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Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner

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One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the affair partner! You’re a lot alike! You could be friends! The chump is absolutely gobsmacked by this (clearly, or they wouldn’t submit such nonsense to this blog). Which got me […]

UBT: Mother’s Day Wishes from the OW?

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I got pinged over on FaceBook last week about an email a chump received from the Other Woman, telling the chump how she could be more magnanimous on Mother’s Day. The chump’s divorce isn’t final yet, but OW would like to offer a masterclass in graciousness For The Children! Yes, we all want lessons in comportment […]

Mistress Is ‘Archaic’ and ‘Sexist’?

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The venerable AP style book, used by journalists for matters of grammar and style, has taken us all to task for using the word “mistress.” “We now say not to use the archaic and sexist term ‘mistress’ for a woman in a long-term sexual relationship with, and financially supported by, a man who is married […]

UBT: “Will Our Affair Survive the Lockdown?”

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A few bazillion of you sent the Universal Bullshit Translator the Guardian’s “I’m involved with a married man. Will our affair survive the lockdown?” Penned by “Anonymous,” filed under “Relationships,” I’m not really sure what the point was. Is she looking for advice? (None is given. Comments are off.) Is she shouting her true love […]

The OW Recommends a Self-Help Book

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Hi Chump Lady! I wrote to you over the holiday’s, detailing how my cheating EX got cheated on by his mistress and how karma, completely un-looked for at this stage, caught up with him. WELL….Today I received a package (at my office!) from the EX mistress with an “inspirational book” and a letter from the […]

The Benevolent Other Woman

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An alert chump sent me A Letter To The Woman Whose Man Cheated On Her With Me. The OW is “Aria.” The chump girlfriend is “Candy.” I think these names have to be made up. Aria? Seriously? You’re an operatic solo full of passion and meaning and the chump is some frivolous confection? A Mars […]

‘How Do I Handle the OW?’

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I handle this bitch?! My husband left me last year because he needed “space.” Come to find out he has been seen with one of my “friends” —  a mom at the children’s school — for the last two years! They live in the same apartment complex. I spoke to her husband […]

‘I Work with the Other Woman’

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with the following situation? I work at the same organisation as my husband though in a different team. His other woman is in my team. She is full-time in the office, I am in the office for one day every two weeks for meetings (home based worker). In […]

Called the Other Woman, Got ‘Vague’ Answers

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Dear Chump Lady, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is 17 years older than me. Well, the first 3 months of our relationship were great. I have always been a jealous person but I never had a “real reason” to believe that he was doing something he shouldn’t have been. […]