that go along with being married […]

All Those Times You Didn’t Cheat

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If you believe the popular commentators on infidelity, unfaithfulness is an affliction that can happen to anyone anywhere anytime. All of our relationships are under the constant assault of sparkly new acquaintances and old Facebook crushes. And the only bulwark against the novel pussy/dick menace is a $399 “affair-proof” your marriage webinar. Affairs, we’re told, […]

The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners

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Here’s a rookie chump mistake — confronting affair partners. Maybe you did this. Maybe you agonized about doing this. Maybe you’re still waiting to come up with the perfect withering remark to deliver along with your poisoned umbrella tip. Let me spare you the trouble — don’t go there. But! But!  I know you want […]

Dear Chump Lady, Is this weird?

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Dear Chump Lady, I’ve recently just attended the baby shower of a fellow chump friend that I met recently. She told me the story of her past chumpdom and she now has a new partner and baby on the way. All lovely, but… in attendance at her baby shower was her first husband’s affair partner. […]