Archives You Might Be a Chump If..December 7, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?December 6, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I have no Seasons GreetingsDecember 5, 2018‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’December 4, 2018The Cheater Who Stole ChristmasDecember 3, 2018Schadenfreude SnarkNovember 30, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Please kick my assNovember 29, 2018Out of Sight, Out of Mind: Understanding Cheater DetachmentNovember 28, 2018UBT: “I Don’t Mean to Worry You, But…”November 26, 2018Holiday HooveringNovember 23, 2018Bye-Bye, CheaterNovember 21, 2018My Wife Kissed a CoworkerNovember 19, 2018Chump Nation Gives ThanksNovember 16, 2018The Pick Me Dance and PolyamoryNovember 14, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Where do I put his stuff?November 13, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I drunk dialedNovember 12, 2018What Advice Would You Give an Earlier You?November 9, 2018Managing Divorce ExpectationsNovember 8, 2018Your Time on the Marriage Police ForceNovember 7, 2018Dear Chump Lady, “I still wish I could call him”November 6, 2018How to Deal with Adult Child After D-Day?November 5, 2018Your Mightiest Moment?November 2, 2018The “What If They’re Really The One” FearNovember 1, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Is this apology total baloney?October 30, 2018Respond to Narcissists with RidiculeOctober 25, 2018‘I Found the OW’s Goodbye Letter in My Safe’October 24, 2018UBT: “You Represent Christmastime”October 22, 2018Twu Wuv Vows?October 19, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He’s stuck on his ‘intentions’October 17, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I have nightmaresOctober 16, 2018The I-Know-What-I-Did-Was-Wrong-But-I-Did-It-Anyway MindfuckOctober 15, 2018Good Advice, Bad Advice?October 12, 2018What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?October 9, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He left me to BLOG with the OW?October 8, 2018Radical KindnessOctober 5, 2018UBT: “I Don’t Understand”October 4, 2018Dear Chump Lady, How did I not know?October 2, 2018When Entitlement Meets VulnerabilityOctober 1, 2018Worst Gift Ever?September 28, 2018UBT: “I Found Myself and Had an Affair”September 24, 2018What It Looked Like, What It WasSeptember 21, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Did my being controlling make him gay?September 19, 2018Let’s blame the children?September 17, 2018Stupid Shit Affair Partners Say?September 14, 2018UBT: ‘I hold no animosity for you’September 13, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any good memories of himSeptember 12, 2018Problem? Adulting vs. EscapismSeptember 7, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I can’t give upSeptember 5, 2018Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?September 4, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Can I go NC with my step-daughter?August 30, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump, my brother is a cheaterAugust 29, 2018The ‘Otherness’ of the OWAugust 27, 2018He Got a Ring Finger Tattoo for the Other WomanAugust 23, 2018UBT: ‘I’m Sorry You Feel That Way’August 20, 2018God Rest Her SoulAugust 17, 2018“Our children deserved…”August 16, 2018Why Blame Victims of Cheaters Above Cheaters Themselves?August 15, 2018We’re Divorcing and Still Living in the Same HouseAugust 14, 2018I’m Obsessed With the Other WomanAugust 13, 2018How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?August 10, 2018“Closure,” Don’t Do It.August 8, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Am I normal?August 6, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I want out, but I can’t afford itJuly 31, 2018The Case of the Dangling Former SpouseJuly 30, 2018What’s Your Post-Infidelity Super Power?July 27, 2018Be the Support You Wish You HadJuly 26, 2018Entitlement ReinforcementJuly 24, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I shouldn’t have looked…July 23, 2018The Selfies, OMG the SelfiesJuly 20, 2018UBT: Her Cheater ‘Never Meant for This to Happen’July 19, 2018When You Perform the Pick Me Dance WrongJuly 16, 2018Connecting with Other Chumps?July 13, 2018“Does divorcing her make me the Bad Guy?”July 12, 2018Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?July 11, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?July 10, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He wants me backJuly 9, 2018Tell Me How You SuckJuly 6, 2018Emotional Affairs, Exit Affairs, and GhostsJuly 3, 2018Dear Chump Lady, The OW dresses my children in her clothesJuly 2, 2018How to Find a Lawyer and Other Chump Survival TipsJune 29, 2018When You Can’t Leave Because You Still “Love” ThemJune 28, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Why must cheaters add insult to injury?June 27, 2018How to Confront a CheaterJune 26, 2018“What do I tell my crying children?”June 25, 2018Fear, You Don’t Own MeJune 22, 2018Keeping SecretsJune 21, 2018Dear Chump Lady, No contact is killing me!June 19, 2018Recidivism?June 15, 2018Shocker. Rudy Giuliani Still a Cheater.June 14, 2018He Walked Out and I’m Suddenly a Single MomJune 13, 2018A Trust That Cheaters Suck ReminderJune 12, 2018The Dead Cheater DilemmaJune 11, 2018Apology FailsJune 8, 2018Dear Chump Lady, She knew in her heart he was a cheaterJune 5, 2018Tales from the “Gain a Life” Side?June 1, 2018UBT: “I just want to help you!”May 30, 2018So what else didn’t you know about?May 25, 2018UXWorld UBTs a Letter from KKMay 23, 2018Cheaters Never Trade Up — The Lola DoctrineMay 22, 2018How did you spackle over the incompatibility?May 21, 2018Where Is Cheater SHAME?May 18, 2018Do Cheaters Blameshift?May 14, 2018Monica Lewinsky Isn’t Going to the BallMay 11, 2018UBT: “You’re the one who still has my heart”May 10, 2018How to Respond to ‘I’ve Changed!May 9, 2018UBT: Thanks to your book, my husband wants to leave meMay 8, 2018Why Does the Other Woman Want to Meet Me?May 7, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He sexted his AUNTMay 2, 2018Dear Chump Lady, The Hallmark Channel Is Fucking with My HeadMay 1, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I’m too old to start overApril 30, 2018Sunshine, Lollipops, Middle FingersApril 27, 2018When the Pick Me Dance Turns DeadlyApril 26, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?April 25, 2018Why Do Cheaters All Do the Same Stupid Things?April 23, 2018Time for Another Mightiness Check InApril 20, 2018UBT: 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You For His Emotional Affair PartnerApril 17, 2018Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?April 16, 2018Time for Another Round of Bitch Cookie!April 13, 2018The Perils of Flunking No ContactApril 11, 2018You Picked a Fine Time To Leave Me, LucilleApril 6, 2018Why Would Someone Be The Other Woman?April 5, 2018I Don’t Want Him, But the Other Woman Can’t Have HimApril 2, 2018Most Audacious Lie?March 30, 2018UBT: I Didn’t Know How to Express My UnhappinessMarch 29, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Better the Cheater I know, right?March 27, 2018Stupid Cheater Life PlansMarch 23, 2018Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants $25,000March 22, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He wants to move to New ZealandMarch 21, 2018UBT: I cheated because you’re staleMarch 19, 2018Being the Marriage Police SucksMarch 16, 2018Dear Chump Lady, The cheater doesn’t know I’m pregnantMarch 15, 2018Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a CheaterMarch 13, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater because of her dad?March 12, 2018Hopium TranslationsMarch 9, 2018After Cheating, He Keeps Returning and CryingMarch 5, 2018How Is Your Life Better Without a Cheater?March 2, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He lies about everything… and why won’t he watch our dogs?March 1, 2018Dear Chump Lady, The OW must be really great for my wife to give up everythingFebruary 27, 2018Chump Lady on OrgiesFebruary 26, 2018Infidelity… It’s So Much MoreFebruary 23, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Can’t quite shake the rejection…February 21, 2018Australia, You Need to Up Your Scandal GameFebruary 20, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Why does he get to look like a Good Person?February 16, 2018A Valentine’s Day ResetFebruary 13, 2018Dead Cheaters and Terrible DiscoveriesFebruary 12, 2018Check Your Bills for Boob Jobs and Other Great AdviceFebruary 9, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He cheated on me through fertility treatmentsFebruary 7, 2018Financial Abuse and Your D-DayFebruary 6, 2018Poor NigelFebruary 5, 2018Time Again for Infidelity Valentines!February 2, 2018Mayor of Nashville Feels Really Sad About Her Taxpayer-Funded AffairFebruary 1, 2018Affairs Improve Marriage?January 31, 2018Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m not “the one”January 29, 2018If You Could Go Back in Time…January 26, 2018Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the unfairness?January 25, 2018UBT: “I’m Not a Terrible Person”January 24, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I pull the trigger on the divorce?January 23, 2018Profiles in MightinessJanuary 19, 2018My husband had an affair with my cousin: Should I confront her?January 18, 2018Tuesday Is ComingJanuary 17, 2018UBT: I’m a Real Silly BunnyJanuary 16, 2018How Can We Challenge Blameshifting Therapists?January 15, 2018New Script for Betrayed Political Wives?January 12, 2018UBT: In Defense of Dating a Married ManJanuary 11, 2018Dear Chump Lady, I discovered a Switzerland SisterJanuary 10, 2018Science Says Narcissists Be Crazy!January 9, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he get a life?!January 8, 2018Dreams, Signs, and Cosmic Portents You’re a ChumpJanuary 5, 2018Snooping in the Modern AgeJanuary 4, 2018Dear Chump Lady, Is this my fault?January 2, 2018How to Get Past the Rage Stage of Betrayal TraumaJanuary 1, 2018New Year’s Friday Challenge!December 29, 2017Is It Okay to Freak Out the Cheater’s Family?December 27, 2017Dear Chump Lady, WTF Merry X-mas?!December 25, 2017Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Holiday EditionDecember 22, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone ever love me with stretchmarks?December 21, 2017UBT: ‘My Dog Loves Mark’ (the Cheater)December 20, 2017Esther Perel in the #MeToo EraDecember 19, 2017Cheater Freak Christmas Countdown!December 15, 2017UBT: “We tried to stop so many times, but we couldn’t”December 14, 2017It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-DayDecember 13, 2017I Miss Being a Full-Time ParentDecember 12, 2017Some Holiday UpliftDecember 10, 2017What to Say to Sanctimonious Rubberneckers?December 8, 2017Dear Chump Lady, The cheater wants to take family photosDecember 7, 2017UBT: “No One Is Perfect”December 6, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?December 5, 2017“Feeling desperate, fearful, rage”December 4, 20176 Ways to Tell a Sorry Not Sorry ApologyDecember 1, 2017There’s the Door, Matt LauerNovember 30, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I need confirmation that he cheatedNovember 29, 2017No, We Bitter, Hopeless Chumps Will Not Come to Your Dinner PartyNovember 28, 2017UBT: “An Optimist’s Guide to Divorce”November 27, 2017Your Stupid Cheater MomentsNovember 24, 2017UBT: “I just wanted to reach out to help you”November 23, 2017Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop feeling sorry for him?November 21, 2017Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife has some weird requestsNovember 20, 2017Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to the people who knew?November 14, 2017The Silent ChumpsNovember 13, 2017Narcissist Mixtapes?November 10, 2017Monogamy Is Not the ProblemNovember 8, 2017UBT: I’m a broken empty person searching for meaning and happiness before I dieNovember 7, 2017The Futility in Confronting Affair PartnersNovember 6, 2017Bitch Cookie, Anyone?November 3, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I left my perfect husbandNovember 1, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Help! I keep breaking no contactOctober 30, 2017Mr./Ms. Sparkles Is Ready to Date You!October 27, 2017Weinstein Does Outpatient QuackeryOctober 24, 2017A Shout Out to All You Stalking CheatersOctober 23, 2017The Redeemable Cheater FallacyOctober 20, 2017When They Look Good on PaperOctober 19, 2017Un-Chumping Post-Infidelity, A PrimerOctober 18, 2017Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with my cheater dad?October 16, 2017Divorce HacksOctober 13, 2017I’m the OW and I’m Terrified He Will Cheat on MeOctober 12, 2017Want to spot a narcissist? Just ask one.October 10, 2017Dear Chump Lady, She says it was “just kissing”October 9, 2017Chump Lady Takes Back ParisOctober 7, 2017Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice You GotOctober 6, 2017Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?October 5, 2017Problem? Adult solution vs. Cheater solutionOctober 4, 2017Cheater Freak of the Week?October 3, 2017You might be a chump if…October 2, 2017I Want What She’s HavingSeptember 29, 2017I Slept with My Ex!September 28, 2017Anthony Weiner Gets Sent to PrisonSeptember 27, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I wish I would’ve pressed chargesSeptember 26, 2017What Got You Unstuck from a Cheater?September 22, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to be friendly with my ex?September 21, 2017I don’t miss him at all. Is there something wrong with me?September 19, 2017Rituals for New Lives?September 15, 2017Dear Chump Lady, He loves me, he’s worried about me… he left?September 14, 2017One Off Cheaters versus Serial Cheaters?September 13, 2017The Mindfuck Only Has Three ChannelsSeptember 12, 2017Who You Thought You Were, Who You Really AreSeptember 8, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to do No ContactSeptember 7, 2017We Divorced and Now She Wants to ReconcileSeptember 5, 2017Be a Hell Raiser, Not a ChumpSeptember 4, 2017What You Thought It Was, What It Really WasSeptember 1, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Why is the OW calling our house?August 30, 2017Dear Chump Lady, He proposed… and then he cheatedAugust 29, 2017UBT: You aren’t alone… you have the kidsAugust 28, 2017How Did You Thwart Their Greatness?August 25, 2017They Cheated in Our BedAugust 23, 2017All Hail Joss Whedon the Conquering DouchebagAugust 22, 2017After My Husband Died I Discovered His Double LifeAugust 21, 2017New Life Tattoos Anyone?August 18, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Do they turn bad or were they always bad?August 16, 2017Do Cheaters Suffer from Low Self-Esteem?August 15, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get over being replacedAugust 14, 2017The Health Costs of Staying?August 11, 2017Dear Chump Lady, He won’t stop texting the OW in front of meAugust 10, 2017Dear Chump Lady, He exults in my parenting “mistakes”August 9, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think my cheater is like the other cheaters…August 7, 2017It’s Taking Up Another’s PlaceAugust 4, 2017Chump Shaming as Competitive SportAugust 3, 2017RIP Julie GomollJuly 29, 2017Cheater Warning Signs?July 28, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I’m a cheater and my wife is such a chumpJuly 27, 2017UBT: Will Telling the Truth Hurt Your Relationship?July 26, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I didn’t just discover cheating — he’s a criminal tooJuly 24, 2017How Can I Hurt Him to the Core for Cheating on Me?July 20, 2017Cheater Warns She’ll Regret Leaving HimJuly 18, 2017Going No Contact with StuffJuly 14, 2017Miracles Happen on TuesdaysJuly 13, 2017An Interview with Jen Waite, Author of “A Beautiful, Terrible Thing”July 11, 2017What makes you resilient?July 7, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Do I stay for the kids?July 6, 2017UBT: “I don’t handle rejection well”July 3, 2017Merit Badges for CheatersJune 30, 2017Closure Does Not ExistJune 29, 2017Dear Chump Lady, He brought his girlfriend and I lost my mehJune 28, 2017UBT: Cheaters and GraceJune 26, 2017Flip the Script — The Un-LetterJune 23, 2017This Is Your Brain on HopiumJune 21, 2017I’m Obsessed with the Tall, Blonde Other WomanJune 20, 2017UBT: “I can’t remember”June 19, 2017Strange BedfellowsJune 16, 2017UBT: Let’s just forget and forgiveJune 14, 2017Dear Chump Lady, Why does he hate me?June 13, 2017Get Mighty, Retrain in a Tech CareerJune 12, 2017Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive AngerJune 9, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry as hellJune 8, 2017Dear Chump Lady, The OW exposed the affair on FacebookJune 7, 2017Husband Is in an Emotional Affair with His High School GirlfriendJune 6, 2017Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the pick-me dance?June 5, 2017The Sentence That Changed Your Life?June 2, 2017The Decline of Tiger WoodsMay 31, 2017Dear Chump Lady, I smell a generous settlement…May 29, 2017Jesus CheatersMay 25, 2017Huma Finally LeavesMay 22, 2017Stupid Things Schmoopies SayMay 19, 2017UBT: “You’re nobody’s muse.”May 17, 2017Where’s the Karma for Cheaters?May 16, 2017Open Marriage SkepticismMay 15, 2017Happy Mother’s Day to Single MomsMay 12, 2017Emotional Vomiting and the Kindness of StrangersMay 11, 2017I’ve Got a Problem with Self-WorthMay 10, 2017Dear Chump Lady, The court wants me to say she is a “good parent.” I can’t.May 9, 2017UBT: Leaving and CleavingMay 8, 2017 Posts navigation Previous Page 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Next Page TweetShareSharePin