Dear Chump Lady, I am five months out from the last Dday. I did not do the pick me dance, I drew boundaries and protected myself by kicking his ass to the curb. The OW was older than me (11 years older than me and X) and had actually helped me with the relationship, until […]
My Best Friend Is an Affair Person
Hi Chump Lady, I got chumped many years ago during my first marriage, and I wish I’d had you back then (would have saved me years of anguish and therapy bills). It was a very ugly situation where my then-husband had a long-term affair and then left me a week before Thanksgiving… and brought his […]
UBT: Our Relationship Is Over, I Suppose
Dear Chump Lady, Your blog helped me to cut through the nonsense about staying with a cheater and I can say that I am now divorced and at peace with it. I am happy to report that I am doing so much better and am gaining a life day by day. I would like to […]
How Do I Ward Off Emotional Vampires?
Dear Chump Lady, I left my ex-fiancé a few years ago just as our daughter was born (standard cheater asshole) and amidst him marrying and having a child with someone else within less than a year of that, I suppose he got tired of her too, and sought to reconcile with me. I was not […]
Meeting the OW for the First Time
Hi Chump Lady, I have a problem that I am really struggling with. What do I do when I meet the ex and the OW at an event for the first time? A little background: was married 28 years , the last 2 years consisting of D-days and reconciliations. I smoked hopium and played the […]
He Butt-Dialed Her from the OW’s
He butt-dialed her from the OW’s place. Now she’s wondering if they can still be friends. Chump Lady on why that’s a regrettable idea.
UBT: Gina Frangello, Blow Your House Down
I’m a feminist and I find Other Women “feminists” so tiresome. Fucking around on your partner doesn’t make you a feminist, it makes you a jerk. Before I throw Gina Frangello into the jaws of the Universal Bullshit Translator, let me just rattle off a few ways being a mistress (per AP Style: lov-ah, companion, […]
He’s ‘Saving’ the Other Woman
Hi Chump Lady, I have been married to my possible soon-to-be-ex for 25 years (M 53). I should have left in 2007 when he had an emotional / online affair with a woman he met on a dating site (claimed it was an old friend from high school). Our kids were 2 and 10. It […]
UBT: In Defense of Dating a Married Man
So here’s some MSN clickbait just begging to be Universal Bullshit Translated this morning. A fluffy little piece of sociopathy by Shannon Boodram, sexologist, entitled “In Defense of Dating a Married Man.”* I often get emails from women involved with a married man or from men who are engaged in an affair that usually center […]
‘I Can’t Face Being a Single Mum’
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been thinking about writing to you for months but I just haven’t been brave enough… I found out in April 2020 that my husband was having an affair with a woman he worked with for 6 months. I think going into lockdown in March had driven him mad and not getting […]
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